So a friends girlfriend is coming on to you. How would you handle?

United States
December 17, 2010 8:46pm CST
How would you handle the girlfriend of a good friend coming on to you without being rude. She's a nice girl, and I try to be her friend too, but she keeps flirting with me, and trying to come on to me. In any other situation I would be completely digging this, but being that she is dating a good friend of mine I don't know what to do. I want to be friends with both of them, and I don't want to break the relationship up. It can be a pretty uncomfortable situation.
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• United States
18 Dec 10
If I was in this type of situation I would tell the girl that you value her and her boyfriends friendship and if she does not stop, you will personally go to her boyfriend and inform him. I am afraid to say that if she does not you need to make a decision as to whether or not to tell your friend. I would at this point as my friendships are valuable and I would not want to have her get the impression that I like it, besides what happens if your guy friend finds out this has happened and you never said anything. So best to tell her to quit it or you will personally tell. Good Luck.
• United States
18 Dec 10
This was pretty much what I was considering doing. I've had a brief conversation with her on the subject, and basically told her she's a nice attractive girl, but what she's doing isn't right. I told her she has a great guy who cares about her, and I would be betraying my friend, as well as ruing something good in her life. I haven't really talked with her too much since that conversation due to work schedules, but if she continues to flirt with me I think I'll take your advice and bring up that she needs to either chill out with all of this, or I'm going to have to say something to Steve.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
1 Jan 11
If the feeling is not mutual, you will want to stop it right away. prolonging the inevitable just hurts everone in the long run.
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• United States
18 Dec 10
Hi, If I were you in your situation, I would go to your good friend and explain to him about this. However, handling this kind of situation is different for everyone, so my best advise is just to go along with your thoughts and decide what actions would be the best for all of you. Good luck!