how often do u face difficulties in ur study life?

@smiley83 (1534)
Malaysia
December 6, 2010 8:51pm CST
hey friends... well, I am very much frustrated as it seems my life would never be in peace :( I'm a student although I very much started hating this position as being a student due to the difficulties I face from some lecturers who never seem to please the students and would always do harsh stuff like deducting marks if we elaborate more on answering the questions! lecturers who would never tell u exactly what they want no matter how much u keep on asking and begging them to do so!!! I don't know what should I do? this lecturer gave me a low grade although I am very much sure of my answers!! I wrote her an appeal letter but i'm thinking to email her although I have been advised not to do so...but, I'm very much scared and wondering what should i do?? please help me out :((
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18 responses
• India
7 Dec 10
I think every student goes through this phase and I accept same for me. I used to get frustated studying Chemistry in my school and pray god to get rid of this subject ASAP. As soon as I got a chance to leave this subject, I did it. Low and high marks are part of study and scoring process so take that positively and do not feel disappointed or frustated, I am sure once you finish your studies and start doing a job, will feel that everything you learnt during school/collage is so useful, you will thank your teacher. I would also suggest not to write email on this and try to push yourself hard enough to be at the other side. Thank You for sharing.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
hey Ajay... long time no see ;)) the thing is that, this is my final semester and that is why i'm very much freaking out... she doesn't seem to help at all!! i've been trying but she happened to b on leave and tommorw got her usual meetings with the other staff that I only gotten the coming monday:(( i can hardly wait specially when i'm not sure on how to solve out the issue!!
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 10
awww thanks soooooooo much for the complement Ajay...yeah, I really hope so..am definitely gonna do enjoy the day if the issue got resolved...I hope things would be fine...I'm really scared out... thanks so much and would update you about the news have a great weekend...
• India
10 Dec 10
be confident, I am sure you will do great in the final semester. Just think about the excitement after you are done with the final exams. You will have all the time to enjoy and go for party after exams are over. I used to enjoy after exam days like I won some Nobel Prize . Thank You for sharing.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 10
well, to know what exactly she wants and wish to every her students could make u pass this major. then u could do what she wants. i hope u can pass the exam
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
I really hope so Ifa...I really hope things would be sorted out soon :-S I'm really scared and freaked out :(
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 10
yeah it is very much scary specially when you do have confidence about your answers without expecting the otherwise might happen :-S I hope she would solve my issue by this coming monday and seriously can't wait for monday to come as it seems soooooo far :( awh ya tuhan :(
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 10
it is scary if we can't pass the exam. i am sure that you are stress now. take a deep breath and talk to your friends about this, i hope they can help you out
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
7 Dec 10
smiley83, I am sure your lecturer's action has some justification(s) and it is certainly not to make you negatively frustrated. You can always take it as a motivation to check with him/her personally, just where you had gone wrong and most of all, motivate you to perform better on the next paper. I mean, what benefits or satisfactions can your lecturer get by getting you miserable or frustrated. If I were you, I'd approach the lecturer personally and objectively. Take care.
• Singapore
9 Dec 10
smiley83, As long as there's nothing against the rules or your lecturer's practice - then, I suppose it would be alright. Just that I am not clear about your classmates disagreement of the emailing, so I would advise that you get a clarification first. Take care and have a great weekend.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 10
thanks so much...i hope things would get resolved by this monday :-S have a great weekend to u too ;)
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
yeah that sounds great if i still have courses to take with her!! in fact, I used to do the same...I used to email her and check on her at the office to assure myself with so many stuff... doing this usual routine had somehow increased my motives and confidence that my result would be so fine without having any doubts on the otherwise!! But, I'm planning to email her tomorrow as to tell her that i would be meeting her on monday..however, i'm still not sure as to whether or not i'm doing the right thing!! but, do u think i should email her?
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Oh dear, some teachers are just like that..maybe you should talk to the teacher first in private. I'm sure if you talk nicely and tell all your problems and the like he/she would understand and see your position.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
thanks sweetie... yeah I'm planning to see her on monday..she is been away for a week and hopefully she would allow me some time with her on monday as i'm very much scared and worried..this is my fnal semester and my final year project is banned coz of wot she gave me in the result slip :(
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
Ooops, I meant to say that, (my final year project is pending) not banned...LOl sorry for the typo error ;)
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
smiley dear,it seems you're always having problems with your studies huh? never fails! well,i do believe that's always part of being a student. we can't have better professors sometimes who can understand our situations,and i can't understand why professors are like that.instead of making life easier for us,they do tend to make it hard for us to face our studies and it affects our own lives. i just hope there's something or someone who can help you out in this situation. is it okay to email her for that? and writing an appeal letter to whom,sugar? if you do know what attitude your professor has,you'll know what to expect when she gets the email or letter. i just hope she'll understand your side now. i'll pray for you dearie!
