how to move on?

Philippines
December 2, 2010 10:55pm CST
..we spent almost two months together, everything was going on well until one day, she wanted a different life.. a life that i am not part of.. my cycle was too tiring; i kept on crying, wishing and regretting.. it was like i will never move on. it was just too hard, because i had built my world around her.. how can i just move on when i am still in love with her? i just can't move on.. no matter how i enrich myself, i always feel that i'm at loss, thoughts of her still hang into my mind, dragging me into a deep hole full of pain, regret and sometimes self pity.. i'm so helpless.. i just can't let go of the fact that she was gone. i still want to hold on so much , but i found myself alone.. the feeling of wanting to hold on to our relationship.. to her.. believing so much that things could still work out.. or that she will sstill come back to me and pick me out from the paind of loneliness and heartbreak.. but later on i realized.. she's not coming back.. never.. i just wanted to move on.. but how? when all the memories still lingers.. :(
10 responses
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Whoa! Sound like me. When I had my first bf, it was painful. It lasted only for few months. But I have attached my world around him which is pretty much the same as yours. Then one day, he wanted me no more. His alibi is he wanted to start a new life by searching his self first. To my dismay, he's courting another girl. It took several months before I stopped crying. It was hard and affronting especially his lies. I never saw it coming. Tears suddenly wells up even during class hours. That time, I engaged on several acitivities. My closese girlfriend helped me through those tough times. And I'm sure you could make that too as well. It's all your choice. Afterall, your girl decided to move on as well. =)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
i can relate on your experience, its like everywhere i look all the things were related to her. but as you've said, it's my choice, and i choose to be happy. wounds will not heal that quick, the pain will not go that soon, but i know, in time i will be okay. thanx for the advice!
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
You'll get through that. One day, when all depression has subsided, you'll just laugh it all out. =)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Sounds like a song, but kidding aside my friend, life has to go on. The pain is still fresh so I am sure it will come a time that you will forget her and move on with life and face your reality. For now I can say that you are still in the process of recuperating so it is still painful. But a heartaches can be mended and you need to get yourself busy in life and stop thinking and dwelling on the past. You can never face your future if you still cling on the past.
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
what was the song then?
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
it is really hard to move on when you already built your world around her. but why not go back into your own world, where she did not exist, when you have not met her yet, things you do with your own. go out, explore the world that surrounds you, things that God has created for you. remember that He has plan for you.value those things or persons you have for now, and not to look for things or people you have not and can have. if they will go back for you then they are for you. move forward, enjoy your life. never regret the love you have given to her, since you had loved her with all your heart. dont feel lonely, if you do, your letting God out of your life, trust in Him because He loves you more than that Girl could give you. :)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
yeah, i feel the need to apologize to Him because for a second, i forgot that he will never leave me in this kind of situation.. after all what happen, He doesnt give up to give me hope and courage to stand again. i should be thankful He never leave my side. :)
• United States
4 Dec 10
TIME. Time is the key. There is no doubt about it. You are hurting and you will continue to hurt for a while. When me and my ex broke up I thought my life was over, but no in actuality for me it was just the begining!
@jer2911 (59)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
kparaino, letting go is indeed the hardest part. sometimes, it's more than the idea of breaking up, i somehow believe that it's more of the fear of losing all the good times together and acknowledging that the times spent together would never come back. This popular saying that goes, "Time heals" really says a lot. you just need to recognize your situation at present without rushing things. Just like how your story started, this end would not also be an overnight process, however, just let things fade in their own time. Doing more productive things (like mylot :]) would help you diverse your thoughts and in due time, I believe that you'll also get through. stay strong. :)
• United States
3 Dec 10
If you're the person getting broken up with, the break up will always be hard. Especially if it isn't mutual. And sometimes it's harder for certain people to get a good perspective on it and let go. Unless she's providing some sort of reason or action as to why you should hold on, then you have to start today doing everything you can to let her go because, as sad as it is, she isn't coming back. :( All I have to say is: try to keep your mind off of it and focus on YOU. You were okay before the relationship without her, you'll be okay now without her. Just give it time and let yourself feel it and pass. If you don't allow yourself to feel the hurt and pain, how could you possibly let anything really go? You can't. So, if you want to think about good memories, then think about them. There will come a time where it won't hurt anymore. Time, strength, and acceptance is all it really takes. And I'm sure you're STRONG enough for all three. :) Message me if you need to talk about anything!
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
3 Dec 10
This is what I have told to myself when I get something like You. And Yes I do have feel it too. [b]Why I have to care about You, while You never care about me. Why I have to thinking about You while You hever think about me. Why I have to do everything for You, while You never do a single thing for me. Why I have to considered You as my everything while You never considered me exist. Better to thinking about my self rather then wasting my time to thinking about You. Better to keep move on and run my own life rather then wasting my time for You You who never considered me exist.[/b]
@fl0rencia (417)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
You are on the very hard part of break up after stage. That would be the hardest part but just keep on holding. Help yourself to move on. Go with your friends and hang up with them. Or keep yourself busy so you won't be able to think her that much. If that don't work, try talking to another person. Talk to different person. Don't get yourself alone. If you're not used to being alone, then don't be. Because you'll just feel more lonely and you'll just miss her more. If possible, take away anything that would remind you of her. You may not want to throw it but just keep it somewhere that you won't see it and won't notice it.
@kmaram (2535)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
This thing was happened to me also anyway in order to move on you should forget everything about him. I know its not easy and the fact that you built lationship already. But that is the best thing to do if you will think about him you will not forget him so stop thinking about him and live as he never been a part of your life. Go out with your friends and families I’m sure they will help you to forget your past. And besides they are the best buddies to lean on at this time. Well goodluck to you and you can do it, fighting!
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
3 Dec 10
It's really hard kparaino,but its not impossible.My gal friend had broken our relationship just one week ago.Now you and me are almost in the same boat.You were with her for 2 months,where I had built my world around her for 3 years.Its so deep.Its so much difficult to live without her,with all her memories coming again and again.But I have made up my mind with a strong decision that I should not let myself down because of this.The thing that really strengthens my heart is that,I am really content that I had loved her truly and crazily and my love for her was never false and always wanted to see her happy.She only wanted to leave me,in that case-she should be worrying the she is leaving a true love and not me.Now that I have my heart strong and steady that my love was true,but there is no way I could stop her memories coming back.Instead of worrying over her memories,I began admiring the way I loved her.It just gives me more of self-esteem.So now,I am almost fine with her lovely memories always haunting me and content with the fact that my love was pure and true to my conscience..Hope my personal experience could make you feel much better.You are not alone mate.There is so much people like us out there for us...Cheer up and think on the things that you are going to do next and change your worries into admiration of yourself.Happy mylotting