Who are you again?

@shattered (1728)
Philippines
December 19, 2010 6:30am CST
I met someone I knew that I knew and we even had a short conversation but I could not, however hard I try I could not remember his name! I couldn't even recall whether I met him in high school or college/university It appears it would be harder if e met each other with companions as I would not know how to introduce him to anyone! Has this ever happened to you? What do you do when it does?
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14 responses
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
the other night, while attending our company's year-end party, someone asked me to dance. for the life of me, i could not remember his name although his face was vaguely familiar. (i blame the poor lighting because the whole ballroom was dimmed for the dance. lol ) though i gently refused, he started chatting with me a bit instead. then while chatting and mentioning other familiar names of our common acquaintances... it came back to me where and when i met the guy. hehe i just had to jog my memory a bit. most of the time i'm quite good at remembering people... more on the faces though than names. lol
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
yeah, with so many people that we sometimes meet, remembering all of them needs some work. unless of course i get a business card or i have them listed in my mobile fone's phonebook... then i'm likely to remember easily. but with groups and the introduction so fleetingly quick and hardly noticeable at all... hehe i doubt if my memory would serve me well. yup, lucky i figured out his name in time. hehe and i'm not likely to forget now coz since getting my number, he must have called a dozen times and sent thrice that in messages on my mobile fone. i'm hoping he'd give it a rest til christmas at least so i can breathe. lol
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Wow! You must have really mesmerized him in that dimly lit dance floor! Yeah mobile phonebooks have really changed our lives sometime though, I believe thats the reason for our poor memory
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
I'm glad you were able to figure it out! I try to do that as well, try to jog my memory through the conversation but sometimes it just doesn't work! Faces are easier to remember for me as well. Its matching the faces with names thats hard, especially when they were introduced to me as a group.
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah. This happened to me several times and my friends always tease me because of this. I easily forget stuffs: people and the names of people, a lot. I also easily forget events, and also those "very significant" events are retained. LOL. If you ever met each other with companions, just smile and not introduce him. XD
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
That is one option! It really does happen to a lot of people and knowing that makes it easier to admit to someone that you forgot his name.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Oh, this happened to me a million times. You see, I've had acquaintances since kindergarten who just happen to remember me until now. Unfortunately, they no longer ring a bell in my memory, so I just go, hi and smile.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah people we haven't met in a long time sometimes just short circuits our memory recall and it so hard to connect the faces and names. *sigh*
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
hello shattered! it was just last night that i had experienced such a situation. This woman whom i had met a month ago seated herself beside me during a party. As i was with a friend, i could not introduce her to my companion, for the life of me i could not remember her name then. since she got to talking with me and no matter how hard i try to remember, i could not think of her name, i went straight at it. I asked her straight forward how to pronounce her name as i did not get it straight the first time. She told me it was Nancy. It was really hilarious. i had often been caught in the same situation before because i always forgot names of acquaintances who i barely see.
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Wow that must have been awkward! You could have gotten away with it as well if she only had a difficult to pronounce name! But I do think you were right in asking for her name. It would have been more awkward if she catches on that you didn't remember her name
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 10
Oh yes this has happened to me many times with different people. I usually just straight away ask their name again and saying sorry for not remembering it well and at the same time I would give a very friendly smile showing that I was happy to meet the person again LOL. Usually this help me really fast and well. Thanks for sharing and have a nice day
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
I guess if you show them that you are happy to meet them again they would be less offended if at all. Thanks for this, I will try to make it a habit in case I forget any more names, though I'd rather not!
