how to gain back your love ,trust and respect for yourself? when you are ruined

Philippines
December 11, 2010 7:57am CST
How can we back this things up that have been lost since the boy you loved so much hurt,leaved and rejected you?And your almost die and ruined suffering the pain he made. You've become a rebel and doesn't know where and when to start all over again just trying to complete the pieces of your life? And to start all over again,even your hearts is in bleeding and your heart became fragile. Tell me your opinion i need it,because I am broken and I think I can not be fixed anymore.
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@1hopefulman (16313)
• Canada
11 Dec 10
I think all of us face major challenges in life where we are seriously hurt. It could be we lose someone very special like a good friend, someone we love like a boyfriend or girlfriend, a husband or wife and our life is given a big blow. However after a period of grieving we have to pick ourselves up and face life again. We may need some help and encouragement to restart again. We can go to God in prayer. We can read positive things like the Bible. We can rely on the support of a good friend or we can reach out to the world like you have done here. Life does not end with a lost relationship. There will be other relationships. We just have to get ourselves going again. There is always hope and there are other good things that will come our way if we look at life the right way. Tomorrow will be a different and better day!
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Thanks you! and you are right.Maybe i just can't able to handle problems that's why i become so uncontrolled person and rebellious. Maybe, I am a type of person who just depend to someone that was special to me, If i continue or ruined mt life. I mean, if my someone special treating me so good and loved me, then I am complete and i do value my life. But,when that someone is hurting me and left me,all i do is to ruined my life.I Just enjoy so much have play games and i don't care what they might say to me. It's like I can't live my life without that someone. I don't know what I am like this,I really fight so much the pain and burden in my life.But now, I starting to dwell my problems in God and trust him ,to give me guidance and help me to move on.I hope by next day,I will see a rainbow.
@1hopefulman (16313)
• Canada
13 Dec 10
I'm a bit concerned about you. You say that you have become "uncontrolled person and rebellious." What do you mean by this? Life is very challenging and there is usually no rainbow the next day. You have to be realistic about life. You have to take control of your life. God helps us but we have to do what he tells us to do. In this state of mind you may have to find some dependable people close to you who will give you support until things get better. I hope you have some wise and mature friends on whom you can rely?
@1hopefulman (16313)
• Canada
13 Dec 10
If you go on my profile and check the website, I have written an article about mending a broken heart. You might find it helpful. All the best!
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
12 Dec 10
Fix a time with that boy and talk about the things.. One thing about boys, if u apologize for your mistakes, boys do get melt and he will accept you in the same way.. Just say, that u want to be with him and you are totally desperate without him, he will look into this.. u were lovers rite? so he would have every corners for u and he will be longing for your arrival, just a sentence ...You have to make the first move..Go call him and be together again !!
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
I've do that silly and stupid thing many times.But what I get was painful words and being rejected.If the man wouldn't love you anymore.Well, you can not please them no matter and silly things you've try.Man junks if they no longer want the things or I to be with them anymore.It's really hurt super dooper!!!!
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
12 Dec 10
I guess, even he dislikes your profile Avatar here.. Who would like their girl friend to have a profile picture like this? I take this as a silly thing... U have to change from small things.. After seeing a little change, he would develop interest again in you and come back to you !!
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
11 Dec 10
HI dear, It is quite a simple thing. Try to understand ourselves. That is what we need to do to come out of all such grievances. At many times, we get involved in many things due to our own circumstances and the surroundings only. If we have some clay mixed with water, we can make any shape with it. May be God and the devil. And name it. You say it is God. Demolish it and make devil with the same clay. So, here is the fact. Things got over and you only know how all end up with. You lost it. It is a fact. Turn around with opened eyes and you can see as many good people still around. Love is not just deserve by only one. If one lost, there are millions around you. Ok, it was an experience what you got from him. But what you didn't get are still far better than of what you lost. It is my practical experience. Believe me, now what you are doing is hitting on your own head and making pain yourself. Relax, thank and come forward, the world is wide open. Here we have a sarcastic saying, but it is really true. Don't run after a bus or a girl, if one goes, there are many to come, just wait for some time. So understand the fact and strive for a STILL BETTER one. Who ever is, show them how good you can live, and what better you can get. You should show them and be proud in front of them prove that you can still live in better conditions instead of spoiling yourself on silly things. Hope you understood what I mean. Regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Thanks I get your point. I am agree with you, but maybe as of now I can't able to open my eyes and open my window for others. I know, maybe someday better one will come along my way, or maybe there someone around i didn't notice because I totally closed my door and window.But, I will try my best to face the truth and move on.And see better thing than my past.I hope to gain more confidence and trust,respect and love for myself.Even though I know, that it's not that easy.And hard to gain the things have been lost.BuT,i will do my best and move on slowly by slowly to ease the pain. Thanks,
• India
13 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, you said. Slowly and slowly, ease the pain. That is the nature’s law and we will get strength enough to face whatever comes in our life. In fact you only how badly you hit by the incident. In everyone’s life there may be such incidents may happen all of a sudden and we will not know what to do in such circumstances. So, relax and take your own time to settle to it. Only my request is – not to jump it anything while you are affected such feelings. Always remember that when you are hot, don’t take any decisions and it may not hold any head or tail. So relax and I am sure that everything will come normal after some time. The NATURE has the power to heal all pains and you also will get healed. Relax. My prays are always with you. Best regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
give yourself to GOD and HE will show you the right way and everything will follow.
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
thanks you and i will do it. I will really try my best to overcome on it.
• United States
11 Dec 10
No boy is worth all that pain. You got to pick yourself up and move on with your life for you. It is easier to do than you think. You just got to say to yourself, "It was his loss!" Somebody else will come along and pick up where he left off. Don't waste your energy being "broken" over this boy. It is all up to you on how well you get over it. It is in your mind, if you want to let it eat away at you or if you want to just get on over it and move on.
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
yeah right!!!It's his loss but im the one who's hurting.My mind get so tired thinking of him,even he left me and hurt me. My heart wants to move on but it's always shouting his name.I really love him so much.But, I will try my best to continue my life and be a better person.I hope, i can move on quickly but i know it's not that easy.But i do it,someday!!!!!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 Dec 10
You need to take each day one at a time. You don't lose love , trust or respect for yourself overnight. It casn't be gained back that quickly either. It will take time, courage and the strength to press on.
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
yeah right..Only time could heal the pain but the scar remains. But the love,trust and respect I think very hard to gain unless you are strong enough to face and determine to move on.And maybe it's depend on the person's attitude and will.How i wish, i am a type of person who was not just let be down and ruined life when gets hurt.