Are they really your friends?

December 24, 2010 9:29am CST
Are your friends really your friends? How would you find out? How can you tell? I want to know if i can trust people that say they are my "friends" but how sure can you be? Reply back x
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18 responses
@ren1982 (341)
24 Dec 10
i have a hard time trust anyone really i dont have many friends in the real world but alot of online friends i guess i do this cos i dont want to get hurt cos at the end of the day anyone can hurt you so what it comes down to is- are you will to take that risk?
• Netherlands
24 Dec 10
I understand what you're saying, though I do think that if you have just a small group of close friends, who either do know eachother or don't, that in the end you'd feel comfortable being with them. Also it's nice to have someone in real life whom you can trust and rely on when you're going through a rough time.
24 Dec 10
ive never really thought about it like that asin getting hurt by people :) thanks for the advice please continue to comment
• Netherlands
24 Dec 10
I guess a good, true friend really shows in the times you really need them, rather than what you do everyday. Like a good friend would let you cry on their shoulder for as long as you had to cry, and try to snap you out if being sad, where someone else might of just said ah it's going to be fine and walk away or jsut start talking about something else. True friends would just take time for you and try to help you out whenever you need it.
• United States
26 Dec 10
When I need help, when I need someone to talk to , they are there. They see the real me and I they like what they see. They root for me. They worry if I am not with them. They are there to share their lives With me. They let me support them too. they let me see the real them and I like what I see.
25 Dec 10
Nobody can ever be certain when it comes to trust. With anybody at all we just take them as we see them and we either trust them or we don't. Atleast i feel that you should trust people until they give you a reason where you can't trust them. You will not be with them 24 hours a day 7 days a week and so you will never know what they are doing or saying when you are not around them. I feel it is always best to see the positives in people, but when they do do something wrong then that may cause me to never trust them again. It is like a waiting game.
@anitoton (390)
• Kolkata, India
25 Dec 10
no i dont trust my friends immediately when i meet.i can read there pshycology,mentality from whatever they are saying.i can understand from which thought or actually to know what they are asking something.from i can understand how complex they are.some of my friends says the i suspect all my friends.but thats at all right.those i have suspected as a complex they really showed their complexity. and those i have pointed out a good friend they really are good man and woman.and i can understand any indian just only by looking at his eyes and lips.some my friends used to laugh at me first.but i showed them some of my skill.now they really believe me and consults me before getting engaged with a girl,lol.i have became a love doctor in my college to..but i am really to have some really good friends.
@anitoton (390)
• Kolkata, India
25 Dec 10
no i dont trust my friends immediately when i meet.i can read there pshycology,mentality from whatever they are saying.i can understand from which thought or actually to know what they are asking something.from i can understand how complex they are.some of my friends says the i suspect all my friends.but thats at all right.those i have suspected as a complex they really showed their complexity. and those i have pointed out a good friend they really are good man and woman.and i can understand any indian just only by looking at his eyes and lips.some my friends used to laugh at me first.but i showed them some of my skill.now they really believe me and consults me before getting engaged with a girl,lol.i have became a love doctor in my college to..but i am really to have some really good friends.
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
25 Dec 10
You will only know who is a real friend when you are in a bad place and times are tough. Those who come to help you without being asked are your friends. People who will put them selves out to help you are your friends. Those who just say I'm so sorry are not.
• Indonesia
25 Dec 10
a friend is someone who always there when you need him. a person that share laugh and cry with you. share happiness and sadness with you. a friend is someone that close to you, care for you. a friend is someone that will not talk about your badness in public website, or talk about your weakness behind you. a friend is someone that you can trust all your secret.. however, i still do not have a friend like that..
• India
25 Dec 10
really saying now its very difficult to judge a person that he is your real freind or not. basically a true freind definition now does not exist two much. its found in rare case. actually gone were those days when you can find true freinds. now in small things people get enemy of each other, whereas they were freinds before. see about to judge freinds you only expect that he is loyal to you in your normal life and if he is there with even in your bad times than he is your true freind. i know bad times come rare in your life and most times only one or two freinds remain with you if it comes also and they are only your real freinds.
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Hello Scatmanx, I have many friends by name and by face but got few friends by heart. I don't expect things from my friends for i know they have their own priorities and i have also mine. There are lots of saying about friendships, some are true some are not applicable unto you. But what really matters in a friendship is to do what is best for your friend without expecting something in return. Merry Christmas!!!
• China
25 Dec 10
First and foremost,your friend should be a man of moral integrity,in addition,a friend in need is a friend indeed.
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
You can tell right away if someone is just posing to be your friend when he has signs of committing deceit. Unfortunately, it'll be too late for you if ever you reacted too late upon it but at least you realized something, right? These are many people out these win are being deceived and committing deceit at once and it's probably good to know that karma strikes 10 times more than what you can deal so it's better to stay the victim than to do something bad un others.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
24 Dec 10
Sometimes people claim to your friend, but they aren't your friend actually. You have to be careful with those people in reality. They might just use you, and when you need help, they simply won't help you at all. So, be careful with those people, and you might want to keep distance from those people too.
@sameer786 (833)
24 Dec 10
There are many peoples in our lives as friends, some are for buisness purpose, some are colleagues, some are neighbors but some people are those who really help us when we are in need they are actually our friends. so friends are those who help you when you need him.
@greet123 (44)
24 Dec 10
There is nothing called 'friend' in the true sense. People generally come into our life for a reason and a purpose. The purpose may be to help us in a hard situation, give us a hope, break our heart and teach us a lesson. They are there to teach us something about life and fulfill some purpose. When their work is over, usually they move away. It is not really right for us to test each and everyone in our life to find out who is our real friend.
• Netherlands
24 Dec 10
I think you can know if someone is a true friend if they really care about your feelings. A good friend should never eally talk about you behind your back or make fun of you to make himself look better. A true friend should be someone you can trust, and someone who is willing to help you when you're going through a hard time. I think a true friend would be someone that will trust you with his personal things, and someone who you can trust yours with. Ofcourse you just always have a good laugh with a good friend and feel comfortable being around them!
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
It's difficult to tell who really are true friends. As most people say, you will find out who your true friends are during the times when you are very down. I remember a friend of mine. There were so many rumors among our class/school spreading about her. Despite that, I stayed with her when others just stopped talking to her, judged her, and were even part of spreading the rumor. The bad thing is that those people did not even bother talking to my friend and asking her about the rumor...they just believed it. Right now, I'm the only friend she trusts and I'm glad to be her friend too. As for my friends, I still can't tell. I hope I don't need to be in very bad days just to find out who my real friends are.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
24 Dec 10
Hi, There are two kinds of friends - one is virtual friends and the other is real friends. I do not say that there is guarantee of loyalty in the real friend and no such thing with the virtual friend. The world is a small place now and who knows tomorrow or anytime we meet in real life too. This way I have already met two friends who were virtual and later became real ones. When the question about sincerity arises this is the you and your friend who make the relation.
@yumcookie (146)
• United States
24 Dec 10
That's a hard question and I don't think you'll get a real answer for it because the truth is its hard to figure out who your real friends are. If you want to at least narrow out some of them check to see who was there when you were at lowest, who was there when you needed them more than ever? Your real friends are the ones who are there for you when you've hit rock bottom. If they aren't than its obvious you are just a social anchor for them.