You and your character.

@saphrina (31739)
South Africa
December 14, 2010 6:02am CST
Hi all. I heard this quote today and it got me wondering. When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. Now, how is it possible. You cannot be judged by your friends or people you hang out with. Each one of us has our one character, we are unique in our own special way. Why looking at friends to see a person's real value? Do you do it? TATA.
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@vandana7 (66842)
• India
14 Dec 10
Thank god they dont judge intellectual capabilities... I spend quite some time out here with a dumb blond...
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
14 Dec 10
Let them judge, Vnnie. I honestly don't care anymore.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 Dec 10
-Pokes head over- and says hi .. Hi Aunt V ..... meluan and saph . . Cheesy , perfect day to say hi to you all .. long time no see. Whose the dumb blonde I wonder , hmmm...
@vandana7 (66842)
• India
15 Dec 10
@Mel - sweetie I agree... if I were not "a bit" dumb myself - I wouldnt be wasting my time trying to cover up for the dumb blonde... @saphy - I agree sweetie... you know why your judgment carries no weight...and that is the right spirit considering the circumstances...keep it up. @Zed - hi kiddo... long time no see ... as to dumb blonde ... you wont believ it... sufferina...
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 Dec 10
Saph , this one it would have to depend. Sometimes , we can't judge an individual from their friends , but sometimes we can. For instance , if you see a group of rowdy bikers vandalizing , chances are the whole of them are just hooligans. LoL .. Like they say birds of the same feather flock together. But not all , if like in a group of friends doing normal activities .. we can't say this one is the same like the other one. Their hearts may never be the same , ever. If one is stingy , one is kind. One might be fearful , the other one brave. That sort of thing. No two is the same , .. so it really depends. But in most situations , it's good not to judge the character of someone by the type of people they hang out with. Usually .. Here's a smile for you===== I just hope myLot has a nice rose or something .. .. this will do for now .. @@@@=====
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I get that, but we ain't suppose to judge people are we? No matter who or what you are or who you hang out with or who you are freinds with. We as humans don't have the right to judge. Thanx for the smile though. TATA.
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@vandana7 (66842)
• India
15 Dec 10
@Zed - as usual your responses are so well thought out...
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
17 Dec 10
Thanks , Aunt V .. you are the sweetest .. Saph , you are right .. we shouldn't judge at all times , and that's why it's important to keep on giving people chances. If only everyone in this world is like that and have a heart of gold like you ..
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
20 Dec 10
I do think that their friends can be pretty telling, if they are a bad lot, chances are this person isn't such a prize either
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
20 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I have to think about this one though. Chances are that this one is the best i know, though. Thanx. TATA.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
20 Dec 10
Well, remember, a man isn't a project, he is what he is. If he's good, then he'll walk away from bad friends, unless he's there as a missionary...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
21 Dec 10
True sweetie. But it's sometimes hard to figure out which he is then.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Dec 10
If nothing else, you might be able to look at a person's friends and determine whether they are a good judge of people. :D
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
14 Dec 10
Most probably Dawny. At least that made sense. Thanx. TATA.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Dec 10
Well that's something!
@vandana7 (66842)
• India
14 Dec 10
Saphy - you really understood that? @Dawny - something is better than nothing, isn't it? Anyway, I doubt if Saphy got it...
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@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 10
sometimes we looking friends- in our unconscious mind- because she/he is similar with our character. my friends all are quite but humorous at the same time. i feel comfort with this kind of type person. they are describing me too. maybe that is the quotes means
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
27 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Most probably the meaning of the quote then. Hope people don't do this often though. TATA.
@shibham (17025)
• India
22 Dec 10
No never. Everybody in this world is unique and too hard to judge by others. Unpredictable. sure.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
22 Dec 10
Hello Shiby. I agree with unpredictable. We are not allowed to judge people. It's not our place or job to do that. Thanx. TATA.
@Arteta (77)
21 Dec 10
Thats an interesting quote, i think i've heard that before somewhere. You know where you got the quote? Yes, people have their own character, but you usually hang out with people who have the same interests, ideas as yourself. If you were a goth, you wouldn't start hanging out with hippies would you? Thats just an example. If you wanted to get to know someone's character, then just get to know them then.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
21 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Welcome to mylot. I got it from a marketing site i belong to. Someone posted it there. Nice example you have there. Looks like it doesn't help to have your own character then. You will be judged with whom you hang out with then. Thanx. TATA.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
You right, friend. No one have the right to judge someone else by their own looks. We are all human that needs to be respected and no one should allow to discriminate us... But we don't avoid the facts that there are people that really like them...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Thanx for agreeing. That's a new one. TATA.