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
i'm planning to email my lecturer who gave me the low mark in the final exam... her attitudes change from time to time that we hardly recognize what mood she could be at the time being LOL she is really freaking me out and i'm very stressed up coz of her..everything is pending due to wot she gave me..I'm looking forward to see her on monday but wondering on whether or not to email :(
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@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 10
heeeeeeeey babe... things are over thank God..it was a mistake in the calculation and now i'm fine with my grades :) i'm currently working on my final year project..has to be done completed in one semester :(( I'm so scared and lots of things to be done... for the whole week, was away as i was involved with scouting program and only today i'm free to start reading and preparing as we are in the semester now and things are soooo piled up as so many things to be completed shortly :( pray for me sugar
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
hello sugar! what happened to your lecturer dear? any updates about this thing? i hope to hear from you okay? wish things would be okay... just keep on praying.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 10
This happen to some of the student or my friend during when I was in the university. Is that just happen on you or some one else? I think sometime there might be discrimination that caused this in some of the local university. What you can do is to discuss or share note with some of your other races and ask them what the lecturer told them, I bet you will get some answer from them. But at first you have to be friend with them or else you will get nothing. This is just my advice if there are discrimination or else, you can just ignore my suggestion.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
yeah it is unfortunately happening to me :( this is my final semester and yeah she does discriminate a lot as this is one of the reasons that i'm facing here at the college :( thanks for the suggestion :)
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 10
yeah that is so true Yspmyl!!! unfortunately all sorts of such related stuff do happen here that is why i'm really scared of wot is gonna happened tomorrow and whether she would attend me or tell me to wait till she welcomes others :( i'm really scared :-SS
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 10
In that case, you have to mix with other races and get information from them, normally your lecturer will give them more tips so that their own race can get higher score. Good luck!
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
I hate those kinds of lecturers too! I think you should be ready every time you have a class with this lecturer. I know it's not easy to be ready when your lecturer doesn't get satisfied, but at least try to, right? You'll get over it and you'll finish the course and everything will be better. I enjoy my student life because I love what I'm doing, I love what I'm learning even I encounter problems every week but it's exciting. Just enjoy your student life!
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
yup I hate them too... unfortunately, this is my final semester for the courses before starting with the project! I took four courses with her but this course is the worst ever in my entire studying life!!! I don knw how to solve it as she is on leave and i only have to wait till monday hoping she would be available as she is very fond in hiding from students!! :-S
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 10
I have never face difficulties in my study life until when I was in Form 4 & Form 5, I develop confusing state of mind when I was in science stream and teachers are fast they never stop so at a point I don't understand but she did not explain it though. But after that my college life at the 1st year is easy. I get my diploma without much effort. But second is difficult. My teachers told other students that I don't pay my fees punctually and my friends treat me like a bad girl. No wonder sometimes teacher is so cruel. But mostly all my life I had good teachers except for the two incidents I mentioned in my post.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
awh it seems we have different ways of struggles though!! as my frustration is somehow cultivated over what that lecturer gave me in the result and coz of that i'm unable to continue working on my final year project till the issue is resolved :(( I hate them sometimes but i started hating this lecturer more :(
• Mexico
8 Dec 10
Hi smiley: I have experimented so manby times this feeling because there's always a challenge after you finish another. That's life, you'll never be in a total peace until you die and even when you're retired you'll find life boring if you don't have anything to do. My advice would be: ask yourself what should YOU do to make better answers on the subject. Just as they say: don't worry just do something to find your own success. ALVARO
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
hey Alvaro... thanks for the suggestion...yeah, that is true as we would never live in peace !!! I'm gonna meet her this monday to see what i should do..this is my final semester's result :( I just hated what happened so much :( I'm very much scared :-S
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Very often, especially at times for exams while I am still drunk and haven't studied yet. Also, it is very difficult to study when your parents are having financial constraints. I experienced that for so many times.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
well, I always prepare days before the exams..but the lecturers don't seem to help no matter how hard we study... as for the financial constraint; yeah I hate that too and that is why i work during the summer :(
@06MLam (620)
7 Dec 10
These situations you have encountered always happen in students' studies and what I would do if I were you is to try asking the others what they have written for their paper or it is even better if you can bring the question as well as your answer to another lecturer instead of the one teaching you and try to ask him to tell you what he feels about your answer and how you can improve. I hope this helps but what determines the success in study is the initiative to find out the solution/ answer that you do not know or understand.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
well, yeah u r right...this does help..I used to do that but the situation is different as what i'm encountering at the moment is the final exam result :( she gave me low grade and this is my final semester:( I need to see her on this monday as she is on leave for this whole week ugh :(
• Indonesia
7 Dec 10
Never, lol. Seriously I never experience difficulties in studying. That;s not because I'm so genius, no. I just think that study is funny. Each difficulty I found is funny. So I enjoy all the fun where I study. That explains why I love studying without worrying of getting some stresses. Yes, I study in a cool way, lol. Hopefully you can consider my way. Thank you very much.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
Waw you should be considered as the luckiest person then *_^ I encounter lots of troubles every semester LOL It is really driving me crazy as i'm very much scared and frustrated :( what kind of coolness do u do in ur study?
