Does Religion Matter when it comes to Love or Relationship???

@cecelgay (563)
Philippines
December 15, 2010 1:43am CST
A very complicated question yet a very important thing to think in entering in any relationship. Does religion really matter? A friend ask me if it does because He was turn down by a woman he's in-love with because of that issue. For me actually it matters, because i believe that if you have the same faith in the same God you're relationship will become more stronger. How about you... what's your opinion?
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17 responses
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
it really does matter for me... most of the person who knows my belief always ask this question to me.. i'm a Christian who faithfully follows our church doctrine. i found serving GOD as the greatest endeavor in this world. the most important thing for me. i would not love a person more than i love GOD. that's why it took time before i met the man who love me so much and would be willing to be with me. i turn him down because of our age gap and most because of my belief..i can't be with someone who is against with my belief. at first his reason why he go to our church is just to observe and he want to please me of course. but for several times attending our church service he realized the importance of what is being preached at the churched. the importance of serving God. now he was converted not because of me but because of JESUS. now were just waiting for GOD's will...
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Hi Blue_Raine, I agree with you and as a fellow christian I salute you having that point of view, " I would not love a person more than i Love God" What a great word to hear from a believer. I am happy to read that you win another soul. God Bless you....
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
Praise the LORD.. and he was thankful to God because according to him I was God's instrument for him to be saved from the lake of fire..his testimony is uplifting.. God bless you too.
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
well, we have different beliefs. but for me, it will only do matter for the fact that you want to live with each other with the same belief in a relationship. but i have known a couple who are happily married but living with different religion. but still they manage their life with their children the proper discipline of living. but for me, as long as you believe that God exists, no matter what kind of religion you've known in your life, things will be in its place just for the simple faith and love you have. :)
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hi nereidiane, I somehow agree with you having the same belief in relationship. Please don't get me wrong in using the term religion because what i mean in "Religion" is either Christianity, Muslim, Atheist, etc, and if you mean that religion is either Catholic, Born Again it's just the same Christianity so we're on the same side that as long as we believe in the same God things will be ok.
• Canada
17 Dec 10
Most protestants believe Catholicism to be kind of borderline Christianity because the Catholic church teaches things that aren't in the Bible. If you're officially a Catholic, take the Bible seriously but don't go along with not using contraceptives and praying to saints etc. (my wife's like that, now we attend a Messianic synagogue) then you may be OK with a born again Christian. If you're always going to confession, saying rosaries, pray to the appropriate saint when your computer crashes, don't use contraceptives etc. it probably isn't a good idea to get involved with a born again Christian. A Catholic who goes to church once a year and thinks John the Baptist started the Baptist church, you probably won't be happy with a born again Christian either. I suspect most born again Christians would agree with this.
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
for me, true love preceeds religion. if you realy love a person, u shud luv him/her head to foot, embracing his whole identity and that includes anything that separates you and your opinion. besides, i see a lot of couples living happily even if they dont have the same religion, as long as their is respect.
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hello Caduceus, it is true that there are some couples who successfully embrace each others whole identity, but they are just few, they are those couples who conquers each differences, and they truly love each other , what ever it takes.
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Yes, it really matters in every relationship that you both share the same belief or faith. It makes your relationship more stronger. but sometimes it also depends on both partners but it is always one of the main factors why relationships last.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hello.. Thanks for the comment. I agree with you . Very well said .
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Depends. If you don't really care what G-d thinks, then obviously your religious views shouldn't make a difference. However, if you believe as I do, that G-d matters a great deal, and what the creator of the universe says is important, well then clearly G-d should have prominence in your relationships. Therefore, for me, what G-d says matters. I happen to be a Christian. The Bible is clear that I am not to marry someone who isn't of my faith. I can not marry a Buddist. I can not marry a Muslim. I can not marry an Atheist. I can not marry a Taoist. I can only marry another Bible believing Christian woman. Now I can be friends. I have Muslim friends. But I can't marry them. Doesn't matter how cute they are, or how nice they are, or how pretty, or smart, or moral they might be. I don't even consider it, because G-d's will for me is more important than what I want. G-d first, Me second. And yes, I do believe that having compatible belief systems results in a closer, deeper, more affectionate relationship. But even that is second to G-d. He is who is important.
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@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
In my case, it matters. My family is very much devoted to our religion and I don't want to deviate myself from them because I'm also very happy and contented with my religion.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 10
it really does matter.. cause it's hard to let two people be together if they are not sharing the same beliefs.. it may cause conflict and start a debate.. religion is one of the most sensitive factor in a relationship..
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
yeah I agree with you steph.. it always cause conflict that cause debate and argumentation.
• United States
16 Dec 10
In my relationship it has never been an issue, I am Jewish and my husband is Christian and we have been together for over 20 years we each have been to each others place of worship and celebrate the holidays for both religions, neither of us preaches to the other we just accept what is, our kids are still young and we teach them to accept all faiths we have taken them to both Church and Temple, the oldest one who is 12 wants to follow the Jewish religion and my youngest is still to young to decide, but whatever they decide we feel is ok as long as they believe in G-D.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I guess it is good to be the same religion/faith, but I don't think it is necessary. Sometimes I think it is the way you are raised. We had many different faiths throughout our relatives, we respected them all. I think if everyone respects each other faith, then it should not make a difference what religion you are when in a relationship. The problem comes when one member of the relationship insists that the other person change religions. Otherwise it the respect each others religion they will either go to each others church now and then, or go to their own church for services. This definitely can be a difficult situation.