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
We cannot tell exactly the character of a person based on their friends. But, we can get a clue from there. It's the old saying birds of the same feather flock together. If a person hangs with criminals , our impression as well as our judgment that maybe that person is a criminal as well...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Yip, but still so unfair to judge people like that. I honestly don't get it. Someone should try that one on me. Not a good idea. Thanx. TATA.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Dec 10
hi wow if people tried to assess my character by my friends they'woyd be so confused as I have young friends, middle aged friends and friends my own age and we come fromn different walks of life. so how c an they tell what I am like from my friends? I think that quote is really silly as we are not people to be pigeonholed like that. I sure do not do that as I can sort of tell a person's character only after I have know him or her for awhile.Like you said we are each one u ique there is only one of us so learn to know a person first.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Dec 10
Hello Hatley. See, i knew it. You have to get to know someone first, no matter who their friends are. Thanx sweetie. TATA.
@jenzai (390)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
It's the same with tell me your friends are and i will tell you who you are. In my opinion it has something to do with behavioral association that people tend to be with someone whom he/she has the same values, attitudes and likes. This may be the rule and the exception are those you have mentioned with unique personalities.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Still strange for me. People just cannot be judged by their friends. Thanx. TATA.
@hati3kuro (278)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 10
In every words there must be a part of it which is true... come to think of it, we befriend someone because of several reasons... some because of benefits, but others are maybe just for company... I'd say that if you really want to know what the type of person you are, you don't just look at your friends, but your BFs... these guys really reflect you are inside, because apart from the reasons I've mentioned above, we also befriend somebody as a complementary mechanism to the patches that we may have... say I'm a type of person who always feel insecure, then I would rather be with people who can protect me... children always cling to their parents because they feel safe that way, when they grow up, they have other necessities, which make them search for friends or other people in order to fill these necessities.... That being said, I have no best friends yet so far... ^^
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. With that being said i think it might be it then. We always need to have those around who can be called a replacement then. Funky. You will get friends, no worries. Thanx. TATA.
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
15 Dec 10
Hi dear, Even though it is not fully agreeable, we can find out why someone forced to make such a comment. A calf goes to his mother cow, a child of cat always remain with its mother and not with a dog or rabbit. Also, to take a back we won’t go to kitchen but take bath in the bathroom only. Here people think that a man is not with a good character, there is a major chance to go with such a company. Also, a good natured and chartered buy won’t prefer to remain with a faulty friend circle and would prefer to go with some good friends. In this natural phenomenon, any can predict like this and we cannot blame them due to this matching. But human beings are belongs to a thinking nature, we cannot always say this is correct. Even though a person having good nature has to indulge with some other people where those are not necessary to be good. But if we observe, he will not prefer to stay them long or won’t be mentally attached too much. Thank-s
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Nice explanation you got there. Thanx. I think humans should start to broaden their thinking though. TATA.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
15 Dec 10
Hi saphrina we have a quote in spanish[ which will read like this[ in english][ tell me who do you hang out with and I would tell you who you are]well you know what? I don't believe in it! In my life I happen to hang out with soooo many different people but it never affected the way I Am...but then that it's me, other people are different and get influenced by the crowd they hang around with.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I don't believe in that either. I don't judge so others don't have the right to judge either. We cannot be like others no matter how hard we try. Thanx. TATA.
@calpro (933)
• India
15 Dec 10
Hi, It is a very old saying to judge a person 's character by his/her friends. It does not work in today's world. We all have different characters and we behave differently with different people in different conditions depending upon their character. I might be very good to my close friend and help him whenever required because I feel him close to me. I may not be the same with my office colleague or my neighbor. Character is something what you are doing when nobody is seeing you. That is the real character and it can't be judged by looking at your friends. In my opinion today's people character can't be judged so easily we all try to hide something behind a mask. Happy Living Calpro
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. That hiding got me curious here. Why would people hide things? Thanx. TATA.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
14 Dec 10
We are all different but I am wondering if it means that if a man is always with drunken riotous people then he may become like them? I dunno really. Some truth if it is with teens as they are more easily susceptible to being influenced into not so good activities. I don't think that the saying is a truism though.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. Must be for teenagers then as i don't really get it. Thanx. TATA.
@Memnon (2173)
14 Dec 10
You will now know me to be frank. I prefer your previous avatar. That is an interesting concept. I have no friends. I have work colleagues, and that is all that they are. I do have internet friends- and I have met several in person.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
15 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. That one will be back next year, i think. Better to not have such close friends. It keeps you out of trouble. Thanx. TATA.
@Louc74 (620)
14 Dec 10
It's similar to an old saying here - If you fly with the crows, you get shot with the crows - meaning you'll be judged by your friends actions just for affiliating with them. I'm with you, though, I think we are responsible for ourselves and nobody else. Unfortunately, it doesn't tend to work that way and people do make judgments if you're hanging around with "a bad lot".
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
14 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I just wonder what those people will do if we start judging them. Let them feel that a bit. Thanx. TATA.
@akp100 (13327)
• India
14 Dec 10
hi I had heard about the same in past.. But i never tried for it.. I guess it can't be work.. As I know some good people having not that good friend.. Some time work may be....
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
14 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I get that a lot. People are like that. Thanx. TATA.
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
We are with our friends, but you can never judge us as one...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
14 Dec 10
Hello Prime. I never judge people. It's not my job. Thanx. TATA.