Is it impossible or funny if u've sisterly feelings for someone ?

India
January 3, 2011 9:44am CST
I've sisterly feelings for a person who does not belong to my family. i don't know why n how but i really care about him, but when i told about this one of my friend she was in doubt that he may be my crush. I know it couldn't be that type affection, because i don't get jealous or get hurt if he flirt with girls or don't talk with me, i've no interest to interfere in his any relationship. I just become happy if i hear that he's is doing good in life and succeed in his life. As per Indian culture i'd requested him to become my brother and he also accepted it happily and tied "Rakhi" in "Rakhsa Bandhan".He's also no sis, only one bro.He was really very happy and he used to praise about me infront of his girlfriend but he never praise me infront of me.He helped me in many ways unknowingly. But oneday don't know how but he started ignoring me and i couldn't find anything wrong. Still i tried to know the reason, then accidentally his girl friend picked up his phone and she also got astonished about it. She asked him about it but he insulted me badly. From that day i didn't even try to keep any contact with him, but i forgive him.As he is two years elder than me, i respect him. "From that day i used to asked to myself is it wrong to 've sisterly feelings for someone who is not ur blood related?" He has recently fulfilled his dream and I'm really very much happy for that, though now we are not in contact and we'd a misunderstanding for 2 years before.Still i really love him and wish him a beautiful life ahead. The only wish i've that any how i could see him in his uniform (IAF, which was his dream), i know it is difficult and i can't. Because of him i'm in mylot,he had suggested me to join in, that's why this is my favorite .
4 responses
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
There's nothing wrong with having a sisterly or brotherly feelings for someone. That's why the tags "soul mates", "soul brothers" and "soul sisters" exist. He's just a brother you never had.
• India
3 Jan 11
Thank u MsPatriciaDV , for the information abot soulmates, soul brother and soul sister.Don't know why many people react stupidly to sisterly feelings.
@gnomeland (421)
3 Jan 11
hello, there is nothing wrong with having sisterly feelings for someone outside of your family. I have been 'adopted' by my friends family even though i am middle aged we get on so well that they are like my younger sisters. this is a new year so an ideal time for you to mend bridges with this man. ring him or send him a letter just saying hi and how you have missed his company. say how pleased you are for his success and say what you have been doing since you last met. keep the conversation light and leave your number or address for him to reply. I bet he feels the same but someone has to make the first move. good luck!
• India
3 Jan 11
Thanks gnomeland,do u think i've n't tried? i've tried many times but failed. Anyways thank u for your suggestion .:)
• India
10 Jan 11
I dont think there is anything wrong in it. Because relations are not only based on only blood connections. Some time frnds also get so much close, that we feel like we are sisters. My best frnd and I are like two sisters. we studied in same school then same college and now we work in same company thats why we stay in same flat. We really care for each other. Even in my family also, my parents love her so much. Same as her family also love me very much. Though I have my own sister, it always feel like we are three sisters.
3 Jan 11
It is alright to have a sisterly feeling for someone that is not related to us by blood. We just find this person close to us as if she was related to us. There are a lot"s of people who tend to accept someone as their own because of the special bond that was developed between us.