• Canada
17 Dec 10
There are some religions, including Christianity and Islam, which believe that only they are right and everybody else will go to Hell. A follower of such a religion can't respect other religions. They may think it's right to allow others the choice of religion (although Islam is often opposed even to that), but they will probably argue with people and point out problems with their religions and why there own religion is better. Some people (particularly Muslims) are inclined to fight and kill people because of religious differences.
16 Dec 10
I do not see why religion has to play such a big pat or even any part in a relationship. Sometimes it is good to be different, it is not as if you are saying that you don't believe in god and so you expect your partner who does believe in god to stop going to church. Religion is religion, we all choose ourselves what we want to believe and who we do or don't want to believe in. Aslong as there is love, trust, respect then i see a good relationship there. There is much more to life than religion. That should not cause problems just because we have different beliefs from our partner, it doesn't make us a bad person. If we all thought the same way or believed in the same thing then we would live in one hell of a boring world. Love conquers all.
• Canada
17 Dec 10
This sounds very nave. If neither of you take your religions seriously, it doesn't matter. If you do take them seriously, then it becomes very important. There may come a time where your religion will dictate career choices, if you're going to have (more) children, if you're going to make a stand that's likely to get you killed.
@junil_jk (498)
• India
16 Dec 10
i'm not religious. but that doesn't mean i don't believe in God. i do. but i don't follow any specific religious methods or ways to believe in Him. i just pray to Him without name, without restriction, without any set of rules...i just keep Him in my mind. so, i don't see the importance of religion in a relationship for me. my partner may follow whatever religious way she likes because i don't have any problem wih that. so, she may be from any religion if that's that u call. now the question is about what people around u will say and how will they react. simple. just don't listen to them and don't bother at all. afterall i've partnered another human being just like u, me, them. it is quite impossible to get rid of the confinements of religions so it will always be there to hinder us in our lives. but i'm not religious and i won't be.
@bernjane (143)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
No matter what your religion are it doesn't have to do with your relationship with your partner.
• Canada
17 Dec 10
I think that's very simplistic. Is a Zionist Jew going to have a good relationship with an Al-Quaida member? I don't think so! I'm not sure they'll stop trying to kill each other for enough to have a romantic relationship. A Methodist and an Anglican would probably be a different matter.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I believe the same way you do. I can speak from experience. I was studying with Jahovah witnesses while dating someone that viloently opposed to it. When you stop doing celebrations they try to force it on you. How much easier it would be if the couple believed the same thing.
16 Dec 10
Personally speaking,for me it does not matters.But as i live in India,which is a multicultured subcontinent,i see many of the people show great concern about it.We have seen many filmstars ,Sportsmen,& famous personalities doing inter-religion marriages and they are living happily today.the best Example is Shahrukh & Gauri khan.Yes ,it affects your social life after marriage(hugely),but really does not matters when u r in LOVE.Talking about your friend who was rejected by the woman,I think he was turned down ,may be because the woman din't loved him,Or she was concerned about their social life after marriage , because the Society in which we live in does not supports such kind of bonds .In India ,such relationships are not supported.this is a good question to ask .AS I myself ,is the victim of this Question,because I was rejected too by the girl whom i loved the most,just because I Don't belong to her religion.
16 Dec 10
hi cecelgay, well for me,maybe in some instances it matters, because in love you will accept that person inside and out, and there are some people who have different religions succeed in handling their relationships and in their marriages. It's just between the two people involved if it's really matter, but for me it matters so that we will understand each other in our views.
• Brazil
15 Dec 10
yes, it matters, and even if love is something strong sometimes religion can make a big trouble and interfer in the relationship.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
15 Dec 10
I agree that it is a complicated question, and it really depends on the circumstances. If it is a matter of two different religions, I see it being more difficult, because how do you raise the children, how do you reconcile the beliefs with the children. I do have a friend that was raised by a jewish mother and a catholic father. They were raised jewish, but still celebrated the santa aspect of christmas. As they got older they got to choose. With my husband and i, I feel the need for religion, while my husband does not. I am raising my child with religion and that is fine with him. We do not have conflicting ideas as such, just different amounts of involvement.
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
15 Dec 10
Wow! A big question indeed. I believe a certain way. I believe in Christ's second coming, salvation and such. My beau doesn't really get into it. I do remember somewhere hearing that You should both believe to be together. He kinda throws the idea around. He doesn't pray at dinner but asks everyone to say what they are thankful for. I, on the other hand, am thankful, however there are prayers that need to be said and faith in that prayer. We argue about this from time to time and I think that is what makes us not so compatible. To be honest, I won't marry him until he believes the way I do. That is selfish on my part, but after trying to convert him to just believing, this is not going to work. I think I am just surviving being here some days.