Why do people not follow through?

United States
December 6, 2010 6:27pm CST
I asked myself this question because I am a person who does not follow through on anything in life. I have started many projects and have not finished them. I have been put in a position today where I am struggling in all aspects of my life, narrowing it down to reasoning of me not following through in my plans. I am making a change by writing down my goals, standards and deadlines to get my dreams accomplished. Has anyone else experienced turmoil in their life because of the lack of following through?
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@xinshunhe (132)
• China
7 Dec 10
many people would have this troulbe because of so many interruptions. i think making a small goal then accomplish,and then one by one to accomplish,in order to make ourselves used to finishing things. that might help,what do you think?
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@Hatley (164736)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Dec 10
hi right on ,thats what I have to do,one little goal, accomplish it and then the next so all of a sudden all are done
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
7 Dec 10
I have had this problem myself too, especially when handling bigger things which require greater effort and exert a greater responsibility. The reason, as I see it, why we most often diverge or buckle is: 1) Our inability to sustain living in the present moment (which in other words would amount to a lack of focus/determination); Or 2) After some time working into the project, we develop an uncertainty in its prospects, since the results are not immediately tangible but there is a growing awareness within of the time and hard work being invested day in and day out - so we start casting aspersions as to our energy being well utilized and that marks the beginning of the end. So, my friend, teach yourself that setbacks are a part of life, meant to waken your intrinsic powers lying dormant and also practise to never give up for ever, which shouldn't really be hard as I can tell from personal experience; furthermore, I also believe that breaking up stellar things into smaller executable tasks will instill you with more confidence and motivation in accomplishing your undertakings. I hope my response will make you feel better; best of luck and cheer up!
• United States
9 Dec 10
Wow thank you my friends for the responses. This was my first discussion that mylot users responded to. Thank you. I agree with all of you. I hope to follow through with this last project I am working on. There is a lot of difficulty and headache with this. I must continue my journey and do whatever it takes to finish it.
• United States
7 Dec 10
I kinda have the same problem. I guess I rely so much on my abilities that I don't actually bother to do the actual work. This then causes me to be slow in work turn out and I border on being lazy. I am striving to finish a few things that I started. Like that crochet project I keep doing and re-doing (I KNOW I got it right this time!) I know that I missed out on a lot because I tend to not answer calls or text back when an offer comes. I admit that I get freaked out easily by these things, in spite of my belief in myself. I wonder if this is chronic?
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
7 Dec 10
I used to have have a lot of anxiety because I couldn't accomplish important goals. Then I learned to simplify my life and focus on the basics. It worked. I still stress out, just not as much.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
7 Dec 10
I believe that most people will have good intentions when they begin something. They can lose interest or become too discouraged to follow through with what they start. The effort you put into something will give you your reward. If you don't have the strength and courage to follow through, it will show in your works.
• India
7 Dec 10
the no one reason why peoples do not follow though on achieving their goals is a big enough. they are not fully concentrating on there achieving their goal.many disturbance comes in front of their life which diverted their routes to achieving goals.if we all with high concentrating towards our thoughts definitely we reach to yours goals.
• India
7 Dec 10
the no one reason why peoples do not follow though on achieving their goals is a big enough. they are not fully concentrating on there achieving their goal.many disturbance comes in front of their life which diverted their routes to achieving goals.if we all with high concentrating towards our thoughts definitely we reach to yours goals.
• India
7 Dec 10
the no one reason why peoples do not follow though on achieving their goals is a big enough. they are not fully concentrating on there achieving their goal.many disturbance comes in front of their life which diverted their routes to achieving goals.if we all with high concentrating towards our thoughts definitely we reach to yours goals.
• China
7 Dec 10
I agree with you.Many people will give up their projects without any outcome,beacuse the situation is always beyond our hands.OK,that is true,but we should have to adapt the change and make some program.For myself,I did the same as you.Now I give myself a long time goal,which is divided into many short time goals.I will finish the shorts one by one,and then the long one will be accomlished.If something effecting the goal happen,I will modify the old long time goal to a new one.For the short time goals,the finished ones will be left,and the incomlete ones will be resetted for the new goal.This is my way for a project.
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
7 Dec 10
Hi blu, I was once like that in my college days. Now things have changed for I manage to finish every project I started no matter how busy I am. Not finishing what has been started leads to "turmoil in life" as you said. Its like being cast adrift without anything to hang on to. I have learned the lesson the hard way and now I make it a point to accomplish what I set out to do. If I can't do it, I'd drop it while on its early stage, in that way I don't waste precious time that seem to run out fast on me every time I have an an important task at hand. Sometimes, I do get lenient, like that mapping and profiling activity that has been sitting on my table for quite sometime now. Had to act on it now. May the force be with you!
• China
7 Dec 10
well, as I was young, I have been the same experience with u. I often made some short-term plan/target and put them down. right now, I am a grownup and recall what I did at that time. I really think writing down the goals is not helpful. furthermore , I really suggest not setting too much objectives for yourself. just one is enough. and once your objective has come true, u can find another one for yourself.and if u wanna to be follow through, make the objective realize in short term.
@lovecimi (41)
• China
7 Dec 10
I like your question because I have the similar problem. It seems that I can hardly follow through on one thing so I am getting away of my aim. I think the reason is this kind of people want perfectionism. When I don't satisfied with the result of one thing, I won't like to follow through. But the result will getting worse. So I think the most important is taking a more objective view. Don't be a perfectionist.
@Hatley (164736)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Dec 10
hi blustraggler I do tend to procrastinate when it comes to things like blood tests and doctors appointments. I have some sort of chronic dermatitis and so far have struck out so now on to a wound specialist and another appointment to ,make and schedule an access round bus trip and it all gets to me. I have to make deadlines and keep them,then maybe I can relax and start enjoying the holiday season.oh yes and then comes the making casts of my feet for new orthopedic shoes with left foot brace. cannot do it till I get rid of the rash on my leg.with me I am letting emotions get in the way of common sense. lol lol
• United States
7 Dec 10
I usually do not follow through with projects because I end up getting bored with them.
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
7 Dec 10
It sounds like you have a problem with figuring out what is important and what is not. This leads you to trying to do too many things. So start picking what really needs to be done for your work, your life, your home and concentrate on the necessary and leave everything else out.
@samafayla33 (1857)
• United States
7 Dec 10
Things change day by day and sometimes we tend to do that. Just because we have a heavy schedule and don't finish what we start doesn't mean that we aren't going to finish it. Good luck, standards and deadlines are difficult sometimes, think about it and approach it in a different way.