extra marital affairs right or wrong

extramarital affairs - extramarital affairs can break the realtions.
December 23, 2010 7:53am CST
In any realtionship, commitment is basic thing, when two persons commit with each other to live together, it is very necessary to fulfil the commitment, but some time they can't be happy with each other and creat a new relationship, its fault of both, not only one person,definitelly something wrong is going on in the realtion, there is a place between them so another person come at this place, is this right to involve in extra marital affair or not because everyone need love and attention.
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16 responses
• India
23 Dec 10
I think it is right, but husband and wife's both are involve extra marital relationship.
24 Dec 10
yes, i am not mention any person, husband or wife both are involved, but anyone is involved, the family is destroyed.
@debs90 (547)
• India
23 Dec 10
No its not good to cheat anyone.
24 Dec 10
you are right, ethically it is a wrong act, but anyone can do this.
@dodo19 (28392)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Dec 10
I really don't think that it's ever a good idea to have an affair. I definitely do not agree with it.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
sameer786, Karmic relationship doesn't define itself as a 'right' or 'wrong' relationship. The morality of a relationship is mere segmentation perceived by humans, churned from different sets of value and beliefs. It merely spells it as a relationship that produce tremendous lesson that leaves behind more than just footprints in our lives. For every love triangle actualized through the decision of the central figure, which is then linked to two or more partners through one's connection, it is but a tacit acceptance to bore the karmic debts fashioned by one's cosmic lesson in Love. I do not disagree with the fact people could still be subjected to falling in love outside their primary intimate partners despite being married. And seriously, there are a myriad of reasons why this happens. Most people dismissed it under the general facade of Love to justify their modus operandi, but across several hundred dimensions of Love, the ones that brought about the most misery are the ones that often seen, felt or tasted like the real thing in one’s context and reality in life, created entirely by their own perception or disillusionment. Anyone could have claims to love all three at a go, however, when you probe deep enough to reach the core, this facade of Love always acts like a canopy of vegetation that shields real underlying reasons from surfacing. Some even lionize or glamorize this canopy and incorporate certain falsification into their belief system, as they taught themselves to see it as part of their reality, and in turn, manifest this preconceived reality into their reality. It’s interesting to note how people formulate aspects of the media and certain histrionic qualities found in protagonist's of fictional tales, in explaining various decisions they make in life, which the individual have come to believe and find self-perceived striking resemblance in both the character and themselves. It’s not the act of falling in love that matters to me – it’s the bondage to uncommitted and unavailability of another that is critical. I am not a moral police – falling in Love with someone unavailable, to me, is not wrong: it’s just karmic. Hence, to all those that are contemplating this and if you have already decided upon this route, then you must be open to this outcome, even if it’s negative.
• United States
24 Dec 10
Really?!? They are wrong, there is not one extra marital affair that ever turned out good. Those types of relationships are built on lust, lies and deceit. That doesn't sound like a healthy start to a relationship at all. Plus, somebody always gets pregnant and that child has to live with the fact that they were born out of lust for another person.
24 Dec 10
i dont think its right at all. if your not happy with someone then you should finish it before you see anyone else
• United States
24 Dec 10
It all depends on the couple. If the couple agrees that there isn't to be any lovers , then it is wrong . But there are couples . Happy couples out there who agree that it is ok to have lovers. Me? I will never marry because for me , and it seems me alone these days, a marriage has nothing to do with love and therefore lovers are necessary.
24 Dec 10
Tisis a simple question to answer. The answer is WRONG. No matter what when you are in a committed relationship then you stay committed. If things are to go wrong then you need to look at if you want to work on keeping that relationship together. You do not create a relationship whilst still with someone else, however if you do split then there is nothing wrong in starting a new relationship. There is no rules that state that after coming out of a relationship you then have to wait a certain period of time before you can enter another relationship. People have different feelings and people do things differently, what might be right for one person isn't always right for others. If you are unhappy in a relationship that you feel you cannot sort out or you don't want to then you are best seperating and moving on with your life, if that is to be with someone else then so be it, thats life.
@jungka (1)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Cheating is VERY wrong. God has planned us to have only partner. Cheating destroys a family and humanity.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Having an extra marital affair was never an option to solve problems of married couple. Everyone needs love and attention, as well as respect. If you feel like you are no longer happy with the relationship, then tell it straight to her or his face. It's better than cheat her/him.
• India
24 Dec 10
Extra martial affairs are totally wrong. Marriage is about bonding between two people who agree that they would be and help each other out forever. No matter what happens. Having extra martial affairs means that maybe the person is not satisfied with the experiences which he/she gets from their partner. For some people it may seem to be like breaking out of the cage as they are always looking for some new blood. But for others it just reminds them that they had made a grave judgment mistake when they chose their life partner. Cheers!
@anitoton (390)
• Kolkata, India
23 Dec 10
no it is not at all right to involve someone in between yours.relation must have to be made strong and a relation becomes strong by this.you can get to knwo each other.so it is absolutely wrong to have an extra marital affairs..
@jaymeg (10)
• United States
23 Dec 10
'Thou Shall not commit adulterly' is one of the 10th Commandments. When two people marry they are making a commitment not only to each other but to God as well. If a person isn't happy with their spouse then they need to communicate these feelings with that person instead of taking the selfish road and making themselves happy. What happens when their spouse finds out? Then they will have even more issues to deal with. It's not worth the headache and not not fair to drag someone else into their situation. If things can't be worked out then they need to decide on either to separate or get a divorce and then move on but definitely not doing it behind their partner's back.
@yumcookie (146)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Even if you are miserable with the person you are currently committed to it doesn't give you any right to cheat on them. You should be faithful to that one person alone, if you can't then you need to leave that person to be with someone can make you happy. If you are both not happy in the relationship than you are doing nothing but hurting both yourselves in the process. You need to be the bigger person and walk away no matter how painful it may seem. In the long run time will heal the wounds and both of you will be able to love again.
@josga2008 (321)
• Canada
23 Dec 10
If , as you say, everyone needs love and attention, and your current relationship doesn't provide it, then you should consider formally ending your relationship before seeing someone else. An affair is a betrayal of trust. Betraying someone's trust is wrong whether its an extramarital affair,cheating your business partner, or any other kind of betrayal. It is by definition wrong. Maybe what you need to ask is " is it right or wrong to want intimacy with another person". There's nothing wrong with having the desire. It's acting on it that's wrong. So if you have such desires, you must seriously question if you should get out of the relationship you are now in, and then pursue another more fulfilling one. But it has to be in that order.
• Indonesia
23 Dec 10
it is wrong. once we make a relationship with someone, we must think it carefully that the one we have relation with is the one we want to spend all of our life with. that's why commitment is important. if there's something wrong in the relationship, we must try to discover a solution.