I am confused that almost cried this New Year.

Pasay, Philippines
December 31, 2010 12:36pm CST
I was able to attend the mass for the New Year's Eve with my family. I don't know the feeling that there is something that makes me upset but I think it is because when I fought with my former friend who have cheated me in the sense that he have not paid me for the obligations that I have done for him. Maybe I almost cried because I am reflecting that I still want to forgive him but then I am still seeking for justice. It happens that we were fighting yesterday since he accused me of sending text messages by playing pranks. He just told me that he already want to forget all the bad things that happened in 2010 as part of learning experience. He has a point and can take it but the worst there is he was not sincere and he is still fooling me.
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@PDBME2 (1023)
• United States
31 Dec 10
We were talking about forgiveness at church one time and they said it's always the one that wants to be forgiven to make the whole thing sound so easy. I heard a pastor talk about forgiveness that in a sense people want to say I'm sorry but never suffer the consequences for what they did. Only God forgives to the point where He won't remember if you ask but people? A lady told me once that she told someone "stop asking me to forgive you ask God now..." All suggestions to help you get through. It's hard to go on when they keep doing the same thing.
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• Pasay, Philippines
1 Jan 11
That is actually the reason why I am not yet ready to forgive him. I am willing to let it go but then I would honestly say that it is really hard. I am hoping and my boyfriend even told me that I should pray that I shouldn't see him because my feelings would be rattled that would remind me of the worst bad experience. That is also another reason why I refused the request of my friend's former investor that we will meet each other and reconcile because I know it for a fact that my friend was not sorry for what he did hence I am sure for the fact that he is going to repeat the same thing if not to us then with other people. Yes we don't have business with it anymore but it is a reminder that he was not sincere. As the President of the Philippines say that "There is no reconciliation without JUSTICE". The moving on and forward that my friend is talking about was all about escaping from the challenges that he have encountered. I think I am being emotional because of our friendship that was already damaged.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hi there, Metatronik. Shhh... Don't be upset anymore. It is not your problem if he keeps on fooling you. Well, if he still does. Forget the past and forget him as well. Who needs a friend who couldn't be honest with you? Though this is sad but you have to face the fact that there are people like your friend. Hush now, forgive him if you want and if you can and move on now, dear. Let god take care of him from now on.
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• Pasay, Philippines
1 Jan 11
Actually he became my boss that he does not want to pay for the obligations that I have worked him in the company. That was for 2 months. I was really hoping for justice that he could give me. But now I am hopeless for it. And you are right as what my boyfriend told me as well that I should let him go and God will do the rest of it. That is what I am asking God right now.
• Pasay, Philippines
1 Jan 11
I think that must be opposite means. Never make your friend as your boss. I have gone so far regarding this matter and the National Labor have told me that my case was not really winnable and they gave me an advise that I should charged it as experience.
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, Metatronik. I do agree with Ravilla here. You can file a complaint against him in the labor department. I hope you can provide them the necessary evidence... Such kind of a boss should be taught a lesson or else he will keep doing his abusive manners...
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@goldie77 (168)
1 Jan 11
sometimes we have to let go of friendships because they are no longer good for us. i had to do that with a long time friend who was nasty to me once too often.I didn't see her for nearly 4 years but in the end I saw her and we are friends again but she is more respectful now. She's had lots of time to think! But - you need to forgive your friend so that you have peace of mind -just tell him you forgive him but prefer not to have contact just now and then move on....
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• Pasay, Philippines
2 Jan 11
I am ready to let it go but in forgiveness I would honestly tell that I am not yet really ready for that but I am having it a little by little. That is what I am hoping for it would take time for me to believe if he have already change for the better and realize the wrong doings that he have done unless if he is really born to play dirty tactics on this world.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
31 Dec 10
maybe you became emotional while you were attending mass and reflecting on your friendship with that person. yes, you could be confused and having a dilemma on whether you really want him back or not after all that he has done to you in the past. i say, search your heart. it's really only you who can tell if you ought to take him back or not. you have your reasons for not believing his sincerity and if you think you will only get hurt more if this assessment of yours turns out to be correct, then decide. real friendships may not always be about good times, laughter, and fun, but if you think you are not being treated fairly then get the cue. but also try to think about the other good points that this guy has as a friend, then move on from there.
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• Pasay, Philippines
1 Jan 11
You are right there I think I almost cried because of the friendship that has damaged. I just listened to my boyfriend as a good influence person that I should let him go even the fact that I am not ready to reconcile. Because it is expected that the fate will charged him soon. That is actually the meaning that I am willing to let him go.