December 5, 2010 1:33am CST
In the past 2 weeks I have come to realize I really have to move out...this house just became to large for me to maintain...the gardens and yard [ which I did manage all along] it's now to big for me...and to pay someone to do it it's quite expensive...so I just walked in my garden [ which I planted with love and care over 20 years ago] in the back yard there are buried several pets that died along the way, guinea pigs,my lovely dog Sam, my cat Cherry and Kiddo and even my next door cat! so this place have a lot of memories, we had fun here my son's 18th... my daughter 20first, and so many Christmas with family and friends, even my 60th birthday was celebrated here! I know life have to go on [ but I Am already missing my garden] but then life it's about changes and the sooner we accept it the best we can deal with it... I guess I have been through a lot of changes in my life but this one it's hitting me harder...what do you think mylot friends? Am I a drama queen? or just growing older and silly?
6 Dec 10
You're being sentimental which I find very normal at all. If it were my house i would have a hard time letting it go too with all the wonderful memories in there. It's even difficult for me to let go of an old shaggy bag because it was given by someone special. We do get sentimental and it's very normal but sometimes we have to be practical too.
5 Dec 10
i understand the feeling. but since you wanted to move out because you can't maintain that house any more then i hope you will find a very nice house which you will love to live at. i wonder if i will feel same way if i need to leave my place and live somewhere else.
5 Dec 10
I don't think you are a drama queen.This house of yours holds so many pleasant and wonderful memories that it is quite difficult to move away from it.Maybe i too am sentimental but sometimes these fond memories are the essence of life.If moving away makes us adapt to changes of life, i think we should embrace them.
6 Dec 10
I know I'm not stranger to changes like every one I had gone through quite a few in my life including moving to other country...may be that is why I'm attached to this place so much, I think I will look on the bright side of it...new place, new furniture all that! Thank you..picjim
5 Dec 10
Hi allottodo, it is sad to leave the house you call home for over 20 years and has witnessed many happenings in your life. But since the kids have left the nest and you are suddenly left with a big space to tend, I should think you have made the right choice to move out as it is no longer practical to stay put. I have done the same thing to my property as it has become cumbersome for me to maintain it as it has a huge area approximately 4 acres. My two sons are working in another country except for my two adopted daughters who are with me and a hubby who is always on the go. Rather than giving me more headaches to come up with the monthly mortgage, I just close an eye and disposed it. My house was not without sweet memories attached to it as both my sons were raised in that house and it was a house that I planned and build before I got married. In fact my house has more sentimental value than the cash value of it. But I have to make it a history now as it only breaks my heart to think of all the beautiful memories where I once lived.
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5 Dec 10
Neither. The house is a part of you. You will forever remember it. Are you sure that you've looked into all alternatives. Maybe there's something else that you can do with the garden, something that won't take much maintenance. Is there a friend or family member that would like to maintain it? How about paying a teenager, whom would charge considerably less than a professional? Or bartering ... let someone grow and have vegetables out of your garden if they help you maintain it. I heard about a garden share program where people who have gardens let others, who don't, use a portion of it. I don't think there's any payment or exchange of anything else. The person who doesn't have a garden, maybe because they live in an apartment or very urban area, just gets to keep some or all of what they grow. You could even exchange some room and board for garden/yard services. You seem like you like your house and if you can afford it I would like to see you find a way to keep it.