Change what you can't accept, Accept what you can't change

Hi dear, There is certain psychological reality behind it. We are sure that it is not possible to ‘make it happen’ and it is a tedious job for and never be able to do in the life time. We know this fact. Thinking that it is not possible and if we try to do it your attitude is negative and you will not make any further attempts to do so. Whereas assuming that you can do and strive for it, the meaning is different. You are trying and trying and there is a hope for try for tomorrow even. This is a simple logic and there are a lot of things working based on this principle. Change what you can't accept, Accept what you can't change – Again, these words are meant for those who have specific view on certain things. People have a pre determined concept or view with some of the things around him. Never do a try or make an attempt also won’t be there. There is a child at my home. She never eat a particular dish what my mom makes and she never touched it. We all like it and it is so tasty and how much she prepares, all will finish at the first sitting and nothing will remain for a next round. This child never eaten or tried to each and we all compelled, but never she eat it. One day we packed a portion of the same and parceled to my sister who is residing nearby. In the evening this child gone to sister’s place to play. Unknowingly, my sister served the same dish to this girl child and she eat it. [In fact she was not knowing that this dish was handed over by us]. Once she completed her share, she asked for more of it. Sister gave more of it and she completed eating and make a comment also that ‘I will tell my mom also to make the same dish’. So this is the fact. We have certain pre concept and we need to change it, but as long as you feel so, it is never going to work out. Thank-s

Hello friend, what i can say is that everything happens in the right time. Sometimes we don't understand why we can't reach our goals, sometimes we try hard and hard and things just don't happen, i think it's just because the right moment hasn't come and we still to wait. On the other hand i strongly believe that everyone of us can't reach what he wants with hard work, with hard rebuilding of our skills, with learning, with confidence and really strong power. We just need to know the right way for reaching what we want. If we don't see the way and the goal in our mind, there is no way for us to reach it. That's what i can say for sure.

i totally believe in this too. be it the way you look or work related stuff. every step relating to them, can be measured upon this small statement. alwayssssssssssss and forever :p

Very well said. Yes, I guess it is. I think the most challenging part here is acceptance but once a person accepts what seems to be not meant to be then we can move on and find what really is in store for us.

I agree with you, if we cant change some thing, we have to accept it, because there is no way out, but if we can't accept, we will change it to suit us.. how can we make some thing happen as per our wish, bit difficult lol thanks for this discussion merry xmas kalyani

"make it happen" from this inscription mean they have a dream to reach... they believe no matter is hard to get.. or failed for the first time they try to reach. they never surrender to reach word " make it happen". its kind of people hope may be the only hope to survive for something better in their live.. most of people who believe it soon or latter will come true.. it is more than a word contain much dream and struggle to get it

People saying "make it happen" are over confident on their capacity and strength to control the situation that affects them. They are positive minded persons,exploring ways to change the circumstances in their favor.They do not get bowed down by the pressure of any external threat.They may at times fail to achieve the things they desire to get; then they consider their failures as the pillars for future success. They do not bother about the expected result of their action,they only concentrate on their present action to "make it happen", no matter what comes in their way.

Honestly a lot of people are lazy and entitled. The reason why some people go on and on about 'make it happen' is because that is what people need to begin doing again - within reason. Nobody is here to hand anything to anybody, nobody is owed anything simply for being alive. What you get out of life is mostly due to what you are willing to put into it, which may be working hard, working smart, being in the right place at the right time, based on who you know, maybe all of the above. Human beings are ridiculously adaptable, although some of us really dislike change. I am all for it when I am initiating it... because something is broken or just needs an update. However, if nothing is broken, I am unbendable and I will not change unless there is a valid reason that makes sense to ME. I always think it is a good idea to go as far as you can on your own to accomplish the goals you have for yourself. If you need help after you've done everything you can, there is no shame in it, although I do believe if you HAVEN'T done everything you can, you shouldn't be asking for help. If you've done NOTHING, then nobody should ever help you, because help only comes when you are already doing for yourself. I am a very stubborn and driven individual, and I make most things happen, or I influence the right people, or I simply find a loophole. I am the best person to have on your side and in your corner, but a formidable opponent from across the table lol. I'm pretty satisfied with my life.

It is a challenge for us to try to change things that we can't accept. If if it will bring something good to our lives or to the lives of others, it is something er must be willing to do. Accepting what we can not change is a bit more diffiult for us. If we have no control over a situation, it can be harder for us to cope.

I received this saying from my best friend few months ago, "people who are happy are happy not because they got everything they want in this life but because they simply appreciate what they got in this life". I love this saying and I wish to follow it all the way in my life. But of course sometimes along the way, I find a confidence to do something more and to try harder, but I always advice myself not to be disappointed when it does not works out in the end. Thanks for sharing and have a nice day

Well, I agree with "change what you don't like, but accept it if you can't change it". Hypothetically, we are capable of doing anything, but it isn't necessarily worth it. What if you would have to dedicate all your time to accomplish it? What if you had to use all your money and end up in serious debt? What if you had to kill someone to accomplish it? If you decide you want to "make something happen" you are going to have to give some things up. If it's not worth it, you have to accept it.

I think we should always be realistic, but never passive. Accept what we can't change and do our best to influence what we know we can. I realize this works better in theory, but that's life. Sometimes we fail and there's nothing we can do about it, except keep a positive mind.

if you can change the situation,so do it.if you can't,you have to live in the society,you have to accept it .this is life, always have something that you can't accept...so we have to adjust ourselves...

Well i thing that life can never promise to be always happy, but it gets better after you accept things you can change. Acceptance it the great tool in achieving true happiness;)