What do you do when you want to commit but your partner doesn't?

It happened to me once, but I didn`t realize that. I gave him a chance but he didn`t want to. We were in such a complicated relationship as he is my in-law`s cousin and his family`s and my brother-in-law`s family relationship is not that good. My ex faced complicated situation and pressure from his family, customs bla bla bla and after I accidentally read his short message in his phone inbox ( he somtimes did that to me), I found something, but when I asked him, he denied. then something opened up my eyes that he got someone else. But...a few months later, he sent me a message, asking"How are you?", I replied"Well, better, feel much better after you left me", the he replied"Correction: we broke up not because of another woman". DAMN!!!!what the hell???????he said"Sorry" and how he still had the feeling, but I don`t care. He is handsome, very handsome, but GOD shows me what kind of the man he is and now I feel grateful that I am not his wife. He`s still single now, not ready to make commitment yet.

My advice is to ask yourself how long you're willing to wait on the other person to make up his/her mind. If you are a relationship type of person and your love interest is not, then you are not "evenly yoked".....This means that you are clearly wasting your time and energy. You want a commited relationship whereas they are still keeping their options open by not committing to you. Perhaps they are waiting to see if someone better comes along, or maybe they have emotional baggage from a past relationship, or are emotionally committed to something else like work. Just find out how long you're willing to wait, then let them know your time frame. If they value you and don't want to lose you, they'll jump on it, if they don't....then they'll let you walk.

Hi, In order for a relationship to work out, both parties must work hand in hand. If I am in the position whereby my partner is not ready for commitment, then I would give him a time to really think about it. Sometimes, some people may not ready for marriage,it is awhole life commitment, and they just prefer to have dating going on. Of course, I do like dating life....at least no burden and not much responsibility. But for woman, we can't just go on with dating as our ages will catch up too. We may want to have own family and settle down.So if our partner is not ready for it,then we may consider to end the relationship or give some time for our partner to really consider and make his final decision. Before both parties agreed for marriage, they must really make sure they are ready to enter into marriage life, which full of responsibility and more commitment.

In my case, I want to see it through. I guess most of us want to work it out despite of what are the differences of opinions, decisions of our partners. It just a matter of time where one realize that they want to end it because they're no longer happy.

try until you see how far you can actually push yourself into seeing how important the relationship is for the partner. getting hurt once or twice is fine just to see if he's willing to work it out. if things are depriving you off your happiness and you sincerely feel its not all worth it, then its about time to end it...

Being unready to commit doesn't mean she doesn't love me although may gives a hint. But why isn't she ready anyway? Give me one decent reason or else we're done. I am an open-minded guy I always accept reasons especially when it is due.

I Would end it, Quickly. I don't understand why anyone would stay Once they Truly see that their love doesn't want what they want.Thinking " Maybe I can change him..." is a waste of time and energy. I'm living proof there is someone out there for everyone!

In this case, I would do my part without bother about my partner. I know I'll behave the way I am and she will behave the way she is, the thinking and nature of two persons will not match and both need to accommodate each other.

I think thats a tough thing to swallow to accept that someone you really want to have a relationship with doesnt feel the same way. I am in that situation I like this guy and I know he doesnt want a relationship with me. Its hard to accept that but there isnt anything else I can do. I cant force him to so I just enjoy the time I spend with him and thats that.

I have been in this situation and I put an end to that. I cant go in a relationship that I have to predict everyday where I should stand. I dont like wasting my time in an uncertain things. then after two years the guy came back asked for a second chance then after 1 month of reconciliation were married.

I have been in this situation and I put an end to that. I cant go in a relationship that I have to predict everyday where I should stand. I dont like wasting my time in an uncertain things. then after two years the guy came back asked for a second chance then after 1 month of reconciliation were married.

i haven't been there, but if ever it happens i think i will try to see it through. it's gonna be difficult though.

Of course I will menakhiri relationship, why why? Of course the relationship is not useful because there is no "suitable", yea ...., I think that relationship is not appropriate to be maintained because it is very difficult to maintain the distinction of mind. I consider it as a waste of time.

Hello sender621! Love and commitment intertwined is a difficult feat. However, if loving a person means that you want to be with him/her for the rest of your life, but the other person is not ready, you have the option to wait for the person and do whatever it takes to make him/her commit to you otherwise, if all your efforts are in vain, then you have to let him/her go before it's too late, there are many fishes in the sea and I am sure you will catch one someday, of course, this time, a person you love who wants commitment the same way as you do.