You Have Right to Divorce Your Husband....??? (if so thats sad)

@Tushavi (2078)
Karachi, Pakistan
December 15, 2010 1:47pm CST
hi to all well, if you asks here in my country, peoples says a big "NO", Women have no rights to Divorce their Hubby, i also like this law, Because for me, Women & girls are very weak to choose something, I don't know I am old Minded or so??? But I like my culture, here when any girl got married a mother message to the Daughter "WE LIKE IF YOUR DEAD BODY CAME FROM YOUR HUBBY HOME TO GRAVEYARD" that's means you have to leave your parents forever girls are allowed to meet them, but the girl/women Real home is her hubbies home, fellows what your thoughts about it??? have a nice day
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15 responses
• United States
15 Dec 10
Well, setting the culture aside...stick to the source. Why would there be a reason for divorce? If there is infidelity, then obviously, the woman should have the right to make that decision. The marriage is a covenant, a contract held equally by both parties if you will. Secondly, if you have the right to be married, then you have the right not to be. Women should have the right, although I am not an advocate of divorce - in fact, I think its terrible; but at the same time, trapping someone in a relationship because of 'culture' is wrong too. There should be legitimate reasons for divorce...there are only 2 according to the Word of God. 1 is infidelity, and the 2nd is abuse (physically)...if your spouse is using you as a punching bag, it's time to go! If he's sleeping w/everyone but you, it's time to go. But this other crap about, 'we fell outta love' 'irreconcilable differences' come on now. Marriage is a miracle; you are taking 2 selfish people, putting them in the same home to like each other! God has to be the center, or the marriage will be in big trouble over time.
@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Very well said, Pastor!! We take divorce far too lightly. It is easy to marry and fairly easy to divorce and neither should be easy. I've known couples that have been married 50 years or more and they admit that they didn't love each other the whole time--it ran in cycles, like everything else in life. But they liked each other so had a base for a relationship. I'd like my culture to return to the attitude that divorce is shameful if no for the two reasons you cited. Perhaps people would take marriage more seriously then.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
16 Dec 10
What about the husband, does he have the right to divorce his wife; and if so, isn't that just as sad? I don't know what the rules are in your country, what happens to the wife if her husband divorces her? Why do you think females are weak when making choices? God has told us how husbands and wives should treat one another. If couples followed His teachings, there shouldn't be any divorce, so it's sad no matter who gets the divorce.
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@PastorP (1174)
• United States
16 Dec 10
May God greatly bless you bestboy19 ! I encourage all to look objectively at, in a good translation like the KJV or NKJV, what the Holy Bible says about this matter. Did He who told Peter to forgive 70 x 7 authorize divorce? I think not. Please see http://petemacinta.bravehost.com/ma19.html on this matter. I had just logged backed on to MyLot when I saw this comment on my MyLot home page. Again, may God bless you bestboy19 .
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@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
18 Dec 10
Thank you. God has blessed me through our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ just as He has blessed you and all who will come to Him.
• Canada
16 Dec 10
This is the most sexist drivel I have ever heard!!!! What the hell makes you think women are weaker than men? Old minded does not begin to describe this. If a man has a right to divorce a woman, a woman should have the exact same right to divorce a man. It is men like you who have kept women in the dark ages for so long, and will continue to oppress the ones still too ignorant, who follow your teachings. The only weak women out there are the ones who think you're educated!!!
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
In my opinion, most women are more wise in making decisions. Most men take the decisions, based on emotion. I think like this, not because I am a woman. But I often see a woman make decisions more wisely than in males. But still all go back to the private individual. Every woman has different properties, as well as men.
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• United States
15 Dec 10
I can understand your culture but at the same time I see women as strong and able to make their own choices and I believe its for the best that they are able to file for divorce if need be. There are far too many men who raise their hands to their wives and it needs to stop a man who hits a women is worthless in my mind they arent men theyre cowards. Anything that can be "solved" by hitting a woman can be solved by sitting down and talking it out. And if it cant be solved why should someone be forced to stay in a relationship they dont want or dont like. In my country every man and woman alive has the right to choose where they end up in life, sure we cant predict how everything ends but we can make the choices to get to the ends. I think a huge push needs to be made for womens rights world wide.
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@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
16 Dec 10
While I was reading your post the word troll was coming to my mind, and I hope you're just trolling, as nowadays keeping that way of thinking is just ridiculous. If you aren't trolling and just think like that, well, you're free to live in the Ice age, but don't expect women to respect you if you don't respect women
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• United States
15 Dec 10
Tushavi- I disagree with this line of thinking,though I respect that it is a part of your culture. I grew up in a culture where women have the right to divorce their husbands, and make their own decisions. We do not have arranged marriages (save for a few that perhaps hold to their former countries culture) in America. Though some faiths here teach about the woman leaving her parents to go to her husband this does not mean she is merely property. We have a great deal of laws that protect both partners in the marriage, but also the woman. I will be very honest with you that I hope women rights groups help out more countries because this ideology of " women and girls are weak" is very archaic and certainly not the truth. We know from studies done in the area of intelligence that women are actually smarter than men when it comes to math and science, but because of gender typing have not been given the chance to excel. Women are very strong individuals and I believe very much in equality of the sexes. Namaste-Anora
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
20 Dec 10
good thing I don't live there and I don't marry anyone from there my husband and I are equals, none of us is master or slave decision is made based on both our opinions, not one if he can divorce me and I can't divorce him, well I won't bother marry him I was doing just fine being single anyway my life is actually more hectic after marriage !
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
20 Dec 10
Being a STRONG woman, like a lot of women are, I'm glad I don't live where I don't have rights. I'm glad that if I ever got married, I would have the same rights in the marriage as my husband. And if I don't have the rights, he shouldn't either. Fortunately, I don't have to follow that law, not living in your country. Because I certainly do NOT like it, one bit. Words can't describe how much I can't stand that law. Especially if men do the right to divorce, while the women don't. So, I'll just make sure to check that the women in a country are treated like human beings and not cattle before I even think of visiting, let alone ever living there.
@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
17 Dec 10
If a man can divorce a woman, than a woman should be able to do the same thing. I honestly don't need some FOOL telling me what to do, I can do that JUST fine myself! Yes, I am a woman. No, I have NEVER been married. I moved out from my folks at 22 and never looked back.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Dec 10
What if he's abusive?
• India
16 Dec 10
I really welcome this culture, but today's society a girl has to face lot of problems in her husbands home, in case he is not a good person. Since ladies are well educated now, they deserve to stand on their own legs and have all the right to lead their own life. So I feel when a female is not happy with her husband and in laws it is better she divorce her husband.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
16 Dec 10
Hi Tushavi, Our cultures are very different and although there is far too many divorces in my culture, I feel that women and girls are only weak when they are treated that way. When given an equal chance in life, they prove themselves equal to men in every way. I feel that neither of our cultures are perfect but will eventually improve. Blessings.
@Rescha (3)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
Acctually. men or women are the same, they both have the right to beliave and not be forever women and girls have alway been weeks, do not at their point of view of women but women are Human.
@youless (90398)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Dec 10
I think it is not fair that females have no rights to divorce with their husbands. Today the male and female shall try to be equal in many aspects. If the husband does something really wrong and bad to his wife, it's totally fine for his wife to divorce with him. Although it is a sad solution. But perhaps it is better than spending the rest life with such kind of man. This woman still has her future and one day she may meet another right man. In my country, I think it is really unbelievable that woman can't divorce with her husband. Woman can do many things in today's life. I love China