Its hard to be poor..

@jordq7 (576)
Philippines
December 11, 2010 9:07am CST
Hi there mylotters! I have a very bad experience today together with my 2 bestfriends..We went to the mall then my 2 friends suddenly decides to watch a movie..Unfortunately I don't have enough money for it so I just made up an excuse..Good thing I convince them..It's really hard if you don't have enough money to buy and do the things you want. Sometimes it is very depressing that all you can do is wish that you were born rich...
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24 responses
• Philippines
11 Dec 10
are you sure your best friends? Why can't you tell them the truth? I know exactly what you mean, I struggle with my finances right now and can't go out as much as I did with my friends...but try to tell them the truth, they might have bought your ticket for you if you just told the truth...
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• India
11 Dec 10
ive been in a similar situation and i can tel you dont feel good when your friends buy you your ticket.. esp knowing you cant afford it.
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11 Dec 10
I feel the same. I'd rather go without than accept charity off my friends. That's a real blow to the self esteem.
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@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
11 Dec 10
Welcome to Mylot Jordq! We have 8 friends in our circle. Whenever one is short on cash, those who are able to add more share so that our other friends can tag along. We understand the financial capacities of our friends. There were instances though that those who can afford to pay more gets disgruntled. It is just as understandable. As for wishing that you were rich, i would say that it is also hard to be rich because you couldnt tell which of your friends are the true ones who would stick with you through thick and thin. In order to solve your problem, avoid going to malls; go to parks instead.
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• India
11 Dec 10
hi graceekwenx its really nice wat u n your frens do :) me n my frens do the same at times and it is very convenient that way.
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@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I dont know how to be anything but poor. You should have just told them the truth. Maybe they would have came up with the money to help you out. They way i feel about it is if they invited you unless they say each pays their own it means they pay for you.
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@dav20b (508)
• United States
12 Dec 10
Well you and your friends could just rent one movie then watch it at your house since its cheaper that why and just as fun as going to the movies.It could be a weakly movie night wear you and your friends rent one movie once per weak or some thing like that.
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11 Dec 10
I get the same feeling a lot of the time. It's a hard way to live, especially at this time of year. The thing is not to give in to despair. Instead of wishing you were born rich, start planning how you can get rich yourself. Find something that you can do that will earn you money, then one day you won't have to worry about the price of a cinema ticket. Other people go from rags to riches, so there's no reason you can't.
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@cssiduyz (1054)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 10
absolutely right to live without money is very difficult because the human will that has no end and always want more. and do not want to know the circumstances that happen to us. it is no wonder many people who want to be rich in order to be able to get what they want.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
11 Dec 10
hi jordq7, actually its real that being poor is hard, it because you cant buy things you want, you cant eat food you want, you cant have what you want without money or being poor, for me, to get what i want, i should have to work hardly.
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@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
11 Dec 10
Yes, that is definitely true. But I suggest you use this feeling as inspiration to make more money, so you won't stay poor forever. You can make more money, if you are just clever about it and work hard you know, so use this opportunity to get started. Then you know things will look up for you in the future at least! Good luck and don't let this get to you too much :)
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@nicregi (1936)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 10
In fact you are very right! At times, if lack of money, we will have problem trying to survive. It is very tough. I too had been in those situation where now I learn to keep more money and plan ahead for my own future :) good to have those extra money in bank in times of need!
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• Philippines
27 Dec 10
Well, I share the sentiments of everybody here in this discussion. But you really need to have a positive attitude so that we can attain that financial freedom. If we remain depressed, it's going to be very difficult to think of ideas on how to make ends meet, let alone become rich.
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 10
Yes, with money we can feel much better and happier. Earning money should be in the proper manner. We should not against our principle in earning money. We are being watched by our God in whatever we do. If we are not rich, we should work hard to earn more. We never just admire someone who is rich. We never expect someone will make us rich. We should work hard to get rich. To be rich, we need opportunities and luck. After our effort in doing it, we never try to blame ourselves again and again. God has preset our life. Take it easy, buddy.
@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
Indeed. Its really hard to be poor. In our country Philippines, we have lots of people who are suffering from poverty. Thankfully, me or my family is not located in that bracket.
