turned out to be a parent is very difficult

@advokatku (4033)
Indonesia
December 15, 2010 4:38pm CST
Have you ever experienced your child does not follow the advice or your suggestions? upset? me too. If I can hypnotize, of course, I wanna hypnotize my child to keep, listening and following the advice I have given. Of the many resistance shown by my child is if he told to learn but he not wanna, like have not the spirit and have not motivated to learn. And more very more annoying, he was addicted to playstation, TV and internet ... Oh God .. turned out to be a parent is very difficult
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@ukyo895 (10)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Parenting is a hard task. Being a parent of a young child, I know the feeling of not being paid attention to. But the thing that most parents forget is how they behaved as a child... they think that what they did was fine and that they were probably good children. But if you ask your parent(s) the same thing you are wondering, they may say that you never listened either. Becoming upset is normal, but getting constantly upset is a sign of a lack of growth as a parent. Children do not listen like adults, so don't expect them to do so. And, yes, distractions for children are becoming more normal - but don't forget that parents asked for these distractions (such as playstation, TV, the internet) so that they could be distracted from their children and/or their children would be distracted so that they wouldn't misbehave any longer (at least for a short amount of time).
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
I like your response and it seems I must ask again to my parents about how they taught me when I was kid
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
Yes. You are right. Being a parent is very difficult. We need more patience, in dealing with children. Sometimes we can not keep emotions. Your problems are faced by many other parents. I also experienced this. The key in dealing with children, is patient and always gives light.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
yes, as parents, we really have to be patient ... in this case, I am only passionately
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Dec 10
oh no you do not want to hynotize a child as you want your childr to be able to think for her or "hinmself just want her to obey, get a idea of what your child is really interested in then show your child how learning can be exciting as he can then read about his interest in say computers, and build on that as a learning tool. Each time he listens sort of tell him or her how well they are doing sort of a postive way as opposed to anger and recriminations and you both will feel better too. hope this helps.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
thanks, aunt Hatley. I'll try it and hopefully your suggestion can help me
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Dec 10
You are very right that it is quite difficult to be a parent. My children are now at more of an age where they really like to test their limits and it really is something that drives me crazy. However, I also know that as long as I keep talking to them and I'm sensible with them that though they may not heed the advice that I give to them the first time, there will come a time when they need to make a decision between right and wrong and I would like to hope that they will make the right decisions.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
For me yes now a days because of the trend but to manage it you must love Jehovah God his law and you can find it in the bible by reading it and comprehend it to your child they know what bad thing they are now in this time.
@sam3m1 (190)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Watch this space. It gets worse. Different, but worse. We have 13-19 yr. old grandchildren with the Playstation problem, as well as a 47 yr. old son - same problem. We've found that having children really doesn't have an up side. Certainly some will say how about when they graduate from school, or have done very well at something, nothing can beat the feelings you have. But, if you don't have children, you don't miss these things at all. Since there are no do-overs in parenting, you have to do your best, but you do owe it to others to warn them about having kids. Unless they're your own kids. In that case, their having kids of their own is the only revenge you'll get.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
Hi Advokatku!. I think I have already give a trouble to my parent too in my stage of growth. As a child I will give you tips to control your child. I think most parent not realize how their child totally depend on them economically. You can make money really tight for your kid if they fail to get good grade, at thats will continue until they got better grade. You and your wife has work together on this so no one will give the money without telling the others.