Do you have confidence in yourself?

@luckycat (220)
Bolivia
December 14, 2010 7:28pm CST
Hello. Are you confidence? Are you shy? Can you talk to a stranger? Can you make a speech in fornt of thousants of people? How can we get more confidence?
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15 responses
• India
15 Dec 10
Hi, I am confident about what I do and what I say. But I don't say it unless it's extremely important and relevant. People who know me often conclude that I don't do or say anything without a definite purpose or motive. That makes me less of a sentimental and more of a logical person. I don't usually talk to strangers unless they are related to me in some way. When my friends introduce me to their friends, I often mix up well with them. Some say, I talk with passion and force. If that has any truth then I guess I will do well as a public speaker, though I haven't ever tried speaking 'in front of thousands of people'. I think the essence of confidence is very simple. Just be yourself and don't pretend someone or something that you're not. When someone is passionate about whatever he's doing, he will do it with immense confidence and flamboyance. Thanks. God bless you.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hi, High self esteem indeed!
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
OMG! i got 7 star in my 100 on YOU!! hahaha! SO nice to see a star beside our name!!
• India
15 Dec 10
Why do you need someone to give you stars? All you have to do is just believe baby
• Singapore
15 Dec 10
When I was small, I used to be full of.......low self-esteem. Not high self-esteem LOL. After my parents sent me to a boot camp or should I say, motivational camp, my self-esteem and confidence built up quite a significant bit. Now I have much more confidence to talk and speak up. Now for your topic, I would really like to challenge it. I want to boost my confidence even more.
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@juneevee (106)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
I am both, confident and shy. I can talk to strangers if I have to like asking for directions and something like that. But initiating a conversation to a complete stranger is not me. I'm confident of things that I do, and things that I can do. Its just that, I'm not the type of person who talks first.
@suni51 (2989)
• India
6 Jul 12
Yes being shy is another matter, but when it comes to business matters I a not at all shy. I love to talk to people with out any shyness although I am shy while I talk to girls, that is different.
@bird123 (10518)
• United States
15 Dec 10
Practice makes perfect. Example: If you were to give a speech in front of thousands, you might be very nervous. However, if you gave a speech everyday in front of thousands, wouldn't it soon become so routine that you would actually get good at it? Things to remember. We are all wonderfully unique. There is no one in the universe exactly like each of us. That makes each of us special regardless of what might happen. Next deep down, we are all alike. Until we get the practice in, we are all scared. I once asked a wise man how professional people get to be professional. They fake it and act like they know what they are doing. Sure they make mistakes but the mistakes make them smarter over time until they know what to do regardless. So when you see someone really confident and knowing just what they are doing, realize they were the screwups of the past. So dive in and start swimming. There is no other way to do it. Soon, you will start to see those unwilling or still scared to swim.
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
15 Dec 10
wow.thank you for ur great commend. you made the point.thank you so much.that relly helps.
@dodo19 (33307)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Dec 10
I have to admit that I don't have a lot of confidence. I do have some confidence, and I am also somewhat shy as well, but under the right circumstances, I do have some confidence and not as shy as under different and new sorts of situations.
• China
15 Dec 10
haha,the same to anyone person!
@suni51 (2989)
• India
6 Jul 12
That is my business to talk to strangers all the time, so I never hesitate to talk to any one. You see being a marketing professional makes me talk to new people every day and I always think in my mind that I know about my job and product fully well that makes me confident.
@jibriel (25)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 10
when i am young,i dont have any confident at all .i am very scare to talk to other people especially with the other gender ...huhu..but now i am big enough and did not scare anymore and i got my confidence back.
@livre1 (34)
• Brazil
15 Dec 10
Hello I'm not "shy" more depends on how you define "shy" I can speak with several people right now if I grab a mic I imagine it'll take a while to get used, this time until I figure out how to use a microphone can occur in I get "shy" because I can mess up, however when I figure out how to use the microphone that must end. If the person is "shy"and she starts talking slowly she will get used often, and one hour she has lost much of its "timid". As a person learns, and is gaining age she will discover that the "timid" can not continue.
• India
15 Dec 10
I am bit on a confidence side. I feel when I was young,I was very shy person.But now slowly started getting confidence.But speaking to thousand of people has become difficult, so I need to work on this part.
• India
15 Dec 10
hello luckycat good question. am confidence or not confidence. yes if every thing goes well then confidence ok. if goes against till confidence but if goes worst then lost confidence are you shy. yes am shy. no am not shy. yes because because its my habit from child not moving with new person closely. no shy because some time i move well with new person nowadays. can you talk to stranger. yes i can. no i cannot. yes i can talk to stranger if he did not move well with me. no i cannot talk to stranger if he does not move well with me. can you make a speech. yes i can make a speech. no i cannot make a speech. yes. i made speech before during my study time in an auditorium before audience. no i cannot speech before audience in public meetings since i have no experience in it. how to get confidence?, good question, motivation is important, to get confidence. positive thoughts is important. action toward ideas or dreams is important. group discussion makes you to build confidence in your self thanks for your question. hope you get little bit answer in this.
@reploid (1346)
• France
15 Dec 10
Yes, I have a lot of confidence, but it was not always this way. I think it comes with age and also with practice.
@calpro (933)
• India
15 Dec 10
Hi luckycat, I can say Confidence is my strength. Because of confidence and trust in God I am still alive today. I have faced most dangerous moments and situations many troubles and problems, but still I am struggling with my life because of my confidence and trust in God. I say proudly I give my problem to God and ask him to give me courage and problem to solve it. It was answered many times and the more it was answered the more confident I am. I am an orator and a speaker too. Forget about the result and do your actions you will gain confidence naturally. Happy Living Calpro
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
15 Dec 10
I have a little bit of confidence in myself. Now, when talking in front of a group of people, there will be nerves. Their is just bound to be nerves, plenty of nerves to say the very least. It is just one of those things that are going to happen, where I get nervous. I think the best way to gain confidence is to just go for it. Therefore I just get rolling and I'm fine. I think that the wait is worse than the actual event a lot of the time.
@prateek2 (28)
• India
15 Dec 10
Hi, i am very onfident but the confidence you talking about that going and talking to a stranger then i am very shy.i will think for 10 mins decide should i or not and its realy dificult for me.But in exams competions i am alwyas cinfdent :). The speech think i dont know beacause i never had to to it but most propably i will be nervose and shy. For more confidence i suggest that "just do it" means don't think about, it the movement you think u will start losing confidence. try this and share you experience her or u can pm me if u fell shy LOL. thnx
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hello luckcat, I must. I have to be confident at most time. Confidence is like giving trust and certain to yourself. Even how i felt shyness deep inside but the nature of my job needs me to borrow confidence in order to gather people and facilitate whatever needs arises in the community under my responsibility. I felt joy and used to talk to strangers but if ever that stranger knew who i am, i felt shy and stop talking. heheh. and topic changed. hahaha. Giving a speech infront of bunch of people doesn't need a mere confidence at all. It needs a lot of it, the guts, the courage, and braveness and firmness in facing lots of different faces. But the bottom line is you need practice and when you are accustomed to in giving speech it can be as spontaneous chat with a sense decent delivery. Good luck for your up coming speech!!