Would you be willing to give up your dreams to please a new love interest?
By sender621
@sender621 (14894)
United States
December 8, 2010 7:12pm CST
We all have dreams and goals for our lives. A special someone that we meet is part of that dream or goal. Sometimes we end up having to make a choice between our dreams and the one we love. Would you be able to give up a dream for that special someone if you had to? Where would you draw the line?1 person likes this
8 responses
@frenzylady (518)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
Hello sender621! For me, if the person really loves me, then I should never make a choice between my dreams and my loved one. He/She should be willing to support it, otherwise, the person is not really inlove with me. I don't know if this is being selfish for me, but dreams are weaved within yourself, and you cannot be who you are without your dreams, so if the person met you before you had this dream, then by all means, she/he is not worthy of you. This is my opinion only. Cheers!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
It would be great if what we wanted and what we needed didn't have to stand in each other's way. We shouldn;t have to choose between love and our dreams, but sometimes we are not given the choice.1 person likes this
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
I will not force people who love me to always follow what I dreamed of, having dreams is easy, but it is very difficult to find and reach, and it's true ...., with the love, people will be willing to follow us, then what about the physical shape? While I dream things that crazy, I want to be married to Tom Cruise, what my boyfriend might have to do facial surgery? I think in this case there is an exception..
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Apr 11
No.I need a partner who will support my dreams and I'll support his. If we can't , then the relationship is doomed. If you give up on your dreams then your soul begins to die. And if you Still can go for it but you don't because of a lover , soon you may start to resent them. And then the love will die. It is tiring living with someone who looks down on your hopes and dreams.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Exactly! Not only will you lose the love you have for him/her but your dream too?That is way too much to lose.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Giving up on a dream is like giving up on a part of yourself. When a partner does not respect that you will lose more than a relationship.1 person likes this
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
5 Jan 12
I would never do that, because I figure my dreams will around long after any person will. And any person who loves me or is worthy of my affection won't dare to ask me to do such a thing.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Jan 12
Thank you for sharing your views. I never thought of a dream outlasting a lover. that is such a true statement as we seem to able to hold onto a dream longer than love interest. If someone can not accept us for who we are then they may not be a true love interest at all.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Dec 10
Hi Sender,
This might not support your point but -
To me, it was the other way. I was without a goal or dream for quite sometime when I met her and over the period... I got back my dreams, goals and even the desire to live.
Today, all of these are attached with her. I am willing to give up all of them for her because they are here just because of her.
Love does do miracles for good.
Cheers,
theSids.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Thanks for the response thesids. You defintely put a different spin on things here. It must be just as difficult to get back a dream as it is to give one up.@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Dec 10
I love my wife more than anyone or anything...
She has been by my side even when I had lost all hopes and it seemed my own shadow had left me...
@fjaril:
I have remembered your advice you gave me on another thread (from Saphrina) and it seems to be working out good for me. Thanks again for that eyeopener. I owe you this at least- 
She has been by my side even when I had lost all hopes and it seemed my own shadow had left me...
@fjaril:
I have remembered your advice you gave me on another thread (from Saphrina) and it seems to be working out good for me. Thanks again for that eyeopener. I owe you this at least- 
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Thank you for sharing your thoughts hushi22. It looks like you found happiness despite giving up your career. continued happiness to you.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
I have had my dreams before I met the special someone, and if she really loves me, she mustn't be a hindrance for me to achieve it. Isn't it that part of being in a relationship is to have someone to support you in doing your endeavors? If she is not willing to support me, then I might think twice of being in a relationship for a lifetime. I believe that relationships shouldn't be the constraint for achieving our goals and dreams, they should be giants that would lift us high to reach those dreams and goals. Thanks. God bless you! have a happy life! :D
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Knowing what our achievements are and achieving them can be an obstacle when love enters in. Knowing how to keep a relationship and a dream is so important.@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
My pleasure! T'was nice answering your post! God bless you! have a happy life! :D
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
10 Dec 10
Yes, we have dreams and goals in our life. I live because them. So, if you leave them because your lover wants this is very fund. if you lover inquires you must leave them, he/she is a egoistic person. You don't need to be interested in him/her.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Thank you for sharing your views. it is much appreciated.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Thank you for your response. Sometimes we just have to think about what is important to our future. love can't always be what comes first.