I have a love/hate relationship with romance novels!

United States
December 21, 2010 3:19pm CST
Yes it is true! I love reading romance books! I started like ,I think, 9 years ago when someone gave me some books to read. I never had read any before and was intested to expand my types of books I read. I have read Daniele Steel,Luann Rice,Dianna Palmer and some authors. I love reading these books because I love reading about how these people fall in love and most end up getting married! Along the way they have their ups and downs,of cousre! If it involves the old west,horses and Texas I really like those type of romance novels! What I hate about the books is I alway wish I could find a man like those in the books! I know it sounds crazy but I do! I have dated but don't anymore! I get lonely and this is why I get this way when I read those books! I have no problems reading Danielle Steel anymore but I still have that problem with some of the other authors! So am I the only one who feels this way when they read romance novels?
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I didn't start reading until I was 15 or 16-years-old. I was at a small convenience store down from my house and picked up a little Harlequin romance paperback for 75 cents. Oh stop my beating heart! The whole thing led to that one kiss at the end of the book, but it was enough. I was hooked. I have an aunt and cousins that like to read. One time my cousin was staying with me, we were in our teens. We spent some time reading, stopping long enough to use the bathroom, get a snack and tell each other what was going on in our books and then right back to reading. Nice memories. Reading helped me deal with a bad marriage. It fulfilled what I wasn't getting out of my marriage. That aside, it also took me to places I had never been. Hawaii, Canada, England... It's like taking a vacation and it only costs a few dollars. I remember one time I was reading one of Johanna Lindsey books and when I finished, I had this huge smile on my face. I sighed and said 'now I'm going to Hawaii' and picked up her book called Paradise Wild and off I went. The only thing I read for 30 years was romance novels. Then some years back I noticed nothing I picked up could hold my attention. My reading tastes had changed. I like reading a lot of Amish mystery, horror with John Saul. I don't like blood, gore and guts. John Saul is a fast read. I still love romance, but it has to be really good and discreet. I don't like it when they start ogling each other on the third page. I like a good romance to have the romance as the third point in the story. My favorite romances are the historical romances, and I love a good time travel romance, but only if the hero or heroin goes back in time. I don't care for futuristic romance, unless they come to modern time and then go back. Not the year 2099 and stuff like that. I'm really in hog heaven these days. I found out I can download books to my phone. Now I can read anywhere, anytime. I was going to buy an ereader, now I don't need one. Personally I believe this men do exist. You know they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think these men live in the eyes and hearts of the women who love them. I think most people don't give each other enough time in life to find each other before they settle. Enjoy your books, but get back into the dating scene. Life is good, life is short. Enjoy yours.
• United States
16 Feb 11
I realize appreciate your comment! I loved it! I will continue buying and reading romance novels! A friend got a Kindle for Christmas and is trying to get all his freinds to buy one because he loves his so much! I don't have the money to buy one! I wish I could go back to the dating scene! So much as changed since I have been out there! It scares the crap out of me! I am pretty sure I will never date again! At times it sucks being single but it is better then being in a miserable relationship!
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Thank-you for the best response. As for dating, I'd be scared too because the rules have changed so much. People have causal se x after the first date and then move on to the next person. That is not my thing. I know what it is to feel trapped in a miserable marriage, been there, done that as the saying goes. I really feel bad for people who are illiterate. There are all these different worlds sitting on bookshelves and racks that they never get to enter.
@shaggin (26765)
• United States
1 Jan 11
I LOVE to read. I pretty much love to read any books. I have hundreds of books on all different things.. true crime, horror, romance etc. I love romance books but I usually wind up crying while I read them and then feeling depressed that I will never have such romantic beautiful things happen to me. I really like the dirty raunchier romance books the best hehe. You mentioned Danielle Steel. She is my all time favorite author. I've read probably 20 of her books and everyone I've cried while reading. They are amazing!
• United States
25 Jan 11
I havr cried to during some of the romance novels I read! It doesn't matter what author! So it is nice to know I am not the only one in this world who has a love/hate relationship with romance novels! That makes me feel good!
@Nadinest1 (2042)
• Canada
30 Dec 10
I went through a phase of reading romance novels....but I never wished I could meet someone like that....I soooo knew it was a made up character in a book. the author can make them as appealing as she likes....just to make us read the book. I have read quite a few Danielle Steele novels, but I don't anymore....I don't like the fact that most of her books are about rich people....it drives me crazy. I like ordinary stories about ordinary lives....easy reads i guess you would call them.
