Do you feel bad when people decline or say no to you?

@jennbart (1332)
Philippines
January 1, 2011 3:41am CST
There are people who feels so so bad when they are declined by others. They think they are not appreciated etc. Do you feel bad when people say NO to you?
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@braimer23 (108)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
it depends to the situation, if someone declined you with a negative expression then we do feel bad especially when it offends us, she or he says no to you, with a reason then we should consider that without feeling bad...
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@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Exactly! Some people just cannot accept a no. Sometimes people should also understand that not all things that we like to do are also liked by others. :) thanks!
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
5 Apr 11
Yes I understand, I am the kind of people that feel sad if I am rejected. I think its lack of self-esteem. I am trying to be stronger and more intelligent. Though! Blessings!... Dainy
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Oh yes. I second the motion. :)
@chiyosan (29848)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Yes of course i will feel bad and id feel i am offended too if i was declined a help that i know this person can really really help me anyway. I guess though sometimes we really ought to understand them that they might not really have means to help us. Im just letting it go but i always keep it in mind so that i do not put myself to shame again asking for help frm the same person who already declined me.
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
5 Apr 11
I feel bad too, and offended, I think that´s why I got involved in church ministry, and they I feel disappointed. I think I have a low self-esteem.
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
21 Mar 11
it depends about what and about what issue people say to me no!!I know some people in reality that when you give a negative response also on stupid things they really disappointed so much or become hysteric...eheh...so i am not one of those..
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
hi, for me, it depends upon the situation, but most of the time i dont blame them even they declined me or say no to me.
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
1 Jan 11
Of course,we will feel upset when being declined by others.We all have a sense of pride when being praised and adored. I think when we are declined,the first thing we should do is to think it carefully: why i am declined?am i asking too much from others?is my demand unreasonable?or is he or she saying no just because he or she don't want to help? Having considered all the above,we can make some conclusions. We will know do we need to not take he or she as a friend in the future,or things we should amend. Actually,thinking about the reason of being declined will help you a lot. It will you see more clear of yourself and others.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
20 May 11
For me yes. It makes it worse when it is something important. However, I can control it immediately by calming myself down. But the thing is, my face would turn sad, which is really a hint for people to know that I have problems.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
8 May 11
My principle is "What you do not like any other is not" ... and I noticed that the little that I do not feel any better when they are denied .... I've learned not to refuse people to feel bad .... . But now I realize that this is a mistake ... .. because if I ask some simple things in general and not in any way try to make people around me who are not quite the same and try to exaggerate the requirements. Often feel they are fooled, but the shame they can not say no, do not feel bad about "poor" ... .. yes, and I suffer for our cowardice assuming refusal.