Who had the most impact on your life?

@dorannmwin (36695)
United States
January 6, 2011 12:23am CST
Other than your parents who was the one person in your life that you can think of that had the most impact on the person that you are today? For me, I've been thinking about my ex boyfriend a lot lately and I really think that he is that person. He was really only a part of my life for a little bit over a year, but I don't think that I would be the person that I am today if it hadn't been for him. He taught be about tolerance and understanding people. He taught me that the little world that I grew up in was not the real world. Truth be told, if he hadn't been a part of my life, I probably wouldn't be married to my husband today.
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@aparajita (861)
• India
7 Jan 11
My professor. Not my immeiate professor though. While I was in the Hunanities ,she was in the Commerce. What I liked in her was her ways of dealing with students and staff alike. She was also in Fiene Arts an extra curricular activity I took part in also out of ineterest to try enhancing my art skills, just to be with her.Her techniques, the topics she broached on and the way she made me learn with insurmountable patience always made me look forward to meeting her.She was friendly with the students and loved novelty. She said that students come up with novel ideas and that there is a lot to learn from students. A teacher never ceases to be a student..All these things made me look up to her...
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
I thought this was a second part on your "exes" discussion. =) Well I am too young to answer that because I have more years ahead to spend to be able to answer that on a precise manner. My mom is great influencer while my bf honestly, I haven't been that submissive yet because I have my own ways to do things. But I could somehow say that he made a bit of a change in me. Just a bit. Because ever since we've met, this is who I am already. For the most part, I could say that I got it from inspirational books, seminars and prayers.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
There are a lot of things in my opinion that do have a lot of impact on the people that we are able to become in our lives. You are right by talking about inspirational books, seminars and prayers as something that has had a lot of impact on becoming the person that you are because of the fact that I can see how those kinds of things have had impact on my life as well.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Yep. But right now, I am forcing myself to be active on some small group sessions. I like to seek advice from elderly people. I am trying to look for mentors to guide me on all aspects of my life. That way, I won't get hard on myself when things turn bad.
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Apr 11
That is a good idea and perhaps it is something that I need to do for myself as well because of the fact that I have a tendency to be very hard on myself.
• India
6 Jan 11
We've similarities on this matter. I am also grateful to my ex in a few matters. She taught me what love is not. I loved her very much. I was practically dependent on her psychologically. Then after she left me, for the first time in my life, I started reviewing my philosophy of life. I started analyzing myself. I pointed out my own follies and insensibilities. I became more introspective. I started taking responsibilities for everything that happened to me. Then finally, when I got over her, a whole new world unraveled in front of me. I was bathed with light and wisdom. Now I have become fairly independent and strong. Immediately after I recovered, I met a girl who was experiencing a post-break-up trauma. I kinda treated her to recovery. This is a life time achievement for me. It entirely changed my life for good.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I think that it is kind of odd that there are people like you and myself that are able to look back on our lives and actually have something that we could thank our exes for later in our lives.
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• India
8 Jan 11
That's because not many people are ready to take all the responsibilities for the things that happen to them.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I do believe that you might be right. Besides that, after a breakup we don't want to have anything to thank the exes for because we are hurting at the time that a breakup happens.
@katsmeow1213 (29023)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I think everyone we come into contact with has an impact on our lives.. that impact may be small.. but small things snowball into big things. I mean, just coming across a discussion here on Mylot could make me more aware of something I hadn't thought about before.. I may try something new, or form a new habit due to this awareness. I can't really say anyone in my life has made a bigger impact than anyone else. Everyone I can think of has made some sort of impact, some bad, some good. My ex has made me less trusting and more skeptical.. but I don't think that's an awful thing in the grand scheme of life.. at least I'm on the look out for people who want to take advantage of me. I guess I'd probably have to say my kids have made the biggest impact on my life. They've changed everything about my life, and each day I still continue to strive to be a better person for them and a better mom to them.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
11 Apr 11
You are right that all of the people that we encounter in our lives do have an impact on the person that we do eventually become. I remember once talking about the fact that I was glad to have met all of the people that I've known in my life even if I didn't like them anymore because they each contributed a little bit of something to my life.
