December 12, 2010 12:28am CST
hi there mylotters!!This isn't really a good day for me becoz me and my mother argued..My mother told me that she is very tired of trying to understand me and I think she really hates me. I never wanted to be like this but I always end up being misunderstood. It makes me hate myself more. I don't wanna be always misunderstood..I want to change myself but I can't. There are only few people who can understand me and not all of them are always here to comfort me..I really hate it how I wish I wasn't born like this..
13 Dec 10
hi,many things like this happened in our lives,becasue we grow up , and we have our own understanding about everthing...but in parents' eyes, you are always their children, even you are 30 years old.but in the deeply heart ,because they love you, so they care you,but the way that you look the thing is not the same...so , tell yourself,whatever your mom done is the reason that she loves you, and make a call, have a dinner , talk with each in a relax environment,tell her why you do the thing in this way, tell me the reason, you have your own opinion,maybe your mom will find that my little honey have grown up, she will be glad about that.
13 Dec 10
No mother could every hate her own child. That mother would be very exceptional. She may hate what you did but she could never hate you. YOu said you don't want to be misunderstood, then have an open communication with your mom. Sometimes we feel awkward doing it but it's really the best solution for this one. Try to tell her you really want to change for the better and you need her help and understanding and please apologize to your mom for whatever pain you have caused her. I'm a mom too and yes sometimes my son disappoints me but I'm more disappointed in myself because I was responsible for molding him into what he has become. I know he's young at 6 but i'm completely blaming myself for his rude behavior sometimes. But I try my best to be open and understanding to my son because I want him to grow up trusting me with his problems.
13 Dec 10
Do not blame yourself too, because not only you have it. and always think positive to be able to solve every problem that afflicts you. because the problem is something that can change our behavior to get worse and try to change it to make it better and can make the people you care about being happy.
12 Dec 10
Yes, I agree with zenkey. If I were you, I would just pull a chair and sit down with my mom and settle every bit of the problem once and for all. And you know what? The sweetest words that your mom would like to hear from you for sure is "I'm sorry mom", and sure enough, this would lead to a better understanding from both of you.
12 Dec 10
Well this kind of misunderstanding always do happen to many people dear, and I'm really sorry that it is happening to you too. This always happened to me since I also have many sibling in my family. But at the end of the day, I tell myself that I do not need everyone to understand me for me to keep living and whatever they do not like about me, it was not my choice but their decision to hate or dislike me. I actually sometimes rather be away from the person for a while especially if I'm not interested to understand the person too, and this always happen between me and my sister. We have a lot of differences and perception of life and she loves getting more attention from people why I love being alone at some point and have my own space for many things. I hope you will feel better soon
12 Dec 10
Even when I was kid I used to feel that nobody likes me, but gradually when I started growing up and realised that there are so many things to get worried then thinking about who loves us and who hate us. So take it in a positive way what ever the argument is. Never be bothered about anything. Lot many things are to be looked at.