Missing My Bestfriend

Philippines
December 23, 2010 5:49am CST
Even i have bunch of friends there is one friend of mine who really knows me inside and out, a friend who witnessed all my sorrow and pains, joined the happiest and saddest part of my life, a friend who always believe on me. I still remember the day we met as naturally me i acted crazy at the class since she is the type of person who is simple and quite one I never thought that she could be my Bestfriend becoz we are totally opposite from attitude to hobbies, as the day pass by i keep on bugging her until we built a 5 female group in our classroom once we are happy family but time is passing by each and everyone of us has its own way to find something new in life our three friends got their own life to live while me and my bestfriend stick together. We enjoy each others company the countless gimmicks and hang outs, the crying time over a bottle of vodka, the future plans and comforting each others when the world become mean to us. For 8 years we don't have any argument or fight that's why some people say maybe we are soul mates :D some of them thinks we are lover :-O(which is not true if she is a boy maybe :d lol), If i am not in the mood she is one of the person who can calm me down, she is also the person who knows me in just one look. Until last July something happened they went home to her hometown and her mom told me that she is not doing well i am so worried about her but i was shocked when her mom said i cannot see her again :((. At first i can't believe it becoz her family knows me well and treated me like a member of the family for 5 months i don't have any contact with her and I MISS HER TERRIBLY i want to share everything that happened to me for the past months, every time i am happy wish i can share it with her. I just wish that she will never forget me and she is doing well right now, maybe in time i can share my tears and laughters to her again. "BHEST I ALWAYS SAY THIS TO YOU THAT I AM VERY THANKFUL THAT YOU CAME INTO MY LIFE, I AM JUST HERE FOR YOU ALWAYS NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED. THANK YOU BECAUSE YOU ALWAYS GIVE ME A REASON TO BE POSITIVE IN LIFE NOT TO LOSE HOPE AND BE MYSELF ALWAYS". I MISS YOU SO MUCH!
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11 responses
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
honey, I already given my advice and i just to say one thing "do not blame yourself for what happened, and please...there are people who loves you more than your bestfriend do, you just ignored them because you are "only" focusing in your bestfriend." It's time to moved on,she is fine ,she is always fine...but you are not doing fine. I hope you will realized that,you need to let go of someone,because someone better comes along your way. Give yourself a time,what you've confessed to me last night (early this morning) is what i mean."better someone comes along your way" Please let go ...life is too short to be wasted.
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
jaiho, I am really thankful that you are always there for me especially during the time i need someone to talk too, you never get tired of me :). I am not blaming myself maybe i was so attached with our friendship that's why i can't let go of our memories. Don't worry i'll be fine soon, i already give enough time for myself i think i am running out of time lolzzzz...... Thank you and love you much much :)
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
you should be in a hurry before time will reach finish line hahaha lovezzz yah
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
What can I say, Friends do come and go. sometimes there are other people that wants to take another step in their lives not involving their friends. I know, I've always been the other guy, i got used to it. but having best friend for eight years and just lost communication is something that is really hard to let go msot specially if they have been part of you're comfort zone.
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
hi honey! this is sad. i don't understand why you're not allowed to see your bestfriend again. maybe she really is sick and recuperating. perhaps the doctors ordered complete rest for a faster recovery. give it some time. in the meantime, give her some space. if she does value your friendship, she'll get back to you in her own time. the best right now is offer her prayers of good health. friends sometimes do come and go. if you are familiar with the philosophy behind "reason, season and lifetime"... it was mentioned there that sometimes we meet people for a reason, they stay in our life for a season and there are people we choose to keep in our lifetime. though we've only recently met, i know you are a keeper. and you put your heart out for your friends. that's one of the nice things about you. just understand that people sometimes have reasons why they think, feel and do things they did. we may not fathom at the moment, just be there for your friend albeit thru a distance. one of my bestfriends is also my opposite. we're like poles apart and an unlikely pair. she is almost 4 years my senior and we never had any argument or a fight. but each of us has a life to lead apart from each other as she chose to be converted to a muslim and serve as a missionary. she still is my bestfriend for 18 years. a silent witness to growing up years. i met her for a reason and she's staying for a lifetime.
