She is too young to get married?

This is really taking back to the stone age or the ancient practice which is hard to digest now. in our place the legal age for girls to get married is 18 and if there is any compulsion from others to force the girl to get married before attaining the legal age is legally banned.. 14 years is very very young...She would not have attained the mental and physical health to contribute to the married life.. This is not the correct way.... Is this a Republic/Civilian country or Communist country?

Hizands, This is indeed a sensitive issue. Child marriage system is stillprevelant in India bur these are the activities that are carried out either due to misbelief or social stigma. Your case, as you have stated that the girl is willing and one side of the preachers is standing by her the marriage is obviously on the card.

ALways thought kids getting amrried that young was very wrong really they arent really ready for mature life. BUt one of my sisterinlaw s got married at 13 and so did her daughter. at that time back in the hills of Tenn lots got married young. SOme styed married others got out of the marriage the parents didnt say a thing about it GUess back in those hills and so many kids that the parents had was glad to get rid of a mouth to feed but a law has been pased there now that they cant even date till they are 16 at least.

She is too young and I wonder if she is enamored of the man or whether she thinks by doing so, she would be helping her family. Fourteen is too young, and even though there are some girls who are successful and marry young, that does not apply to the most of them. Her husband would have to be extremely patient for her to learn to do housework, and that is hard to do. I really do not like it when people assume that young teens can be parents and make a good job of it. That rarely happens.

Personally I don't agree to a marriage under the age 18 whatever the reason, unfortunately this is still often happen, especialy in developing countries, like Malaysia, Indonesia (my country) etc.Even in my country there are 12 year old girl marriage with a man 45 years old. It is miserable and inhuman

Your right a 14 year old girl is not that capable of having a family most specially having a baby. It is because there age is not the right age to engage in such kind of situation. A 14 year old girl most be in school, happy with her same age and under parents supervision. Mostly the relationship don't as a good relation. As the time it will end up into break up, due to mental & emotional changes.

I agree with you, friend. The girl still called young and has no mental capacity to get married in such age. Even do all individuals has the right to choose in what they want to be in their own life but still the state have the right to protect their citizens from any differences between husband and wife which protect the family values, moral and good conditions. Her in our country. Before the 1973 constitution marriage is settled from the age of 14 to girl and 16 for a man. Because this law is also under the mohammedan law which our civil law adapted. But it found out that those ages increased the number of husband and wife being separated which they reached adulthood. It found also for parents in those age for lack of responsible parenthood. That is why the legislators amend the law and increase the age requirement as scientific base of calculating adulthood which is 18 for a girl and 21 for a man... I think your government did not allow this to happen. Because the girl is found to be lack of knowledge and responsibility. That is tantamount to denial of opportunity in the part of the kid. Which the kid must illegible for good education, opportunity and dignity

hi zandi, i pity the girls who marry very young because they do not pass that stage of puberty wherein they enjoy life as teens, and single. it is like they are born and then they suddenly are old. not all kid bride are responsible to handle babies. that is what i can say. have a nice day. ann

hello zandi, What's happening on earth nowadays? And what made that 14 year old girl think that she has all the right to marry,okay it is her right if she insists,but where are the parents? Does she has any parents to guide her? Or,her parents even give the consent?e What the h*ll with those parents to let their daughter marry at that age,she's still a baby and how can she be a mother,a wife and ughhhh@#$%&**@# Here in our country,young teens are exploring things,but the law or church never allows a 14 yrs old to get marry. If accidentally she get's pregnant,let her gave birth and put into a counselling home in preparation for all the responsibilities and to lighten her mind as well. A marriage is never a solution to the problem (early pregnancy) But with your discussion,it is the girl who is shouting for her individual right to get marry (shocking).

And, just who determines puberty in any one given person? This is totally wrong.

Hi Zandy!. I think we had such controversy like thats in my country when rich sheik married to 12 years old girl. This man was very rich and the girl family seem not mind to marry their little girl to this man. Their religion allow this young age marriage as long the girl already had her menstruation. What really sad is this young girl married to 50+ years man and become second wife. This case had many protest from human right activist and this case bring to court and this little girls insist thats she love than old man. Can you imagine 12 years old girl talk about love.

Oh my god,a 14 years old girl marry to a 26 years old man.It is unbelievable in the world.Malaysia is really a strange country in the world.I think the girls who want to marry should have the age of 18 years old

Sometimes the feelings and right of human violated by other right such as religion and culture. Such event the freedom and feelings of a woman are abused, even sometimes parents are arranging their daugther to marry young. They are not really ready to face such responsibility. Instead of studying and enjoying life being youngster... I don't know thier mentality really, sorry I just express my feelings... see you around

I do not know about this country's law but all i know that might be another reason behind the story.maybe this girl is trying to get away from home or the boy is rich and a good catch for her.like i said i don't know anything about this story.Yes definetely too young to get married in the first place or have babies it is even worst.

At 14, I couldn't imagine getting married. I definitely think it's too soon. Even 18, 19, 20 is too soon in my opinion. But you never know. It could work out,a nd the couple could be totally happily married...But I feel like most couples who get together this young, without experiencing other people and LIFE in general, just end up getting kind of.. shafted on this deal. I'm 20 years old and I am in NO rush whatsoever to get married!

As a mother of a 13 year old daughter, I can't even begin to imagine how she would be ready for marriage at 14. Of course I also have two sons, one 15 and the other 22, and neither of them would be ready for marriage either. I can't understand why a 14 year old would even want to get married, unless she was coached my her parents into thinking she is ready. I do understand that in some cultures people get married young, however, that doesn't mean that emotionally they are ready for a commitment like marriage and raising a family.

obviously, syariah law doesnt forbid this.. but, well, marriage will just make it harder for that girl to continue her studies, even for secondary school.. its her decision.. maybe she just dont want to go outside and earn something for herself but to be an engineer, a domestic engineer.

according to me the most important is prepare mentality and healthy primarily for the girl because married not just simple but many things can change to your life

I do believe that it is morally wrong thing to do, YOu can;t do that!!

They corrupted the mind of a 14 year old girl. She must be playing still with other youngster.