I feel lonely

China
January 2, 2011 5:58am CST
I do not know why,suddenly it hit me.Have you ever encountered it? Just now,I get information from internet,it is said that loneliness is attachment of missing someone badly,I do not know whether I miss someone.I only feel that my heart seems lost somewhere and I am the worst man in the world.Maybe it is right,she suddenly appear in my mind. For my part,I am very confused my love,my careers and everything.Why I exist in the world,I want to disappear.
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18 responses
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
A lot of people think that loneliness is the same as isolation. That is not the case. Loneliness can be strengthening. Feeling lonely is the worst of experiences. We believe no-one is paying attention in us, wouldn’t mind if we are there or not. In my opinion, this is utter torment.Call someone when you’re sad and tell them of your situation. Then sit back and notice how they respond. Give yourself and your friend a chance.
• China
2 Jan 11
Thank you for your good advices!Maybe I will feel better later.
• South Korea
2 Jan 11
I feel you there buddy..I think everyone of us here encounter that feeling once in a while... Before I used to think that I am lonely most of the time.. but I dont know One day I realize that being lonely is a choice... So its beyond our decision whether to entertain it.. and of course yes it is hard to stay positive most of the time.. But lets not spoil or let this loneliness blind us to appreciate those simple things that can make us happy.. and dont forgot to pray:)
• China
2 Jan 11
Yes,thank you for responding.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
6 Jan 11
Feelings of loneliness are normal for all of us. It is a matter of learning to like your own company because everyone has to be on their own every once in a while and sometimes it can be for long periods. It sounds to me that you need to find some activity that you enjoy doing to keep you occupied. Have you considered joining a club of some kind where you can meet people, make friends and look at life more positively?
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
been there.. i feel you. but keep your head straight. relax.. in every thing you think you can or might do. relax first.. think of everything you have in your head that you wanna do multiple times. 'cause it'll affect your emotions right now. i was very sensitive about everything that time. and i kept crying and so weak if everything doesnt seem to be ok with me. pray. eat well. and try to smile even for a while. appreciate small things. divert ur mind whenever ur thinkin something sad. call your love ones.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
One time at work I felt so depressed with what's happening with everything in my life that I just cried. I was so frustrated. It dawn on me that even if I wanted to do so much I just can't and that all of these things just came crashing down on me leaving me so worked up. When I felt this way I really ask God what my purpose in life is... Then it will come to me that everything is with purpose and that I should be happy that God gave me my life and my time to be with my family and friends.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
3 Jan 11
Life is like a roller coaster. There are up and down days. If every day when you are down, you feel like disappearing, you won't get to taste the sweetness when life goes up. There was once a time when I was really really down and one of my friend offered me this advice which I think may be apt here. He says, "life in the short run in a misery, life in the long run is a comedy." When good days return, may it bring a smile on your face and joy in your heart. I hope it helps the rest as well.
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
3 Jan 11
sometimes i feel like that as well... especially when i am all alone and my hubby is at work... and my mind start to think and imagine weird things... but please do not say that you want to disappear from this world just because you are feeling lonely and confused about this life at the moment... i believe the feeling will go away with time... just be strong and don't give up... take care and have a nice day...
@jhartana (1085)
• Australia
3 Jan 11
Yeah I got the same feeling before. When I had this feeling all I did was to find something that makes myself busy. Don't think yourself as a worst man in the world because you need to know that you are actually better than you think. Use your brain my friend and start to think something positive, something that will make you stand out from others. People around you may start looking to you that you can do this. You also may gain new friends, who knows? Most importantly you just need to pray and ask God to look into your problems and He will surely get you out of them.
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
dont say that!! i once experienced that loneliness you felt and i thought i can get it from someone i miss but most of the time the happiness you want to get was just surrounding you. you just have to be more eyes open about everything you have and prayer is really helpful!! God can always cheer you up@@God bless=))
@piya84 (2591)
• India
3 Jan 11
I checked your age right now to see if you are from same age group or not and yes you are.I am in same mood right now.I think its because at certain age we have different priorities.Till date i was running 24 hours here and there for higher achievement in education and then business,when i have now achieve what i want then suddenly loneliness has hit me.Till date i never gave too much importance to relationships as i was running behind something else.Now suddenly i am feeling need of man in my life.I have never feel it this much strongly before this. Unlike you i am not missing someone from my past.
• United States
2 Jan 11
It is time for a breather. I feel you need time for yourself to figure out what has to date worked and what has not. You should find the time to figure out what you truly want and what you do not. Try some other interests that perhaps may remind you of what you appreciate from what you have now and or what you want to make changes with. Good Luck to you.
• United States
2 Jan 11
Hang in there. Try to just take it one moment at a time. You are here and I hope you find your bliss and you will stay. I know how hopeless life can be and all I can do is say hang in there and it does get better. And if you ever need to talk , send me a private message.
@ZaLife (27)
• Romania
2 Jan 11
Man it was never created by God to be alone.Yes I experienced this lonly feeling a time and its very hard to live in this way but i seached for a person to be with me and so we to complete each other.This helped me very much.
@offlimits (601)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
I think I encounter it a lot more than a number of average people. Haha. Well there would really be times that we experience sudden loneliness inside us, like what you said it may indicate that 'we miss someone.' But I don't think that's always the case. In myself I somehow know the reason why.. I believe I've always been 'empty' inside. I won't really explain it further, but what I'm saying is that we people sometimes overthink things, that's why we develop negative thoughts. Sometimes we're the ones who make problems for ourselves when in fact there's really nothing wrong. I know you'll be able to overcome that loneliness sooner or later when it's all clear to you, just give yourself some time.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
2 Jan 11
stop feel confused and let go that feel of loneliness!when you feel depress you will start thinking negative things and this will let yourself down.i am very sure you need to do many things right now.have you ever wonder why happy people never ever thought about loneliness?why they suddenly forgot to feel lonely when they are happy?people will only feel bad when they are facing problems.so get something which will boost up and cheer yourself and clear your mind from that 'loneliness' part!
• United States
2 Jan 11
I have felt lonely before, many people have, but you just have to find ways to get rid of the loneliness. You have to busy yourself. Read, exercise, make realistic to-do list and follow them, volunteer for things, just find a lot of things that will keep your busy.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
2 Jan 11
wow, that is really deep thought of you. Have you ever consider you might need something to fulfill your heart at the moment to fill up your emptiness? Maybe you missing the woman in your life, or something you don't have but someone already has. you are the one who gonna fathom this one.
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
2 Jan 11
now you stop talking so foolishly...one day my friend you just hang in there ya hear