who plays a more important role in bringing up children.....?

India
December 23, 2010 8:18pm CST
After marriage when the couple beget children both the parents feel very happy and both feel responsible in bringing up the childen.The mother takes intensive care in the infant stage and as the child grows both become responsible in feeding and providing comforts.While the mother looks after the basic needs the father provides necessary financial support by earning money for the family.When the children grow up and make mark or become useful to the parents as well as to the society .. both parents natually claim credit.No doubt both are responsible for making children worthy citizens and both are proud of their children.But my doubt is as to who is more reposnsible? I consider mother as more responsible. What do you say ?
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Jan 11
I tend to think that both mother and father are equally responsible in raising their children. I know that in our situation that my husband plays as much of a role in the children's lives despite the fact that I am the parent that stays at home with the kids and he is the parent that goes to work every day. However, when he gets home from work, it is he that the kids want to spend time with and I am essentially tossed to the side.
• India
4 Jan 11
No.You are belittling your position as mother.How do you say you are tossed side.It is not so.As the kids miss their father during the day they want to spend the evenings with him.When you actually calculate the number of hours they spend with and are under your care it is more than the hours they spend with their father.Am I right. So both of you are playing your roles ideally in bring up your children.God bless you..HAPPY NEW YEAR
@kanchan10 (3414)
• Kolkata, India
24 Dec 10
both the parents are responsible for the upbringing of the child.irresponsible father or mother can be most harmful for the child
• India
4 Jan 11
No one can afford to be irresponsible for the bringing up of the child.Both play important roles in their own way.When child grows up to be a useful member of the society both parents claim credit.So in bringing up the child both should feel responsible and do their duty to the child in a proper way.Then only the parents and the child feel happy.HAPPY NEW YEAR
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 Dec 10
I believe that both mother and father play important roles in bringing up their children. they both do it in different ways. Both parents are nurturing and supportive in their own special ways. One gender is not more imoortant than the other when it comes to bringing up their children.
• India
4 Jan 11
Yes the mother and father play different roles in bringing up the child and both should feel responsible.If any one neglects the atmosphere in the house will not be congenial for the healthy growth of the child.No one's role is more important or less important than the role of the others.As the mother bears the child in her womb for nine months she is emotinally more attached to the child..HAPPY NEW YEAR
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
yah i have to agree with you that mother has the vital role on raising a child but i still believe that it will always be the good partnership of the mother and the father so that a child will grow as a good person. both parents must be cooperative enough so that they will bring forth a good and well raised individual=))
• India
4 Jan 11
Both the parents should set an example for the child.They observe parents and learn.In early stages as the mother spends more time with the child ,her role is more important.But father has to go out and earn and he has little time to spend with children.But at the timme his role is also very significant.There should be good understanding between husband and wife and that goes a long way in setting an example for the child to folow. HAPPY NEW YEAR
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
24 Dec 10
Hello, Chayapathys. This situation you described used to be a paradigm, in which the father would play the financial role and the mother would just stay home. At least here in Brazil, things are not like that anymore. We see single mothers working to bring food for their children AND doing the emotional care. Or we can see the couple working and the children staying in daycare all day long. What I mean is: most of children nowadays don't have a parent 24 hours to support them when needed. Yes, of course the parents will get the credit for what the children has become. And I believe both plays an important role. I think the mother can influence a lot more, even for biological reasons. The baby is more attached to his mother when born, and will be so for the rest of his life. However, you have to take on account that some children see in their parents an example of what NOT TO BE, and therefore I guess the parents can only be credited on providing such an example, but the child is the one responsible for having a strong mind and perspicacity to observe its surroundings and copy good examples. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• India
4 Jan 11
It is a pity that both parents go out to earn now a days. It was not so in olden days when we were children.Perhaps it is due to comparison and competition in living standards.The needs have grown and every one wants comforts.But mother is still feels more responsible than the father.Yet both play equally important roles.No one's role is superior to the role of the other.They should have good understanding and then only there will be congenial atmosphere in the house.They should set example to the child to follow...HAPPY NEW YEAR
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
I think it is not fair for either parent to be ranked as more important than the other in bringing up a child. Both are responsible but with perhaps different role to play but with equal weight. Without one the development of the child will not be complete. Or the absence of one parent or playing a lesser role than is necessary will affect the formation of the child. That is why it is double difficult and a challenge for single parent who has to fill the role of both parents. Merry christmas chayapathys.