@kaka135 (13783)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 11
To me, it's my husband who impacted me the most, and he's continue impacting me too. Same as you, he's the person who made me become whom I am today, and also becoming the person I really want to be. He also taught me to be acknowledge the real world, and not to always think of the ideal world, also appreciate and understand the natures, especially human's natures. I am really grateful to have him as my very good friend, and now he has become my husband. I always refer him as my life mentor, as he has really guided me a lot in my life, and he's still guiding me. I think we are lucky to have met such a person in our life.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Now while I know that I said it was my ex that had the most impact on my life, that is because I don't think that I would be with my husband if it wasn't for him. However, more recently in my life, I think that the person that has the most impact on my life as it is today is my husband.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
my father almost had the most impact on my life but he was beaten by my husband. when i first met my husband in college, i was amazed at his joyful nature. he seems to be one who does not have a problem to worry about in contrast to me who seems to be carrying the world over my shoulder. he was not yet my bf that time and i asked why it seemed that he doesnt have a problem. he laughed at me and replied, "what would be my problem? why will i have a problem?" and he explained that he takes things easy and does not worry too much. he believes that things will be solved sooner or later. when he became my husband, he had unconsciously taught me a lot. from the trivial arranging of money bills to dealing with people. he is such an amazing person being physically challenged. he makes people laugh a lot. he has this contagious joy in him always.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I can see why your husband was able to beat out your father. Your husband sounds like the kind of person that I would love to have to be a part of my life as well because positive people are great people to be around.
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
6 Jan 11
The person that had the most impact on my life, even above my parents is my 4th grade teacher. It is because of him that I don't smoke, and I have at least somewhat of a positive self image. At a time when my parents couldn't afford to buy me boots, he had the classroom aide take me to the store and buy me boots. I'll never forget that act of kindness...and I was just 8 years old.
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• Indonesia
6 Jan 11
For me, my ex fiancee would be the one who had the most impact on my life except my family. He is the one who supported me to finished what I have started. I learn life a lot from him. Now that I broke up with him, i learn to be patioent and to be thankful for everything happen in my life.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I think that it is something that is very interesting that there are some things about ourselves that we will never learn if it weren't for the fact that we had relationships in our lives that went arwy in some way. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion and welcome to mylot.
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@veejay19 (3592)
• India
6 Jan 11
Throughout my life, till i reached the age of 40 there wasn`t anyone who really created an impact.Then as though it was predestined suddenly several spiritual figures started coming into my life one by one.I started getting a lot of experiences at the spiritual level.However there wasn`t anybody special who created a definite impact as through everyone of them gave me a great glimpse into the unknown.Then again as though it was predestined i came upon a great saint who gave me that one thing which showed me the right path.I knew that he and only he could lead me to my final goal of my life and in whom i found all the right qualities that made him the ideal person to follow.I consider him to be my Guru,though he is not in his physical frame but his teachings and the right techniques have come to me through his great grandson who i have taken as my spiritual guide in a physical body.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
That is really an interesting story that you've shared here. However, I do think that you are right that for some of us there isn't one specific person that has the biggest impact on our lives for the vast majority of our life.
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• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Its my husband who is most impact in my life. I love him so much and he made me change a lot especially my attitude. He always tell me to smile even if I have problems.....But my husband is gone...That's why I always cry and always thinking of him...I missed him so much...
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I'm so sorry that your husband is gone. My husband is very important in my life as well, but I don't think that he would have ever been a part of my life if it hadn't been for the changes I went through in my life during my relationship with my ex-boyfriend.
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• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Good Day! Well, the person who had the most impact in my life is my business partner whom i really love but he doesn't know that I love him. Right now, I've changed because of him. I'm pursuing to make myself better for him to like me that's why he'd the most impact in my life.
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@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
8 Jan 11
You know, you really should let him know your feelings about him because there is a chance that he might feel the exact same way that you do but he is too ashamed to let you know.