• United States
25 Jan 11
Yes I know the author is making up the characters to appeal to us readers. That why I love reading romance novels that take place in places like Texas,the old West or if it has something to do with horses! I will learn to deal with! It just is going to take more time! LOL!
@MsTickle (25014)
• Australia
28 Dec 10
I love those books and I used to feel like you do about finding a guy like that. The reality is those guys are not real. They are (mostly) created by women...a guy created by a woman is going to be nothing like a real guy. I've had many men in my life, including 2 husbands and another two almost husbands and they, men, just don't think and act like we do so our romantic expectations will never be met.
• United States
25 Jan 11
My romance expections will never be met! I know I get alot of that from romance novels but I am pretty sure movies and tv had alot to do with that,too! It sucks and this is one of the many reasons I don't date! I rather be alone with my fantasies then end up in a rottan relationship!
@nikelaz (34)
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 10
Look.. i don't wanna sound like an * but.. WAKE UP! To stop dating guys because you want a man like in the books... well sorry I will tell you but there isn't such a man in the world. The guys in the books are made this way to be interesting and sometimes to be perfect. The points is you can't find the same man, but you can find a perfect man for you... and.. stop dating and reading books will not make you fall in love.. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong in the books.. but you must not live for the book and because of the book...
• United States
25 Jan 11
I knew this was coming! I am surpries there wasn't more responses like yours! I don't date anymore! I don't for alot of reasons! One is I know I never will find the perfect man! This started well before I got into romance novels! Maybe form movies and tv. Not sure. What I do know for sure is I try to get this out of my head but I can't! It will be apart of my forever! I can live with that!
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
22 Dec 10
I read romance novels once in a while. I enjoy the "thrill" every now and again. That happy ending is always nice to read about. :-) I feel like the books are somewhat unrealistic though. I mean I have a wonderful husband whom I love and romances me...but real life just is not like those books! They really are a fairytale. Although I'll admit, before meeting my husband, I read the romance novels more often in hopes of finding that dream man. I think you eventually come to find out that your dream man may not just be the man that's in the romance novel...he's so much more. :-)
• United States
25 Jan 11
You are right I have read this books and thought I can find the perfect man! Not! Anyway I have given up on finding real romance and will stick to my romance novels! Even if they drive my insane for now! I also need to take breaks from romance novels more often! I know that helps!
@Lisander (273)
• Armenia
21 Dec 10
I always thought they weren't very interesting, but once one of my friends land me her book - she had bought it when she was vacationing, and i couldn't stop until the last page. It was really sad that the second tom was out of my reach for a two years. The trick was - it was also fantasy novel, and together they really managed to catch my attention. Pure romance have a little value for me, but now if there is also fantasy i give it a try.
• United States
25 Jan 11
All the romance novels I read are fictional. I don't like reading books on fantasy even if it has to do with romance. It just not my cup of tea! I'll stick with the fictional romance books!
21 Dec 10
I feel the same way! I love to read and always used to avoid roma nce novels. Then I got one by accident and read it and now I find myself reading those too. But I end up reading hte book, predicting everything that happens before it happens and then getting to the end of the book and going, 'that's it?' However, when the next one comes along I read it too. I guess I find them easy reads, easy to pick up and read a few pages and put down if I dont have a lot of time.
• United States
25 Jan 11
For awhile I was only reading my books at the laundry mat. Now I am reading at work and staying off the computer when on breaks! Now I am reading more at a time and I think that has alot to do with how I feel when I finish the books! I also need to read other books inbetween romance novels! Everyone needs a break once in awhile!
@ElicBxn (60069)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I'll read an occasional romance novel, I find some entertaining, but mostly I just want to slap some sense into those people. I understand that there was a time when a woman was thought to HAVE to have a man to take care of her, because she really wasn't allowed to own property - unless she was a widow... even then it was questionable... but I wouldn't want to live in those days anyway!
• United States
25 Jan 11
Sorry so late on responding! I like reading romance novels and I am taking a break from reading them,for now. I am reading about the race horse Funny Cide. It is a good break! I know part of my problem with romance novels is I read to many in a row! I need more breaks inbetween those books!
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@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
22 Dec 10
i never read the romance novels i only like romance movies because they speak and move and end in 2 to 3 hours