So you disagree

@savypat (20216)
United States
December 26, 2010 1:49pm CST
I love this, I feel I have really created a good discussion when many of my responses disagree with me. After all that's what makes a discussion. Most of the time I'll settle for only one or two disagreements but for me the more the merrier. How do you feel when mylotter disagree with you?
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Like you, I feel successful when someone disagrees with me. Disagreement makes people think! And when they respond that means they have been challenged and feel the need to defend their opinion. That's what makes a good discussion. Hopefully, they will have their views expanded. While it's gratifying to have my opinions validated, being presented with information that changes my opinions is a gift and I hope that others feel the same way.
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
27 Dec 10
When a fellow Mylotter may disagree with me via my own discussion or even through a response I have made to a discussion, I take it as a learning curve. I truly enjoy the differences of opinion, perspective, even larger degree knowledge. You are right in what makes a discussion. I think for a response to be that of a completely different spin on things adds to the depth. In the past I have found that difference of opinion, at the very least has opened my eyes to either new knowledge about something I didn't know before or simply it gives me a new way at looking at something. I am totally open to others perspectives. Those that may be completely opposite to my own are most welcome. I enjoy the diversity, often times pushing my intellect to where it may not of opened up to otherwise. Good point pat. Thanks and Happy Holidays to you and yours. Cheers!
• China
27 Dec 10
well ,first of all ,i think everyone has his own thought ,sometimes is right ,sometimes you are right ,i think the real thing is that if someone is wrong ,you can give the right theory to him/her ,or sometimes they can give you the right answer ,so it is a good way to learn right thing to replace the worng one, we need different voice to correct some wrong thought in our brain ,or just listen other people's opinions ,just to improve your idea ,make it much better . just as an old saying :it be never too late to learn
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@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
I disagree to disagree LOL! The mere thought of considering the disagreement is an acceptance of possible options or a way of opening new perspective. After all an healthy discussion requires two opposite standpoint. It's just a matter of weighing things which do you think best fits the situation.
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• Netherlands
27 Dec 10
I think it's really important that people don't always agree because otherwise discussions wouldn't even be possible, they would just be regular conversations. when someone disagrees with you, you can try to convince them that you're right and have a nice discussion with them. I think it's important that people disagree sometimes, because otherwise conversations would be a lot less interesting. It's always nice to have a good discussion about a subject that interests you
• United States
27 Dec 10
it doesn't bother me when people disagree with me. I think people are entitled to there own opinion and it would be a boring world if everyone always agree to everything that had been said. I think it makes things interesting as long as there is no rudeness or bad attitudes and disagree nicely but to the point.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Dec 10
well, as you say, that is the purpose of a discussion, isn't it??? if all the people who responded to your discussions agree with you, then it will be no fun at all... some disagreements will add color and excitement to a discussion... that's what i think... take care and have a nice day...
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@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Part of what makes a discussion is to have an assortment of opinions. I do not start very many discussions, and I do not like heated disagreements, where people are rude or hateful. I like to step into mild disagreements and try to knit in the varying opinions.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Dec 10
hi savypat Happy New Year I also love it when others are honest and sometimes disagree as that is what having a discussion is all about and I have at times learned that my own opinion might need to be' changed too. As long as we all state our own opinions with respect and kindness its a great discussion that gets different opinions.. You know in a a discussion among neighbors there will all sorts pf opionions and nobody gets upset as we all have a right to join in.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Dec 10
I think that disagreement actually does open up the chance for a good discussion as long as it stays civil. I am not offended at all when there is someone that has another opinion or disagrees. I think that we actually learn form disagreements at times. Gives us a different perspective.
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• Singapore
27 Dec 10
So far, I've had slightly a few of some who kind of disagreed with me, but they replied in a friendly way, which was what made my day and made the discussion even more interesting Well, what's a discussion? It's something like a debate where there's the agreeing and disagreeing side, right? A discussion does not necessarily need to have all agreeing responses. I feel a good discussion needs to have people who agree and those who disagree. Like that, there'll be more opinions and the discussion will be filled with more quality
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
dear pat, there is nothing wrong with disagreeing. everyone has its own opinion. its the way some disagreements are said. there should be no offensive languages and words. everyone should respect each other hence the sentence should point to the topic without insulting the one who made the discussion. have a very nice day. ann
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@Suminundu (192)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 10
I agree with you. If discussions have nobody to disagree or have no disagreement at all from others then those are not discussions. From the disagreement, we will learn to think rationally, wise and unbiased. When other people disagree with our points, they are widening our critical thinking skills.
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• Ecuador
27 Dec 10
If your only purpose when creating a discussion is to have a lot of responses and earn more, I think that you may feel good when people disagrees with you. Personally I just create new discussions when I have something that I really care about, when I really need to say something, and in the most of cases people agree with me. So, I'd continue discussing with that person that disagrees, till reaching a middle point.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 10
I don't expect everyone who responded to my discussion to be 'yesmen'. Like in any good government there need to have a strong opposition party in order to pass the bill in parliament. Here without disagreement the discussion would not be able to reach a concrete solution to the topic discussed.
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@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
26 Dec 10
It is my experience that I often learn something from the people who disagree with me. Sometimes they introduce me to a new perspective and I like that. I remember one of the first discussions that I started. When I started the discussion I was pretty convinced about my own opinion, but someone mentioned some of the advantages about the opposite opinion. That made a lot of sense to me and it made to realize that it wasn't quite as simple as I had imagined, and I learned something from that. When I start a discussion I think it is nice to hear all sorts of different opinions and thoughts, and I think that makes the discussions more interesting.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Dec 10
It's o.k. if someone disagree with me, but i'm more than thankful if people are not rude and arrogant because i hate that. Usually when someone doesn't think like you, he is trying to show you how this person is something more than you, because of more experience, because of more knowledge or because of something else. That's what i hate. Everyone got the freedom to write what he wants in my discussions, just to be nice and kind, not rude and out of tolerance.