@jornz87 (139)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
it happens to me many times. i met a college classmate in a mall, he talked to me i remember his face but i really don't remember his name.he called me with my last name but i was so ashamed that i could not say his name coz i don't really ha an idea what's his name. then last Friday, there's a car stopped in front of and the driver open his window then say hi!..he looked so familiar to me but i don't know where we,what's his name, how we met.it's really shame that he/she could say my name but me, i could not even remember what's his name and all i can do is say hi and smile.answer his question but i can't asked him anything or something coz i don't know what to ask.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah it is an awkward and embarrassing moment when we forget someones name. It really is difficult to deal with though we try not to offend them by being friendly enough
@MAllen400 (829)
19 Dec 10
yes I had it happen to me but the person started talking about my husband and by the time i could get a word in I knew it was too late for me to ask who it was. I tried to take in every detail about him so that I could describe him to my husband when I got home but even after describing him perfectly I thought my husband did not know who it was either. To this day we dont know who it was and have not met him since. One of lifes mysteries now.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah its hard when it happens. I'm the type that cant go to sleep when I'm trying to figure something out! That would have been very difficult for me, especially when there is a long before seeing that person again. But then again life goes and when we meet them again we are at a loss again!
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Hello Shattered, It's hard when you don't remember some one if you have known a lot of people in you're life.. I remember some people since child hood but unfortunately, they never fully remembered me.that's fine since they have gotten to know some people as well. But what surprises me actually is that my crush in elementary was actually working on a cable company in our subdivision. I thought she look liked her but when she asked me about the school i couldn't believe it.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
That must have been a pleasant surprise! HBut really it is confusing and embarrassing at the same time. I'm really worried about offending them though...
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
I thought this only happens on me.Many instances happened that someone would talk to me and left me with a big question mark who was it?haha..well as this always happened to me so I learned my lesson well that I would ask their names before we part ways so I wont end up in a sleepless night reviewing my memories of acquaintances.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah it happens! That is a good idea... I should just ask for their names right? But its hard! It is somewhat embarrassing, and I don;t want to offend anybody by forgetting who they are. But then again I'd rather not have sleepless nights so I might just as well ask them for their names. Thanks.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Dec 10
Far too many times than I can count. I'll be honest, unless I see a person on a regular basis, I could know them for years and might not recognize them off hand. It is really an awkward situation and I hope that there is a situation where I can figure out who they are, without revealing that I do not look who they are. Still it is frustrating when this does happen. Very frustrating indeed to say the very least.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
It is frustrating and embarrassing at the same time. I don;t like the awkward situation and like you I try to figure out who the person is through our conversation. I hesitate asking them their names for fear that I may offend. However, Maybe asking them immediately is the right way to go about it though.. still thinking about it!
• United States
19 Dec 10
Oh gosh yes it has happened to me several times and I am ashamed to say. My memory is immaculate but when it comes to names and titles my mind goes blank. When I have to introduce people and can't remember names I try to say hello everyone I want you to meet my friend and when the friend whom I can't remember the name immediately says hi and introduces their name. I find this has helped in several times, but do not know what I would do if I could not get a way with it. Be so embarrassed I suppose... LOL
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah it really is an embarrassing situation. Awkward and difficult to swallow And I tried that before but it only works if you are introducing someone to a group! I really don't want to offend anybody by not remembering their names.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Yeah it happened to me and I was really disappointed in myself for not remembering the name or where we met, but i knew the face since it's really so familiar. I just try to recall and try to remember all events in my past to picture out the face and think if i could remember the name. It's really difficult and embarrassing though, but my grandpa told me that you just have to pretend that you do remember that person. If you have to introduce i would pause a little for that person to fill in the blanks ahahah!
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
I guess it happens to everyone! Sometimes I pretend as well and the difficult part is when you have to introduce them to someone. Letting them fill the blanks is a good idea though! thanks
• Malaysia
20 Dec 10
At my place we sometimes read a person by characters or signs. What we understand is if a persons name is so difficult to recall it is a sign that that so and so is a very calculative person. It could be an advantage as assets will be piling up but you want shopping you might have to use your own money ...
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
So that means if a person is not easily remembered it is because he calculated it to be so? What I do not undertsand is how it could be related to shopping? Does it mean that having these people around would be good for me?
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
I experienced that. What I did was I told him a story that will made him tell his name. Somewhat like a game.
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
Sometimes I do that with people when I have the time, and when I know from where I met him/her before. In this case, I could not recall from where I met the guy either! Maybe next time I'll take the time to figure it out