Drowning in Misery

@gloryacam (5546)
Philippines
December 2, 2010 9:40pm CST
There are just days when you feel that nothing is going right. You have a terrible argument with your boss, which reinforces your wanting to leave the company. But, you can't for lack of a "next job", and the bills have mounted to a point you can't breathe. Things at home are equally frustrating. There's no one to tell your frustrations to, and even if there are friends who are willing to lend an ear, they'd be judgmental, sometimes apathetic, in the end, or there's just nothing that they can do. You're so glad the past is over, you worry about the future, and the present just sucks. What is it that we should do during days like these?
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8 responses
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi. gloryacam. You should try to remain calm and focused. Prayer also changes things too. And you should look not at the bad things that are going on. Keep a positive and optimistic attitude and things will get better as time goes by.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello! Thankfully, I'm out of the stupor that I was in. I'm feeling a whole lot better these days and I pray that this peace will last. It helps, indeed, to have an optimistic attitude. The circumstances have not changed, actually, but my attitude has, and it has brought me immense peace. Thanks!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Whenever I've personally faced days like this, I think about the fact that there are going to be better days in the future. I know that there will be a time that comes in my life when I'm not going to have to constantly be concerned with my finances. In addition to that, I also know that during a time like the world is going through right now, we should be thankful for any kind of a job that we are lucky enough to have.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Thanks, I'm now starting to feel the coming of better days. Like I posted previously, things are starting to get better, and part of what got me through are the good words I got here. Thanks for all the response!
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
4 Dec 10
It's time to rethink things. Smell a few roses along the way in life. Don't argue with the boss. Agree with him. Do your very best at work then don't worry about it. Sounds like your friends need you to hear them more than you need them to hear you. Lend an ear. Maybe in helping others you can feel good about yourself. Lots of bills??? Be a person of few wants. Does a person really need all the stuff they buy?? Hardly.Don't forget to get a good night sleep every night and to eat healthy. We all have the power to choose what we deem important in life. I value that beautiful sunny day much more than stressing myself out over things that will work out in time. And all the problems do work out somehow. All my past problems have. My new ones will as well.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
As I type, I come to realize that I'm over the worst part of my "misery" days. Things are looking a bit better now, and it's all thanks to all I'm hearing here. Most things are still as they are, but I'm now well rested two days after a draining family "conference" on Sunday and I'm looking forward to a job qualifying exam on Thursday. Thanks for all your responses!
• United States
4 Dec 10
I, myself, don't believe that there is something we should do except deal with it. It's not like we are super hero's and can save the day. We are only human.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Yep, I guess I have to do that. Suck it up, hold my head high, and tackle 'em head on. Ugh. So easy to say, so hard to do... But, I'll do that. Thanks for the response.
• Singapore
4 Dec 10
I have learned that in any negative situation to just sit down and count my blessings. Even though we may be experiencing such miserable lives and you are worried about how to survive the current situation and the future ones, you need to stop and be grateful for what you already have. You already have a job and earn money (though it may be miserable). You are still alive (to make a difference to the people around you). You still have family and friends. At this moment, I think your biggest challenge is to assess whether your current job is able to meet your needs. If you pay is insufficient to pay for the monthly bills, you can do two things. Get a job with a bigger pay or cut down on expenses. Both may seem a little stressful to do. For the first one, you can start by updating your resume today and send some applications to other companies. You will never know what you can get by doing this. Look through your expenses and see how you can cut down on unnecessary expenditure to ensure that your earnings can more than cover for your living expenses. Do put some aside for savings, then you will feel better about life and everything else.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Thanks. I guess it's really about getting up and getting something done. Although at most times, I feel the song, Stop and Stare. (Stop and stare, I think I'm moving but I'm going nowhere...) And yes, thanks for reminding me about counting my blessings. I'll do that, somehow. Thanks.
• United States
3 Dec 10
Sorry to hear that things are not quite going the way we would like to at the moment. My suggestion if you are no longer happy at your current job. First take it easy and remember you need your paycheck. Begin by silently looking for other employment, not letting absolutely anyone know of your intentions to leave. As if your boss gets wind of this your boss may let you go sooner than you are ready to go. In the interim, smile and tell yourself he is a jerk and soon I getting him/her out of my life. When you apply for new jobs do not cross of the section where it says to contact your current employer, then leave in the comment area that you can't risk of loosing your job. During interviews you simply say that you are seeking for advancement but cannot risk losing your position, unless they are sure they are going to hire you. Please know you are not alone, and I so wish you luck with your future. Have hope and please be positive.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Thanks. I know I'm not alone in this situation. It just feels so heavy. And the way the things happen all at the same time is overwhelming. But, I guess, better days are coming, and I'm so looking forward to that. Thanks for the advice.
@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Don't despair, you are not alone in that situation. I suggest that you cling to your job for the time being, however , try to find other jobs that you could be sure of transferring to, when you eventually resign. Of course it should be a job that should give you a salary enough to cover your expenses and obligations. As to those bills, settle all those with deadlines first. Those without deadlines ; pay them on your next pay. Try to spend wisely, do not buy unnecessary things. Try to live within your means only. But first and foremost, ask for God's guidance and help. He will never fail you.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Thanks. I have no choice but to hang on to this dang job. I'm searching for options, but, all in vain. About deadlines, every one of them is overdue. That should teache me, yes, to live within my means. Thanks for your advice.
@TeamCholent (2843)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Step outside your mind and emotions and try and focus on something positive for 30 minutes as a way to recharge and rethink things. Focus on all the positive in your life and attract that happiness back to your life. Then take a list of what needs to be done to turn things around and work on it one at a time. We all suffering from mounting bills and lack of finance to pay for them, you will make a plan and come out of this unhurt, trust me.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Thanks. I'll just wallow in a bit what I'm feeling now and do as you suggested in a while. Right now, there's just no positive thing I could think of. Maybe I will, in a while. Thanks for your advice.