When hanging out with friends do you feel left out sometimes!?

United States
January 5, 2011 12:51am CST
Sometimes when hanging out with friends I feel left out and I'd just resort to playing games on my phone. Sometimes you can't relate to the topic or you aren't interestedand fake it to be interested and talk.. And if you have no idea about the topic you don't want to act as if you know and make yourself look like a fool.. Have you ever been in this situation?? What did you do?!
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11 responses
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
hello, Hang up with friends are fun but if you only do it sometimes or not always. Maybe in the time that you feel out of there topic its better to shut your mouth than looking stupid or pretending. It happened to me lot of times with my friends but they share it first to me so that everyone of us will be related to that topic. Or sometimes if one of us cant relate we stop the topic and start another that can everybody relate. that's it.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
That's kind of weird.. We don't talk and go everyone cool with the topic? It just goes with the flow. Thanks for sharing though.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Its Okay friend as long as it makes you feel better. As a good friend each and everyone need to understand one another. Good Luck to you. ^_^
@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
5 Jan 11
It doesn't happen to me very often, I'm a rather social person and I have a lot of friends; but it does happen when the boys in the group start discussing about cars and vehicles, a subject which bores me a lot, and when the girls talk about children - a subject of which I know nothing. I can only wait for them to change topic, what else can you do? And keep myself entertained in the meantime looking around.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
I am social too but it depends on the crowd I hang out with. That's a good idea, change the topic. Thanks for sharing.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
5 Jan 11
This happens to me sometimes, and I don't worry about it. Just because they're my friends doesn't mean that I'm going to be interested in all the same things they are. I listen politely if I'm being spoken to, and if I'm not involved at all int eh conversation I might play on my phone or look at a magazine.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Yes, I agree & I do the same thing! thanks for sharing.
@shaggin (71573)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I dont really ever hang out with friends. My friends either are all married and dont go out except with each other or my friends go out with each other and dont invite me. When I go out I always invite people to go with me. I havent been out in so long I feel like I'm going to explode from boredom lol. The only people willing to hang out with me are men and I'm sure they only want one thing so I just dont go out.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Aw :( I am sorry to hear. I hope you make some friends. It is lonely sometimes. I'm still young so hardly any of my friends are married but it seems as if they are cause they have boyfriends! I have a boyfriend but he's fine with me going out.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
5 Jan 11
I experience that really often, happened that way that the friends of my boyfriend started to be friends to me too and i feel that way every time they play poker. I'm bit annoyed and i stay online while they play. Sometimes if they come for a coffee and start watching things on his computer i'm annoyed again... but doesn't matter, i just watch around. I love staring at people and situations or decoration. Pictures can be lovely.
• United States
6 Jan 11
Lol thanks for sharing [ =
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I'm like that all the time. I am a very quiet person when it comes to big groups or new people. I have a few friends that I spend one on one time with so I don't have a problem with talking to them but with a larger group I tend to hide out. I am Mexican but it's funny I don't even get along with most of the women from Mexico. I was born and raised here but I don't get along with most women because my customs are kind of different. I'm not from here or there it seems.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing & yeah I'm shy too. I'm open with my close friends but it seems sometimes I just can't relate so I'd stay quiet and use my phone. It is weird... but at least we admit it and not act like fools to try to fit in :P
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
when i was in high school, i felt left out most of the times. i believe i had grown to be a more tolerable individual, and add to that, i am more confident to worry about what other people have to say.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Good Day! Yes, sometimes I'm experiencing that kind of situation and I really hate to be out of place. I don't like the way I feel. Like you, whenever I experience that, I check my phone and pretend that I'm busy.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Lol yeah, I do the same its better than acting as if you know the topic & talking about it when you don't. Thanks for sharing!
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
i only feel that when i don't get in touch with my friends that often. then when we get together, they talk about something that happened to their lives that i don't know about. what i do is listen to them and make a comment here and there. at least i'm saying something right?
@lixiao (7)
• China
6 Jan 11
I am sorry to hear that when you hanging out but spend your time by palying the cellphone games,i think you could open your mind and join in them , if the topic they are talling is reslly boring to you ,you can start a new topic after they finished,or if you really have no chance to start a new topic,you could find one of a friend to talk anything you both like,after all,they are all your friend. Any way,when you go out for fun,you should cheer you up with your friends, it is really good to you! Good day!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
hi, yes,i experienced that sometimes, so when i feel out of place with my friends, i just used my mobile phone to read some old messages, or play some games. but sometimes i just listen to them even they didn't talk to me.