@jornz87 (139)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
being a students is the most lucky job.to tell you why, because you only ask money from your parents.study lessons which can be found at the books, online search.but when you work your the who support yourself. it is actual unlike while you study that you only search the answers.but the hardest thing of a student is when they are a self-supporting because you can't certainly focus on your study coz you need to work so that you can go to school.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
well, yeah it is a great job if the lecturers help us on the other hand LOL beside, I have to work to support myself as I can't depend on my parents for everything...but for the time being, I'm very much worried about what happened and i'm really praying that she would help me out otherwise I'm ended :( i'm really scared though :(
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hi there. when i was still studying, i hated it too, but i must admit that it is i who is giving myself a problem because i would usually get out of class, or just not attend the class, not do my home work etc etc. i was just too lazy when it came to "school". i would also have problems like yours too but what i would do is, go to the teacher, best time is when the teacher is free and you are not disturbing and distracting him or her from his or her work, then i talk to the teacher. when i talked to the teacher, i always give them this very sad face like i am really sorry, and that i regret doing what i did. good thing they gave me a chance too. just try going to them and ask them what you can do to make it up for your grades. i would also do that too, like whatever research they want me to do etc etc just so i could make my grades high. and just show them that you are improving in class, and hopefully they will give you another chance :) and my other secret is, i pray a lot so i can have the courage to do it.. good luck smiley83 :)
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
awh thanks sweetie... well, I used to show up my face a lot and do email them as well...but i'm really hoping to see her this monday as it is my only chance..she is been on leave for a week..my face is not only full of sadness but it is full of tears :( i'm so frustrated as i had been studying hard since the beginning of the semester and prepared myself quite early for the final exam thinking things would be fine and i did answer well in the exam..i have never imagined to get low grade!! this is what stressing me out at the moment :(
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Dec 10
hi smiley oh dear you are really scared. I think you need to see your counselor as I am sure in any school or college you are all assigned a counselor who can really help you and will listen to you so do not give up yet. there are always answers to student's problems and if you have a sympathetic listener you will really get some help let us 'know how you make out.best of luck hugs from hatley.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
hey honey... well, i'm totally freaking out these few days...u can't imagine how miserable i'm feeling and colorless my days are :(( I was planning to see her today but the thing is that, she happened to be on a leave since a week and tomorrow she is having meetings with other lecturers as it is the usual friday meeting...so, I have to wait till next monday :( i'm very much frustrated and i feel the days are passing by sooooooooo slowly that i'm unable to do a thing..unable to focus on other things :( If she didn't help; i'm then gonna meet another lecturer and if i didn't any help; then I have no other options but to meet the dean..i'm scared as this is my final semester!! but thanks so much for your help..I liked ur response :)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
For me every-time I don't understand the lesson and I don't ask why that's why I don't know it.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
well, yeah i do the same thing..i do ask and we do hv group discussions but I hate it very much when the lecturer correct the answers based on her mood & her own interest instead!! this is what i'm facing at the moment ...
• United States
7 Dec 10
Ms. hatley above provides a great solution. I would also ask that you perhaps contact your professor(s) and ask how you can better understand and or prepare for your assignments. Also the counselor can perhaps suggest some tutoring for you. Try something to make your school life a bit easier. Honey ask for help, after all no one is perfect, so the additional help will be perhaps beneficial. Good luck smiley and hope you can resolve and or alleviate some of the worries.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
awh thanks sweetie... but the thing is that, this s my final semester and the result is related to my final exam!! that is why i'm very much freaking out :( but yeah i'll be meeting her next monday as she is on leave!! ugh i hate this leaving thing during our needy time!!
@back2guw (128)
• India
7 Dec 10
well this happens in each and every educational institute or organization...the teachers are always right,if you are sure that you are right than don't argue with the teachers as they are in the powers there..well in your matter you can do one thing which i used to do when i was in school.and teachers alloted me low grades for a answers which were almost perfect..i would visit the teacher personally and ask her/him what would have been the perfect answer and where would i get it,and how can i score more marks for such types of answers..well believe me most of the teachers can't reply you with anything..
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
unfortunately though...but the thing is that, this my final semester and yeah i have to see her this monday although she would give me her silly busy excuses but i have to see her..she is been away for a week and i can hardly wait!!! i'm very much freaking out at the moment :(