Buying gifts for your child's friends...what do you think?

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
December 20, 2010 7:48pm CST
So in the spirit of Christmas and gift giving..there comes this question..do you buy gifts for your children's friends or have you had gifts bought for your friends when you were little? The thing is that my daughters have a lot of friends between the two. They are too young to have jobs but want to give their friends something just the same. I remember being that age and wanting to get my friends things..sometimes I was able and sometimes my grandparents said no..looking back..they didn't have the means..anyway..I know this lady that makes candies and cakes...thinking of cookie suckers that she makes that my girls can give out to friends. What do you think about this situation?
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@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Dec 10
We never did when I was young. The real close ones maybe but not all. If you have the means then do so. It is the season of giving. And sometimes just a card if you can't afford a gift. Just the thought is enough. It is a good time to teach children about giving and material things too. What the real spirit of giving should be.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Dec 10
I never got to get my friends anything when I was little either. I remember wanting too. I think these girls can make up some cookies and that should be ok. There is noway I could gift all their friends anyway. Thanks for the response.
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@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Dec 10
Remember its the thought that counts anyway.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
21 Dec 10
Hi jen, When Christmas is round the corner the gift aspect would surely be hitting many of us. Though I am not a Christian to be involved a lot into this still I enjoy the day with my friends. But buying gifts for children and children's friend is really a Herculean job for me. If at all we are to buy things I leave this to my wife.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
LOL...we ladies do like to do the shopping...it can be hard though to pick out things that are nice and inexpensive...I think I will go with the cookies. Thanks for the input!
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
22 Dec 10
@millertime (1398)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I agree with you. It should be something small and inexpensive because of the number of friends. Plus, all of the friends are probably not going to give gifts and anything of any real consequence might make them feel bad or pressured to give one. Little bundles of Christmas cookies might be good. I have a similar problem though. My son has a new girlfriend. They haven't been together very long and I hardly know her. I mean not enough to know much about her or what she likes or dislikes. I thought maybe I should get her a little something for a Christmas gift but I don't really know what. One thing she did mention the other day is that she likes horses, so I thought maybe a little glass horse figurine or I saw a small glass carousel ornament online. Don't know if I'll be able to find it anywhere locally though as there's not really enough time to get it shipped now.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
It can be confusing and I wouldn't want to have anyone feel bad because they didn't get a gift in return. When my son was at home and had girlfriends..it was always hard to determine if I would get them anything too. Well...he went through a stage when he was dating around a lot too and you never knew if she would be around for Christmas..lol...anyway good luck with finding that horse figuarine. Thanks for the response.
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Or you could get her like a little charm fr a bracelet or something if she wears bracelets. What my boyfriend's family did was they got us a gift card for dinner somewhere.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
I've done this a lot of times especially during birthdays. Our kid wouldn't stop whining unless we buy the gift.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Dec 10
I see. They do really want to get their friends a gift. I do get one if they are attending a birthday party but I'm thinking cookies for Christmas..lol..thanks for responding.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I wish i could buy for everybody. What i really hate is for someone to buy for me that i haven't bought for. I think the suckers would be a cute gift for the young folks. People tend to forget it's the thought that counts . I bet they will appreciate them plus appreciate the thought, hopefully. Kids get way too much.They have Christmas the year around.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Dec 10
Your right..some do. There is no way I could buy for all those friends..lol...I am going to let the girls work a little and bake them some stuff up. They need the practice in that kitchen anyway..LOL...thanks for responding.
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21 Dec 10
Yep... You can give some money to your child that he'll by a gift to their friends, but... what amount of money you can spend for it? - this is a question...
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Dec 10
That's true...because they have many friends..lol...I'm sticking with them making cookies..lol..thanks for responding and welcome to myLot.
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@janisvg18 (183)
• Singapore
21 Dec 10
For me it depends. If I am close to the family and know the kid well, then I buy the kid something nice and wouldn't mind spending more. Otherwise, I'd buy something simple and not so expensive.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Yes..I do know the friends my daughters have but I am not close to their families. I think that it might be a little different then too but I know it is important to my girls to gift their little friends. I am going to get them to baking them up some sweets this year. Thanks for responding.
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21 Dec 10
I think it's nice to get something for their friends. My half sisters are 13 and I remember last year we went into town a couple of days before Christmas and they bought them a little something. I buy presents for my friends who I have known since School.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
That's very nice. I think I will put my girls to work on some Chrstmas cookies this year...hehe...thanks for responding and have a great Christmas.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I don't usually buys gifts for my childrens' friends. if my children would like to give a gift to their friends, that is their choice and their responsibility. I think it means more to my child and their friend when it cimes from the heart and not my wallet.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
So true. I think that all gifts from the heart mean so much more. I'm thinking the girls can cook up some cookies. Thanks for your response.
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@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 10
Well that never happened to me when I was a child as we don't always get a gift for ourselves from our parents on Christmas Day, because we lived in a village and not many people who can afford to buy something from the shop. Most of us do farming that time and that is where we earn our food from most of the years. As for your daughters requesting something to give to their friends, then yes that is a very sweet intention. If you can afford to get something for them then go ahead, sure they will be very happy about it. Merry Christmas
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Thanks for responding. I think it will be fun to maybe make some cookies for their friends together.