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
you are lucky then how i wish we also reach that 18 yrs of friendship or more :), I know she will just go for now but anytime soon she will be back that what she promised :)
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
then keep that positivity in you and always hope for the best. she'll come around. give it time and space for now. meanwhile, enjoy your time with other friends and of course your family.
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Hello Catch, It's Christmas season, do you think they will allow you to see her now?. I mean, why that sudden? and what does her mom mean she's not doing well? with her academics? probably she's kinda ill or something but the idea of her not allowing you to see you're best friend is something mysterious to me. Maybe something came up and her mom decided on something which is something you're best friend didn't tell you. don't you know her contact number for some reason? hope you pray that she's just fine this month.
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
hello LK, they changed their contact numbers :(, last time i heard from a common friend she is not doing good i mean she is physically fine but something is happening to her that makes me worried :(. Christmas season is not an excuse actually it's her mom's decision not her. :(
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Well, Pray for her. some day probably when she's more independent and if she misses you she will find a way to see you or contact with you again
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
23 Dec 10
i cant imagine being without my best friend with no contact. i have had to be without him before, and i almost didnt make it. i missed and loved himm to much to carry on with my daily life as if he were still there. i guess you could say he was my backbone in a way. but luckily i made it through those 9 long months off and on and now i am proud to say that i married my best friend and we spend everyday together. i guess all i can say is be srong and you will get to a time in your life when you can be with your friend again.
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• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Hello birdie, happy to know that you marry your bestfriend wishing you both a happy long lasting relationship :). Thanks for the response
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• Austria
23 Dec 10
This is a sad story... I can imagine how you feel. I also have some good friends that know my inside and outside, and I can always come to them if I want. One of them is absolutely not like me, the opposite of me, and we are always on good terms. We often talk for hours on the phone, and we share most of our interests. We exchange experiences and help each other if one of us has troubles or sorrows, and we help each other. It's good to have such friends who I know I can come to them or talk with them. So, I don't hope that this friendship is over some time.
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• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Hello Ujah, Thanks for the response. Don't let chances pass by let your friends feel how much you value them :). have a great evening~
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@bird123 (10347)
• United States
24 Dec 10
Perhaps it's time to send a Christmas gift to the house.
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Hello Bird, Merry Christmas, I think it's impossible she is bit far now :(, anyway just hoping she is doing fine!
@cicisnana (776)
• United States
24 Dec 10
I'm sure your friend is fine. Now it's time for you to move on and find different friends.
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Hello cicisnana, Merry Christmas I am she is doing fine :), yup i am trying to move on but not ready to let go :) Thanks for the response
@dibs2010 (132)
• India
24 Dec 10
This is good that you missing your boyfriend. in every relation their is some problem but the best thing is forgot every thing and love each other. wise you a happy holiday's
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Hello dibs :) She is not a boyfriend but a BESTFRIEND she is a GIRL thanks for the response :) Happy Holiday
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@netizen (534)
• India
24 Dec 10
This is really sad when we part from our loved ones. This is quit unfortunate in everyone's life in the earth. Our remembrances never vanished!
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Hello netizen, thanks for the response :) Memories are memories that hard to erase :( have a nice day!
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24 Dec 10
ya mam i saw ur problem here for me also a small problem like u a few days back i proposed to a girl who is the best friend to me here the problem is after the my decision she stopped to talk with me so pls tell me how to built a contact with her again thank u
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
@pradeepskec Hello!My bestfriend is a GIRL :), regarding your problem i think you should give her some time to think about what you've just confessed to her if she can't love you more than friends then be it i know it hurts but you cannot force her to love you more than friends. have a nice day
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@spencari (265)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 10
very touching is hard to lost best fried, especially if you keep touch for several years. i know is hard but life is too short only focus on your tears, lost your best friend. you have much time to find something new experience for instance.. traveling or find a good job, meet somebody to love, do your time for positive ways like a proverb says ' yesterday is history, today is a gift and tomorrow is mystery' we cannot predicted the future but we can control it by walking step by step right until we sure that's my future...
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Hello Spencari thanks for the response! I like that proverb, travelling will do that by next year, job i already have :) meet somebody to love uuuhhhmmmm...looking forward to that hheheeh! have a nice day!
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