Treated different due to disability is so unfair

January 6, 2011 2:31pm CST
I have 5 kids and my 3 sons all have multiple disabilities including,epilepsy,adhd,autism,tourettes and cerebral palsy. I find that once people realise they have problems many treat them differently or are just rude and disrepectful,I have had to fight for everthing for my sons from schooling support to socailizing,does anyone have any tips or help I have become so fustrated as they are all between last year at school and college or finding work and once again The situation is again so hard as a parent I try to do all I can to help and support them but I feel constantly like the world is against them,Is it just me being to fretful or would you feel the same?
4 responses
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
As a mother you're doing well caring and protecting your children. Don't allow people's remarks destroy your spirit. Disable people have the same right as the normal and should not be treated rudely. Don't lose hope and keep on nagging your government for support and God will surely help you.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
Pi definitely agree with your response. Bombard the government for request of support so they will relent and give in to your request. Never lose hope and be strong for your children. Most of all, pray for God's help at all times.
@marguicha (97399)
• Chile
7 Jan 11
I´m very sorry that our world still has these problems. One thinks people are more openminded now, but it seems they aren´t. I want to tell you that not all the world is against them and that if you want to support them you have to find a supportive place for you too. I am speaking with personal knowledge of the situation. I have had problems of which I won´t talk about even here where I´m under a username. I have helped many people in my contitions by telling them that normality is just a word in statistics. There´s no perfect human being. And noone is so healthy as to throw the first stone (which, by the way, would only show his personality flaws). I am with you, and so are many people.Take care!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
7 Jan 11
It's unfortunate but hopefully will get better as time goes on. People react badly to things that are different or things that they don't know about. As people become more educated about developmental or physical disabilities, they'll be able to be more open-minded, but these things take time. I would feel the same way you do.
@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
6 Jan 11
Nope, it isn't you, it's the world's basic opinion, or initial reaction so to speak, to a disabled person. While here in Canada, we're lucky to have good governmental support, we still face the social stigma that there could possibly be something cognitively wrong with us even if it's clear that we're only physically disabled. I really don't think it's fair, either, and I've battled that ever since I was a kid. I grew up in the '80's so it wasn't as bad as say how I may have been treated at the turn of the century. (I'm visually and hearing impaired) My 2 kids have the same genes I have, unfortunately, so Hubby and I decided not to go for a 3rd child. Right now, 30 years later, I am grateful that my 2 kids have better support than what I had. I do find that the older generation is less accepting of disabled people than the younger generation, who's been exposed to just about everything in society, good and bad. I know it's not much, bit at least it gives an insight on how people react on an initial basis, based on my own experience. I know it's hard, but all we can do is educate ourselves, seek help with other parents with the same challenges as you have (I belong to a Facebook page where parents of children who are visually and hearing impaired discuss various issues). I also think maybe starting awareness about the particular disabities your children have, have you may be able to get some community support. All the best! :-)