• India
4 Jan 11
Yes you are right in saying that both parents play equeal role in bringing up the child.No one's role is superior to the role of the other whether mother or father.Unless both take interest in bringing up the child there is a gap and consequent imbalance in child's groth.Thus the role of single parent's role is very diificult and it is not complete....HAPPY NEW YEAR
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Both parents should play a role in bringing up their children. A child needs the mother's nurturing touch but at the same time, he or she also needs a father's guidance. The only problem is that in our society, the mother gets the brunt of the responsibilities in bringing up a child since the father is always busy at work. I feel that it should not be this way. The child will certainly benefit both the presence of the mother and the father.
• India
27 Dec 10
If both the parents spend their time in taking care of the child who will earn and support the family.On the other hand now a days both parents go out to earn and child is left in the daycare places in which the child misses love and care of both mother and father.At least one should remain at home to take care of the child.In earlier days mothers used to stay at home and attend to the needs of the child.In these day few give importance to this aspect.Anyway these days are like that only......HAPPY NEW YEAR
@sophia18 (107)
• China
24 Dec 10
Though they play different roles,both of them are very important in children's education.In my family,for example, my mom takes care of us and looks after our needs, therefore we feel more infinitely to our mom. However,whenever we have any trouble,we think of our father first.
• India
27 Dec 10
As you rightly said both parents have important roles to play and both roles are equally important.No one is superior to the other and none is inferior.Even any of them fail to play their role properly the outcome is undesirable.Both take credit when the child grows up to be useful member of the society.In fact both deserve credit....HAPPY NEW YEAR..
@calpro (933)
• India
24 Dec 10
Hi chayapathys, You have the question as well answer in your contribution. It is the mutual responsibility of wife and husband in bringing up their children. When mother takes care as infant and as baby its father's responsibility to facilitate mother to concentrate more on child, that mean he should facilitate her by taking care of other domestic responsibilities. While the child grows up for him/her father is a hero they try to cultivate habits from father mainly. So father should be more vigilant in his actions they try to learn from father. In my opinion both mother and father are responsible for a child's healthy growth none of them are less or more. Both are equally responsible with an addition that will be the school and teacher is also responsible for child's enrichment of knowledge. Happy Living Calpro
• India
27 Dec 10
Yes both mother and father are equally responsible for bringing up the child.Later teachers play an important role.At home children imitate and follow in the foot prints of parents.Therefore parents should live an ideal life so that children can learn from them.Boys generally imitate their father as they consider him as a hero.Mother is the embodiment of love and affection.Mother's role is very imprtant...HAPPY NEW YEAR
@aleic27 (161)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
I think every person in the child's life have help in upbringing him. The parents where always there to support them. The teachers also support the kids in learning and teaching good values. In later years, he can be influenced by friends, his older siblings and people that he has known... I believed that every person lived the way they are now because of these people.
• India
25 Dec 10
I believe only mother and father play important roles in bringing up children.No doubt every one in the society contribute one way or the other in shaping a person whther male or female.When we say bringing up children we mean only parents.Both play important role.The mother carries the child in her womb for 9 months is more attached to the child.That is why most children look upto their mother for anything and everthing Others too have arole and very one contribue
• India
24 Dec 10
I guess its mother in the initial stages later ather and finally the Teacher :)
• India
24 Dec 10
Yes all the three are immportant in bringing up a child.It is the essence of Hindu philosophy.But in a family mother and father are only responsible in taking care and providing comforts to the child.No one can claim greater role than the other.If something goes wrong both are responsible
@mrblur94 (57)
• Singapore
24 Dec 10
a family is just like an engine. everything to it is important. the more care you give it, the smoother it becomes. at any stage, everyone is always important. everyone has to contribute to keep this engine running. the smoother the engine runs without coughing, the more miles it can cover. relating back to child upbringing, the more care each member gives to the family, the more powerful the bond between family members and the smoother the running of the family. no one is solely responsible for a mistake. you are family for heaven's sake! ONE FOR ALL, ALL FOR ONE.
