if you had a workmate flirting with you would you tell that to your lover?^^

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Portugal
December 14, 2010 1:21pm CST
hi guys if you had a workmate flirting with you, would you tell that to your lover?^^ about me i would tell. i think that we must always be honest. if i had a bf i would like also to know if he had some girl flirting with him in his job place. so sure i would also tell him^^ some people say i dont want my lover to be jealous so rather dont tell but i think we should always tell so i would for sure what about you guys? would you tell? please share Cat
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27 responses
14 Dec 10
If a workmate of mine was flirting with me and if i had a lover then no i would not say anything at the start. I would talk to my workmate to clarify to them which they should already know, that i am in a happy relationship and so not interested in them. If the workmate doesn't back off then i would tell my lover what is happening as you never want them to get the wrong idea, maybe she would say something to my workmate, something different would need to be done if they didn't bother to listen to what i had to say. Always best also never to keep secrets or things from your lover, always best to be honest.
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• Portugal
3 Jul 11
your answer is so true craigy^^ you are a great and honest guy. for sure we shouldnt keep secrets from the person we love. im happy that at first you would try to clarify things so maybe you wouldnt need to tell. but if the person didnt back off then would be good that you said the truth to her so she would be sure you love her.. there is always confusions if someone tries to get the person we love and if you hide that and she found it out for someone else.. then would be much worse.
• United States
18 Jul 16
Yes, I would tell my boyfriend. If someone was trying to flirt with me at work it would be shut down fast by me just simply because I don't like people and wouldn't respond to them. Plus I would tell my boyfriend anyway because if you don't then they will think you are hiding it and that something is going on when it isn't.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
30 Jun 11
Well first, I don't do 'lover', I do wife or nothing. So would I tell my wife? Yes I would likely tell, but first I would likely inform flirty girl that I'm taken, and make it clear I like her to stop with the flirty behavior.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
Yes, i too would tell my bf if someone is flirting with me a workmate or even others who i know outside of work. I am always open to my bf to everything actually and this is one of the things i open up to him freely and completely. I feel like if i open up with these kind of things, he to will do the same with me. "Do unto others what you want other to do unto you." It's just flirting, i won't be flirting back because i am honest with my bf even if we are far.
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Why would I? Having someone in the office flirting with me makes me more attentive and busy(just kidding). Definitely I won't tell, let her discover on her own (kidding again). Keeping such thing like that to ourselves isn't dishonesty nor being unfaithful. There's nothing wrong as long as we don't flirt back.
• India
15 May 11
It many a times depends on how your BF/GF would take such a thing. if he/she is cool bout such things and such conversations could lead to a good laughter and after that it is forgotten then it is fine but in case he/she starts doubting you and falsely accuses you of something outside your control then its better to just keep quite about it and let life go as its going on.
• Singapore
15 Dec 10
Yes, I would prefer to tell everything that happened to my partner. Why should I lie to her? I don't like to lie when it comes to my partner. Although I'm not dating right now, but next time when I have a partner, I'll tell everything to her so that she doesn't misunderstand easily and the trust between us will grow even stronger.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Dec 10
I would not be good at hiding my feelings. My lover would see that something was bothering me. I think it would make me feel better to let my lover know what was going on.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
15 Dec 10
In my case I tell my boyfriend when someone flirts with me. I don't really have anything to hide from him, and he's not a jealous person, so he never reacts in any bad way. I think that in any relationship it's important to be honest with each other, as if we start hiding things, the other person might sense it, and that is one of the reasons why they start getting suspicious something bad might be going on, and why many relationships end up bad.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
15 Dec 10
Hmmmm thats a good One.I will let the flirting One do her deeds and would see to what extent she goes.I would definitely introduce her to my beloved one and observe there boths actions and reactions.If i get a chance I would may go for the kill with the Flirty one. You Undertsand what I mean. Have a Nice day
• India
15 Dec 10
Well I love my girlfriend and I don't hide anything from her and even she tells everything so I would surely tell her about this so that in future tere is no miss understanding between us...
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 10
Well if the girls is pretty as the one on the picture i will run away with her :PPPP Well first i will stop the person that is trying to flirt with me and well thats all , i might tell my gf if it was funny but something boring i don't know if will bother her with useless information :P But well if she asks like : Something intersting today :P well it was interesting someone showed interest in me (rofl rofl)(beside my gf ofcourse :P) :P Well if she ask - i tell :)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Yes, I would tell my bf if someone in my workplace flirts with me but I won't elaborate on it to my bf or he might think I am also interested in this guy's attentions.
• India
15 Dec 10
ofcourse , if would be at your place as it is worthless to any chance in case of love.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 10
I agree with you that nothing pays like honesty and if one is 'honest', s/he tends to get a firm goodwill and credibility and one's reputation goes up. Cheating or doing such things lower one's dignity and reputation.
• India
15 Dec 10
Hello, If you're having a healthy relationship with your boyfriend, then there is really no reason he should get jealous about it. Jealousy represents obsession and possessiveness. If someone is flirting with you in your workplace, then the first and the most normal reaction would be to share that incident with your boyfriend. This is necessary just to have him well informed so that no complications arise in future. Now your revealing the truth to him may sometimes ensue a conflict between you and your boyfriend, but that would only strengthen your relationship even more. While telling all this I am assuming that your boyfriend has a flexible mind and has high level of self esteem. Because if he lacks anyone of these things, revealing truth may lead to immediate bitterness or even separation. Thanks. God bless you.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Dec 10
I love flirting without relationship and always enjoy, as per telling to my lover of course I will. Now you tell me one thing if your Lover tell you about such incident will feel jealous or .......?
@Fooder (5)
• United States
15 Dec 10
Id just punch him in the face and drag his body to a cave where i would slam him with my long john dong over and over again while whispering in his ear "NOW YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS" in a very loud and harsh tone. After I splurge a rocket launcher nuke onto his naked bleeding hole I would then shoot him in the head and leave his corpse on his mom's doorstep.
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
I think I should. I don't know. Maybe I just want to be honest with my significant other. Besides, she also tells me whenever someone is trying to flirt with her.
• China
15 Dec 10
i will quite enjoy this things if it happen to me.i think it's a pleasure of the boring live,harmless and healthy.the key is you can controll the process not let it going so further.