@rosekiss (30266)
• Eugene, Oregon
13 Dec 10
I certainly can sympathize with you as I have been there many times. I have to watch what I spend, and that can be very hard especially with Christmas coming. I just don't have the money I would like to have to buy what I want to, but thankfully, my family doesn't want all that much, so that helps there. I am in a little better shape than I was last year at this time, but still, I certainly don't have the money that I would like to have or need. You know though, it really isn't a sin to be poor, but it is very unhandy, that is for sure. I wish I had come from a wealthy family myself, but no such luck. I have done a lot of struggling since my divorce, but hopefully, one of these days, things will get better. What really hurts is when my daughter needs help, and being the good mother I am, I will help her, but I end up hurting myself. I finally had to tell her, that she is going to have to do it on her own, and not ask me for anymore help. I think she got the message, but only time will tell. She is 35, and she has 4 boys, and she hasn't learne3d yet how to make it without help. Her husband works, but he isn't making all that kind of money, so she keeps coming up short. I know that once she can do it on her own, I will be albe to do better myself. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.
@chad257 (152)
• United States
12 Dec 10
lol
• Ecuador
12 Dec 10
I think you're not really poor. I think you have enough to eat... and you always dress up. There are people in this world that are really poor, people that literally die of hunger. So, I wouldn't call you poor. You are fortunate to be able to breath everyday. You also can eat something when you wake up in the morning, you have friends, peoples that cares about you. Think in this, you're really fortunate of what you have, you've been given so many things that others don't have. So, try to be happier about this.
• United States
12 Dec 10
Real friends understand when you say you cannot afford to do whatever they want to do. They will also be open to doing things you can do, such as window shopping, bicycling, jogging, playing board games, etc. At the moment, we cannot afford to do everything our friends do, but they are very understanding. They have not tossed us out of the group; in fact, our problems have brought them closer. They help in any way they can, even to calling while they are on vacation to see how we are doing. Don't be ashamed of being poor. It's one thing that brought out the imagination in some of our great inventors. Use your brain instead of a pocketbook to find a way to make your life better. If you find a way to make other lives better, the world will make you wealthier than you ever imagined. But, beware, being rich can be tough, too. Imagine never being able to know if people really like you or just want your money. How about, being afraid of someone trying to kidnap members of your family for ransome? Do you really want a bodyguard by your side every minute of the day because you can no longer trust anyone?
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
12 Dec 10
Hello, jordq7. Well, that is pretty sad. It happens. And yes, it is so hard to be poor. Suddenly we see people that have more money, some people that are able to do things we cannot because they have more money. I believe that is the main reason we are here in myLot, we are looking for the money. It is really hard, but it makes me happy that I can study and work hard to earn some money, and even to be able to earn money online, things that in the past weren't possible. We now have infinite ways to earn money, from Internet, to music, to doing freelancer jobs. It is still hard, I know. Unfortunately. But I make no excuses, sometimes I will just say "I'm out of money". Respectfully, Munhozmib.
@free_man (7337)
• United States
12 Dec 10
Hi Jordq and welcome to my lot. Many of us are poor and live through it and it is a hard thing when your asked to go somewhere and not have the money to do anything. If I was with my friends and couldn't afford something I would just plain say I am sorry you go ahead but I really don't have the money to spend. I don't wish I was born rich I wish I had a rich aunt uncle or someone I could borrow the money from to fix our home. I could and would work off what I couldn't pay back. But I don't have any rich friends or family that I can borrow money from. So I will still be poor and thank God for all that HE blesses us with!
@ufo126 (1)
• China
12 Dec 10
every person,maybe have the same experience .but how can every man have a great of money
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 10
I was born in a poor family and I could not get or do anything or at least most of the thing I wanted even until I started working and living independently. But I learnt to be patience and appreciate whatever I have or I get since I was very young and nowadays I'm very proud that whenever myself and other richer friend get in trouble with money and stuff, I could still live better than them. They would spend most of their time complaining and wishing they could do this and that while I keep going with life and do something about it or just be patience.