How to tell if someone is a fake friend vs a bad friend.

United States
January 4, 2011 12:15am CST
Ok so I personally have a few friends who are pretty fun people to hang out with and to talk to, but sometimes I wonder if they are fake friends because of an issue I have with most of them. I enjoy being around my closer friends, but what I dislike about them is that they don't seem to care about my problems and don't really listen to me when I talk about them. Or they just entirely ignore what I said and go back to what we were talking about before as if i never said anything about any problems I might have. I am just wondering if they are fake friends or just bad friends. I am thinking they are bad/not very good friends instead of fake cause I am pretty sure they wouldn't sell me out...so I am sure they aren't fake. However, since true friends stick with each other and care about helping each other or at least listen to each other's issues I'm thinking I have some pretty crappy friends. Do you have people like that in your life, and how do you deal with them? Also do you feel that fake friends and bad friends are the same thing or somewhat different?
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14 responses
@vycess (1590)
• Saudi Arabia
4 Jan 11
There's just two kind of friends for me, true and fake one's. True friends are always ready to listen to your problems,always here through good and bad situations. They tell the truth even it hurts you. There are also some people who are just here searching for a temporary companionship. You will feel that in your self if they are really valuable persons.
• United States
4 Jan 11
Ok... To be honest I sometimes feel like my crappier friends are fake friends, but most of the time I don't want to feel that way. Though you are probably right.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I think a true friend would listen to your problem and offer suggestions to make things better. If they are not responding to the problems you mentioned to them maybe you should turn the subject back and ask them for advise.
@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I've had friends that seem to care and then backstab/badmouth behind my back. You never can tell about people..some will lie right to your face others will do it behind your back. I think the true friend will be there no matter what-only time will tell.
5 Jan 11
Proper, honest and decent friends are there for you when you most need them, no matter what. They will be by your side when you ask them, they will listen and do all they can to help you. This also has to be the same for you with them. If you are listening to them and helping them and making it clea r that you will always be there for them and yet when you have a problem and would like help from them or just like to chat about it then they should be there for you and listen to what you have to say. If they are unable to do this then what kind of a person does that make them, never mind what kind of a friend. I would not have friends like this, i could not call them friends if they would not listen to me as i do for them. Luckily i have a good group of friends who i can trust will be there for me when i need them.
• India
5 Jan 11
I don't find any difference in friendship. A friend is a friend, that's all. Only a hand picked ones come very close to you, to your problems, to your character. You can call them your intimate friends who are true to their character. You can share all your problems with such friends, get good advice from them and some times great helping hand also in times of need. Otherwise, it is not befitting for you to discuss your problems in a gathering when the total mood is naughty and boisterous.
@magenn (78)
5 Jan 11
Bad is bad and fake still bad. For me theres a little bit difference of bad and fake tho they are same bad!!! Fake freind is acting like they are nice person but they do backfight against you, engaged in gossip. Bad friends is really bad outright even the way he/she talk. What ever you say she/he will strike you easily without thinking if you hurt. Easy to insult you. All what you say/do she/he always give negative comments. She/he never appreciate you. I can't deal with this kind of person. What I did is I ignore them...evade if possible until they will quit talking to you and for me thats my wish.
• Romania
4 Jan 11
I quess a good friendship it`s much more than know and help with your problems.A good friend will here for you , anytime , anywhere.If you wanna know wich one is good and wich one si bad , you will never know that.In my country is a word : we , people , we have a lot of buddy`s , but real friend number is less than one hand fingers :).Don`t think much about that , in life you are alone with or without friend.Be smart and take your life in chest!
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
take note of this... those people who remember your name is a good friend, those who forgot sometimes shows no interest at you, in other words, fake friends ^_^
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
4 Jan 11
A fake friend is someone who just wants something from you by pretending to be your friend. A bad friend can be someone who you already think is your friend. You expect to be stomped by a fake friend. with a bad friend you may not see the end coming.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
hi, There are two kinds of friends for me, true and fake one's. true friends are always ready to listen to your problems, They tell the truth even it hurts you. and those fake friends only searching for a temporary companionship, and sometimes just because of their benefits or own interest.
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
For me they are fake. A friend can help you in all of your problems. But in your case, they don't listen to you. Actually, maybe they are only a "user friend". If I were you, confront to them to them and tell "Why you don't listen to me when I have problems?"
@Liliac26 (558)
• Romania
4 Jan 11
True friends should always be there for you and lend you a ear when you feel like talking about your problems. Friendship isn't only about spending time together, it's also about offering support when it's needed. To be honest, I've had very few true friends in my life, but numerous friendly companions, if I can call them that. And I think it's all right. Real friendship takes a while to develop. As to your second question, it seems to me that fake/bad friends are those people who pretend to be your real friends, but let you down when you need them the most. A bad friend is always a fake friend, so I guess they are the same thing.
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
4 Jan 11
Unfortunately, such people are there in everyone's life. There is nothing called good friend or bad friend. It's actually, friend or enemy. If you call someone your friend, his/her behavior towards you, can be explained as follows: 1. S/he will certainly have interest in you and all the things that you do. 2. If someone has interest in you, S/he will certainly listen to you (with interest) and remember your words for long time. 3. They will never compare you with themselves. E.g. Ah...you have a good bike, I don't have. (Friends never even this like this) 4. S/he won't mind asking you for help and at the same time, S/he will always be ready to help you, no matter whether you are right or wrong. 5. In his/her sentences you will find "We" or "You" instead of "I". 6. You will see a kind of peace in their eyes when they are with you. 7. Their body language will be calm when they are with you, often while talking to you, friends will look at the sky and share their feeling and thoughts with you. 8. S/he will always give first preference to you for anything. 9. S/he will always ignore your mistakes and in most of the cases, will honestly tell you, if you are wrong. They won't hide anything from you. If people around you are not like this, I would suggest you to be alone rather than wasting your time with your enemies who may harm you at any point of time for their own purpose. Enjoy myLotting!!!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
4 Jan 11
Maybe they are just not good at that sort of thing. Sometimes people feel uncomfortable talking about personal things and don't know what to say.