• India
24 Dec 10
You have correctly compared the family to an engine where every part is important and no part is inferior to the other and similarly no part is superior to the other.Only when all parts work harmoniously the engine can work.So also in a family both father and mother are equally important in running the family engine...
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
24 Dec 10
i definately think the mother has a more important role in bringing up the children. and this is not just because i am a female. it may be partly because i was raised solely by my mother and i think she did a darn good job all by herself. so in a way it seems almost as if fathers are nearly unnecessary in raising children. fathers seem to take a more passive role in raising kids by, like you stated, making the money. but mothers can easily make money or get assistance from the government to aid in taking care of their children, so as long as a woman is financially stable i dont think she really needs any help to raise a kid.
• India
24 Dec 10
As a lady you are completely supporting mothers..(laugh).Yes you carry the child in your womb for nine months( really great) and if men were to carry a child in the womb then there would be 99.9% abortions.God has bowtowed on ladies the patience and compassion which men rarely possess.So you take the credit for bringing up the child also.Good. I agree.May god bless you..
@daliaj (5689)
• India
24 Dec 10
I think both the parents paly an important role in bringing up the children. It depends on how reponsible the father and the mother are. I honestly think that mother plays a little more important role than father. This thought may be mainly from the old system of mother spening more time with a child compared to father. I believe both father and mother should share equal responsibility.
• India
24 Dec 10
In the olden days mother used to confine themselves to house only and rarely they went out to earn money.So they were completely in charge of children.Thus bringing up the children were solely on the shoulders of mother.It is different now days..both wife and husband have to go out and and earn.So no one is completeley in charge of the children and now both share the responsibities.They are eqally responsible .. So no one is great compared to the other..
@yumcookie (146)
• United States
24 Dec 10
In today's society women are able to become more than just the stay at home queen who watches kids, cleans and cooks. Many woman are now getting degrees and heading out into the work field so they can provide better for their families. Sometimes its the men who stay home and raise the children from their birth rather than work. There is nothing wrong with the "traditional roles" being reversed. On every level it depends on who is in the child's life that makes the big difference but if both put in equal work with the child than they are both important in the child's life, neither plays the bigger role. There are certain cases where the mother or father moves away and leaves the children with the other half, at times like this its clear who plays the bigger role in the child's life. In the end it depends on the situation and the circumstances, its rare to find people sticking to old idea of a family.
• India
24 Dec 10
As you say women have more moles to play now a days.They have to go out and supplement husband's income ,come home and cook and take care of the children and the house hold.No doubt the husbands are more understanding type these days, They help in the house hold and in taking care of the children as I have seen in my house.The roles of husband and wife have changed and and not like olden days.As you say whoever spends more time with children they become close but both are equally responsible for bringing up the children...
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
28 Dec 10
Well,in my opnion, definitely, most mothers take more responsible in bringing up kids than fathers.Though father's love is indispensable in the healthy growing up of kids,especial for boys.Generally speaking,a mother sacrifice more in fostering children.Not only in cooking meals and washing clothes, taking care of them when they are ill. But also in letting them know how to be a useful person for the society. I have seen lots of single mothers who have maken good citizens for the society.While lots of children without mums become hooligan on the street.Of course,there are some single fathers who take good care of their kids.And i think they are extraordinary because it is really hard for they to make it.
@wdiong (1818)
• Singapore
27 Dec 10
In my opinion, I think mothers play a more important role in bringing up children. Especially in the case of working mums, I think they have it the hardest....having to juggle work and household chores, not to mention taking care of the kids while the fathers concentrate solely in their career.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
25 Dec 10
i think both parents should be equally responsible for the raising up their children... but as you say, mum plays a more important role because the children stay with mum more than with dad (in normal circumstances)... unless if the mum is the one who goes out to earn money... then the role will be reversed... but ideally, i feel that both parents should play an equally important role in raising their children... take care and have a nice day...
• China
25 Dec 10
I think Mother is more responsible for bringing up children.Usually , mother is more patient and more careful . Most of mothers will spent more time taking care of their children.In China, after the new life was born, mother will stay with their kids every day for a time.and so you know, for Chinese children, they usually can call Mum earlier than Dad, and usually , if the kid has any trouble, he will cry with calling Mummy, Mummy.
@tvarasu10 (101)
• India
25 Dec 10
apart from mother father and teacher are responsible and play vital role to bringing up children