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• United States
8 Jan 11
I had some special teachers who definitely made an influence. I can still remember some of the things they said. The people around me presently make an impact on me also.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
Well, my ex is not one of the person having impact in my life today but my kids. They are the reason for me to live and they are the reason for me to find something good. Because I want them to be a good person in the future
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• United States
8 Jan 11
My daughter as I did not have a wonderful childhood and or upbringing. Against all obstacles I knew I had to be someone different but did not think it could be possible. Having my daughter made me realize that she is the one who allowed me to be who I am today, as I have cut off all the negativity from my upbringing and her existence made me realize the reason for me being alive today. I also have a son and love him dearly but if it were not for having her at such a young age I do not what would have become of me.
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• United States
7 Jan 11
My parents definitely!lol Secondly though, I have to say my children from the age of 19 y/o to present.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
7 Jan 11
For me, I think it would be my boss on a previous job. I came into a high profile position in a company were excellence was a norm. She headed our department with a big stick. You are pushed to your potential, or else you'll get broken down and have to find employment elsewhere. But, while being such a mean b!tch, she was also very loyal. She would defend and fight for her staff to the teeth. In a way she made me into the person that I am right now.
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
7 Jan 11
WOW...this is a hard question to answer. I believe that EVERYBODY we come in contact with has a large impact on our lives. In trying to narrow it down to one person, I'd have to say I have 2 people who were equally important!!! My first husband was extremely abusive so he taught me how to despise being abused which led to my undeniable stubborn & independent streak!!! For 30 years after my divorce my attitude was "it's MY way or the highway!!!" And I truly didn't care which they chose no matter how much I liked them!!! My last husband taught me how to love again!!!! Yes, we had our disagreements, but we NEVER fought!!! When I became stubborn, he'd just laugh. When I became independent, he found a way to show me that I could love & TRUST him without being hurt (both emotionally & physically)!!! If I'm honest with myself & truly give credit where credit is due...I would not have been able to love my last hubby so passionately had it not been for the first jerk!!!! My Mother taught me how to love unconditionally. She always said "You don't have to like them in order to love them!!!" It took me the better part of 55 years to understand what she meant!!! Then there were the young ladies I've taken care of over the years. Each had their own disability. Each & every one of them taught me patience & gave me the ability to not prejudge others!!! The things that most people couldn't see in them & used to judge them was a HUGE part of who they were!!! So, they ALL taught me to learn of which I speak before jumping in with both feet!!!
@patgalca (14133)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Jan 11
I think many people had an impact on who I am today. My siblings are much older than me. I was always shy growing up with those 4 older siblings, and even today I feel they boss me around. This is why I have a take it or leave it attitude when it comes to family gatherings. It is also why I have made sure the family I created is very close. My teenage girls are best friends. My EX-husband plays a strong role too because he was abusive. I know it was not my fault, that he had the problem. I decided I would never let anyone treat me like that again. He also helped me gain a stronger faith in God. We had tried for 6 years to have a baby, unsuccessfully. Six months after he left I found myself pregnant. I know it was God's will that I not have a child with that man. I would have been tied to him for the rest of my life. My current husband and children also play a role in who I am today. But isn't that what life is all about? We continue to grow every day. We never stop. Every person we encounter has some affect on us whether we know it or not.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
7 Jan 11
very nice to know that u had such a great person in your life....yes many times we realize late that what the person means to us...and what is his value in our life...for me i can't name any single person...but there are many from whom i learned small things that are useful today in life....
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• Pamplona, Spain
7 Jan 11
Hiya doran, My next Door Neighbours who were my Godfather and Godmother and her children one in particular Jean. We went everywhere together. She taught me lots of things and to be braver, be more daring in Sports and things like that. Taught me how to be stronger too. It broke my Heart when they had to leave us as my Godmother was very ill at the time and only had months left to live. Strangely enough she lived another 30 odd years hows about that then. I never got to see her again after she moved but I have heard a lot about her from my new found "sister" Jean. Although we are still separated by many thousands of miles the "feeling" is still there. Her Mother and Father were always my solace when it was getting to difficult for me to cope with it all. So these were the People who had most impact on my life until I met my Husband of course.