Tired of being what everyone wants you to be?

United States
December 16, 2010 8:09pm CST
Why do we restrain ourselves to being what everyone wants us to be? Some people argue that they aren't what everyone wants to be, that they are forced to be something they aren't. Truth be told no one is forcing you to be anything. Its your choice to decide who you want to be. But I'm just curious to know, even though we feel that we can be who we want why do we hide behind a mask in order to fit into society's idea of being "normal" or simply living up to the standards of those around us?
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10 responses
• China
18 Dec 10
Wow you got me thinking,maybe the lacking of courage,the shy and the other realistic facts etc.I think not everyone want to be special,there's people who want live theirs lives normally and guaranteed instead of taking some risky motions.Just like you mentioned the society just like a giant furnace which in it all of your bold ideas all your spirit of adventure will extinct.The world was lead by some giants whom are in a tiny minority.As for us,just live our life happy whether it was chosen by you or the other people.
@dodo19 (34023)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Dec 10
What you are saying actually makes a lot of sense. It's very well said, in my opinion. We think that we're forced to be something, but we really aren't. It really is probably all in our subconscious.
• Ecuador
17 Dec 10
Well I try to live what I feel. I try not to live just how others live, or be like others are. I also dislike people who live like they do just because they want to seem like others.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Dec 10
It is a difficult enough struggle when you strive for what you want to be. It gets to be more of a hardship when other people expect things from you. It can wear you down.
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 10
Well to be honest I have been fighting all my life to do what I want to do and what I want to be. Though some people dislikes it and think it is not very good for my future but at the end of the day, the energies that I spent for my day to day life is not theirs. They probably think that whatever is good for themselves will be practically good for other people too. But I just don't believe that because we have a different ability over different thing. Good luck and have a nice day
@karenviv (15)
• China
17 Dec 10
I want to become a bird,if I have a special function
@zaga_cleuth (1409)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
Stop thinking of being other people. The best solution is be who we are. Do what you want. The world doesn't need us just to conform with others.
• Indonesia
17 Dec 10
I will try to answer with as i could, Maybe.. We are in hiding feel ashamed to show off. Show our true ability,because we do not feel confident.. That idea from me.. Hopefully useful.. :)
• India
17 Dec 10
Well, lets get bit deeper into the mind of people who force you in doing things according to their will. Some of them are genuinely concerned about you, like your parents. Some of them just want to give a superior air by spreading away words of wisdom. You can just ignore the later type of well-wishers. Now about the first category, some of them really want your life to be fulfilled in every way. Sometimes they have some unfulfilled dreams in their own life. They want you to advance that dream. That is how the grow expectations on you. There will always be such expectations grown around you. You need to depend on some expectations and you need to ignore some other. This is life.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I agree with your description. We know what we want to be, and we want to be who we always want to be. I am not hiding, and I just don't like people trying to label me, or make me do something that I don't want to do. That is my life, I have the absolute power to choose what I want to be and how I want to be.