we always want to be legal =(

@tiina05 (2319)
Philippines
December 31, 2010 9:07pm CST
hi guys!.. I've been in a relationship so many times but my parents doesn't know about that Because I know that they wont allowed me they want me to study first before getting in a relationship. (sad =(..) actually I also don't want to say it to them because I know to myself that It wont take any longer .. hehe. but now that i have my serious relationship we wanted to be legal in my parent? but i don't even know how to do it? what if they did not allow me? what am i suppose to do? please help me..
4 responses
@shattered (1731)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
I guess your parents worry for your future. As a parent myself, I would like my children to be honest to me. If there is a point of conflict, it can be discussed intellectually. BUt it would depend on your personality and that of your parents as well. Understand your parents reason for not allowing you, maybe you are too young to understand the implications of a serious relationship and its ramification for your life. It could also be because they just want you to be honest to them and your honesty could be a sign of your being a responsible child. Again it would all depend on your relationship with your parents. You should be in the best position to know hoe to inform them of your relationship.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
I understand what was my parent reason but how about me? they understand what my reasons is???? yes. yes. I will try to tell it to them but I am so scare to do it. what if they still don't allow me?? my family and I are very close I am just to shy to tell something about myself.
@shattered (1731)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Have you tried telling them your reasons? For that matter, what are your reasons? If you haven't told them how would they understand you? Its good that you are close with your parents, I guess that should make it easier for you to tell them. If you have shown that you are responsible enough to handle a relationship, I believe they would understand to a certain extent. But it still depends on your background.
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
I thought: what is the parent's decision is for your good. But if the decision was inconsistent with what you expect, try to give an explanation to parents about the reasons that makes you different opinions whit their whises.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
yes , yes that is for my own good. thank you so much everyone.! I will do everything that you say. I'll explain properly and bravely. thank you..
@spencari (265)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
one think to do is... responsible with our life.. how? : get a good mark, get good career, and may be achievement for the future time.. your parents actually never say no for it... but they afraid you could not run both and afraid you will fall down.. if you ready with the consequences why not ? but remember a mirror can not burn pieces of paper when its not be focused
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
I am responsible, I have a good mark , I am still studying for a good career. yes, I realize that though they are just to afraid for me but I can manage my life and whatever the consequences is I am ready for it . "Remember a mirror can not burn pieces of paper when its not focused" Love this.. thank you...
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hi friend, here is a simple phrase "the truth will set you free" specially to your parents. How you can know that they don;t want your relationship even you did not tell them? It is natural and common to parents not allow children for early relationship specially for a younger age, definitely they will say study first. So I mere suggestion show to them tha you are serious to your study than to your relationship - if reverse naturally parent won't allow... see you around
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Actually sir, I really did do my part to study very hard for them to allow me. but i think that wasn't enough . I am in the age so I know what is the right and wrong I wont do things that will break my own dream.