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
21 Dec 10
I'm all for giving and especially showing your daughters that its better to give then to receive. So it would definitely have to be homemade gifts so it doesn't become pricey. I think its a great idea of cookie suckers or anything that is cookie or candy. I wish you and your family a Merry Christmas and a Happy Healthy New Year!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Thank you lelin..I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and healthy New Year as well. It can really get pricey when you buy for family plus their friends..lol...I usually manage to let them do a little something for their friends. It makes them feel good.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
Oh yes I did make sure they bought something for their closets friends and it always was inexpensive as well. I always tried to plan really early so that way it would not have been a really expensive load. Your idea is a good one, and dollar stores also come to mind. LOL
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I always say I am going to start my shopping in July and just get a little here and there....I never do. I just finished up for my family and now I have the girls breathing down my neck for their friends a little something..lol...I usually get those little packs of scented body wash or a little nail polish set but I am thinking of cookie suckers done up like Santa. Thanks for responding.
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@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
21 Dec 10
Oh, Jen...you may think my answer a little harsh, but I know that if my son wanted to gift his friends, when he was younger (and became aware of gift-exchanging) I would ask him to come up with something he could make, or that I could help him make, as I didn't want him thinking the world could be bought! It was his chance to come up with the thought, and to create! We did things like salt-dough figurines, friendship bracelets, kites, wood-carved toys...something he would have to put an effort into! Rainbows, dear lady, sure hope your 7 days a week ends soon, and you get a nice Christmas break! HUGZ
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Thanks pergammano...I don't think it sounds harsh at all. I think it will do those girls some good to bake some Christmas cookies for their friends. I was thinking of buying them from a lady that does baking on the side but there really is no reason not to let the girls take that bull by the horn..lol..Hugs my friend.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Aww...thank you...there are so many special things that we can give to each other and it is so nice that you remembered me during such an important and wonderful visit. I am so glad that she was able to come and see you for a few days. We all need a surprise visit every now and again from a special someone. It is also amazing the relationships that I have established here on the Lot and you are one of the most special. Luv u 2.
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• Canada
23 Dec 10
YOU...YOU little monkey....have the greatest Christmas..and NEW YEAR ever! AND the biggest, warmest HUG that you have ever had...is speeding it's way to you! What a precious lady! HUGZ & LUV, Shirley & T.J. (Rambo, Brui & Curlew, too!)
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
22 Dec 10
My son is already 10 years old and has a bit of a grasp of the meaning of gift-giving this season. He wanted to give gifts to some of his classmates. As this was going to be an expensive prospect, we also just resorted to candies. We bought a box of candy canes which he then gave to his classmates at the last day before the break. He ended up giving everybody, just to be fair. I think candies or chocolates would be good enough!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Dec 10
It's great that he wants to be fair as well as the gift giving. I think cookies and/or candy is a nice gift. I always love it when I get them too. Maybe my rotten girls will make me a small batch too.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Jan 11
Thanks for the BR!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
25 Dec 10
I have only the one child and she has three friends that she likes to buy for. We only spend around ten dollars and get something small and their mothers do the same for us. It is a nice thing but I appreciate that if there are a lot of children it can easily get out of hand and the poor parents can end up spending a small fortune. I think the cookie sucker idea is a great and inexpensive one. Did she end up doing that?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
26 Dec 10
Hi Paula...it would be different if my girls just wanted to buy for a couple of close friends. Between the two I don't even have a count at this point. The girls are going to wait until school is back in session to make the cookies because we have had a bit of snow and ice that has grounded us..lol..cookies might not be any good if they make them now..lol. These girls have been out of school since a week before Christmas.
@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 10
Hi JenIn My Friend has a very close Friend they have been Friends since Children, are still very close and as long as I can remember I have always bought her a Present to this Day, I also buy for her Husband and the new Baby who is so sweet I buy for my Friends and their Children yes
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Did you buy for your childrens friends? I think it is nice to get a little something for close friends too. I bought everyone in my department a sausage biscuit from McDonalds today for Christmas..lol..I didn't have time to do cards. My girls are doing cookies for their friends. I can't really afford to get all their friends a store bought gift..they have ALOT of friends..lol.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
22 Dec 10
Hey Jen! I like the idea of giving cookies or candy for a gift. Both are things that your daughters can have fun making too. Hope you have a great holiday!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Thanks Shar! I hopr you have a great holiday too...plus cookies.
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I have enough trouble just buying for my own kids and family. I generally do not go beyond buying for family, except in the cases of buying for teachers, and I will get them a $5 gift card to a coffee shop. This year though my youngest is doing a gift exchange at preschool, so I have to buy a gift for one of his classmates. I also have to buy a gift for a co-woker of mine because we are doing secret santa.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Nov 11
It's hard to buy presents for everyone, especially with the way the economy is. When gift requests and responsibilities come rolling in it can really take a toll on the way we feel about the holidays. I think a $5 gift card to the coffee shop is a perfect idea for a teacher. I bet they enjoy that cup of coffee alot more than an apple I know I would if I had a class full of children.
• United States
23 Nov 11
Yes, the gift card is something I've done for a few years now. I used to buy those cutesy teacher gifts, or chocolates or something. But you know they get so many of those types of things already. So I started thinking, what is something cheap that they don't get a whole ton of at holiday time from all the other students? Coffee!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
25 Nov 11
@soulist (2987)
• United States
29 Nov 11
When I have children I think I would get their friends something small. Or let them pick something out within reason. Or even like the lady you know and make them cookies or something.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
30 Nov 11
The cookies went over pretty well. I think kids love cookies almost as much as anything..lol...they got something from their friend and that can be the important thing. Thanks for responding!
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
28 Nov 11
On my grandson's birthday some years ago, I help buy some gifts for his friends, and his teachers, who attended his birthday party. Everyone felt happy and recongnized. This might be a positive adding to their friendship and teamwork environment, which is very important for the growing children. Gisfts maybe tiny, but means something.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
28 Nov 11
That's nice and it does make them feel good to be able to give a gift. I remember when I was little and how good it made me feel to give someone something during a special time. Thanks for responding!