Is it alright for a husband to cheat as long as he's a good provider?

@EdnaReyes (2628)
Philippines
January 5, 2011 8:06am CST
I am surprised that a friend of mine had justified her husband's cheating by his being a good provider. I do not agree with her, how about you?
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Oh my goodness no as being a good husband means one who is going to respect, care and love his wife. It has nothing to do with whether he is good provider. In fact he really is not a good provider as I am sure the mistress gets some gifts and or money. Money which he is taking away from his family to splurge with other women. So tell your friend to look at that side of it if money is the only area she is considering. This is not good at all as every women deserves to be respected.
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@louievill (20296)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Very good point, he just makes it appear that he provides well to justify his evil deed, when in fact you just get a fraction of what is really for you or what you deserve.
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• United States
5 Jan 11
Absolutely I do not think any amount of money will ever cover and or justify his cheating on his wife. I do not get where her friends feels that is is okay for her husband to do.
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@louievill (20296)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
It's not right because a bad deed can never be justified by a good deed, it's like saying " I'm going to steal and give part of it to the poor".
• United States
5 Jan 11
Will it be safe if the husband had more then one mistress, so as long as he is a good provider?? I would not allow one as once it is okay one time it will be a repeated pattern.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 11
hi edna, For me there will be no excuses if you are a cheater, there will be no excuses for a wrong did even he is a good provider but still he is a cheater . Maybe your friend thinks about their family thats why she is justifying that as long as her husband provide everything it is fine to cheat her. have a nice day!
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Yes, absolutely right!
@Galena (9123)
5 Jan 11
definitely not. marriage vows are to remain faithful. there are no marriage vows to be a good provider. so being faithful is required of the husband. providing well is good, but not part of what marriage is all about.
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• India
5 Jan 11
Your friend has a typical alimentive type personality. She is too much depended on others for providing her basic needs. Her world revolves round her stomach. She's a philosophy and she is not going to change it not even if it's unethical. She's not understanding the simple truth that if her husband can cheat his wife, he can also stop providing her basic needs anytime. Infidelity is more basic to these kind of personalities. To make it worse he's not ashamed even a wee bit. Your friend has absolutely no confidence on her own capabilities. Or, she's too indifferent and lazy to make up for her own. Her indifference and feebleness also contributed in her husband's cheating on her. She needs counselling, as soon as possible.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Hello there! If a man cheats, whatever he does, he still cheated. Even if he gives you all the things that you need, I don't think it would justify the act. It is an act of unfaithfulness.
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@isloooboy (1739)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Jan 11
What do you mean by good provider ? is it acceptable ? I don't think even its called an justification. As per my knowledge is concern Husband is responsible to provide basic necessities to his wife and family. I don't think its an good sign to accept such a rubbish justification.
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@shuley (369)
5 Jan 11
OMG! No, I don't want to be cheated even if he is a good provider, it is his responsibility to provide the needs of his family.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Me. too, he can get out of the house, I can provide for myself,ugh!
@syoti20 (5295)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
I disagree. Cheating is never do good in every person especially in terms of relationsip. Tell your friend, then she also agree to the fact that its alright to cheat their husband also as long as the mother take care their kids accordingly.
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
6 Jan 11
EdnaReyes, I am sorry but with the current devastating incurable AIDS around, let's not kid ourselves that the man is just bring back the bread home alone. Care to take the risk and put the family on the line? I just do not think so, here.
@dodo19 (34284)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Jan 11
No, I definitely don't agree with this. Just because he's the provider, I don't think that this gives him the right to cheat. No matter what the reason, I don't think that cheating is right. It is completely wrong.
@swissheart (6486)
• Romania
5 Jan 11
I don't agree either. but maybe she is ok with it because she is afraid that if she leaves him she won't be able to sustain herself financially on her own.personally i don't care about the money. I want someone who loves me and it doesn't matter if he has money or not. i don't want to depend on someone. i can make my own money
• United States
5 Jan 11
I would never condone such stupidity in my relationship. he can leave if he wants to sleep around with others. There is no excuse for sticking with a person who can't at least be trusted.