do you STILL miss your ex-lover?

@asliah (11148)
Philippines
January 8, 2011 7:49pm CST
5 months ago, when my ex-lover broke-up, and sometimes im still miss him, and remember the things we do, why i cant forget him..... do you STILL miss your ex-lover? even you already have new lover? what keeps you missing him/her?
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@ladygator (3469)
• United States
9 Jan 11
There are times that I miss my ex still and that was about 10 years or more since we broke up. Since I was with him for 5 years its a pretty big part of my memory. I think that its perfectly normal to miss someone/or the idea of them. Thats what I came to the realization on, I missed the idea of our relationship. What I had wished it would be even while we were together.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
hi, wow,,its a great years you had shared each others,,, 5 years,,,,i wish i could have that too...
• United States
9 Jan 11
I feel the same, ladygator. I have missed my ex for two years, but in reality, I only miss the idea of us. It was never the best relationship, even though I loved him very much. I always thought that I could be the one to change him. In the end, I had to walk away. I miss what could have been.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
hello, Do you have a boyfriend now? maybe your present boyfriend now can't spent more time with you than your ex. I also experience that when I broke up to my ex-bf because I can remember a lot of thing to him that is why I miss him much but I tell it to my present boyfriend and he help me to overcome those feelings.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
hi, i dont have a boyfriend now so that i really miss to have it... and why you said that maybe my present boyfriend now can't spent more time with me?
• United States
9 Jan 11
It's natural to miss your ex-boyfriend especially if you were together for a long period of time. Personally and luckily I haven't been in the situation for a very long time and I hope to never be. I have been married for 10 years and with my hubby for a total of 5 years, he was my high school sweetheart. We are going on 11 years of marriage and we love each other very much. I am glad to be out of the dating life, I never really liked dating I always preferred to be in a committed relationship, luckily I meet him.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
wow....its a great,,,your so lucky...i wish i could have it too...
@Sissi321 (131)
• China
20 Jan 11
i have broke up with my friend nearly 20days, at first i will miss him, because i am used to have him in my life,miss our happy hours and our common dream,our plan for the future...but few days later, i understand i must forget him ...because past is past ,there is no need to miss him...now sometimes i think of him few seconds,but quickly i will forget...i think we should miss the past and remind us not to make the same mistake,and do the right choice for our happiness...
@yetsa76 (56)
10 Jan 11
I don't miss my ex-lover as a lover, she's still a friend though and we've a better friendship since.
• United States
10 Jan 11
I am married now, but I still miss my first love, and I love my although wife very much, often times, it is very hard to forget the first love in your life
• United States
10 Jan 11
I am married now, but I still miss my first love and often think about her even though I love my wife very much, usually your first love is bery hard to forget
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Good day! Well, there are also times that I miss my ex lover. I miss the times when we are sweet. I miss the times when we used to date and do funny things. I miss singing with him.
• Indonesia
9 Jan 11
I will ansewr the question with YES. Especially my lover at High Scholl. Even right now, her and me have our own family. I already mariage and she too. But, our love never end. Every night, me and her always see same star in the sky (but on different place) and every I or she make a call, we always say that we always miss each other.
@lazette (216)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
With the way my current lover treats me, takes care of me, adores me and loves me? No. Just, no. I'm perfectly content with my current, and I love him enough to erase anyone in the past, just as he has also done for me.
9 Jan 11
Hi asliah, It is common to miss someone that has been very close to us, especially someone we had a relationship with. What I do when I'm missing my ex is I call my closest friend and hang out somewhere new we never been to before. Sometimes going back to family and friends who loves you gets your mind off worries and lonesome. You can also talk to them about how you are feeling maybe they just got what you might need to get over your ex. ^_^
@voldrox (7204)
• India
9 Jan 11
Nope... I haven't been there in two years after came into a relationship. This is my first girl, and i intend to keep her my last one too. If i am breaking up for any reason, i am not going to get into another one soon. I can just imagine it must be hard not to think about our ex's. Good day, asliah.
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
yeah.. i miss him so much.. every time.. especially when you remember all of your good memories together.. :)
@PDBME2 (1023)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I used to think alot about my ex husband. I don't think it's because I still loved him, at least that is why I think but we broke up with alot of unanswered questions on my end. I finally got my answers last year when I ran into him. He is the same person, the jerk. He was very nice to me because when he left I was overweight. Well since then I have lost more than a hundred pounds. He ended up marrying this lady he had an affair with because she ended up pregnant. He has two daughters with her. I got to see them and his wife now seems like a snotty person if you ask me. He praises her for her cooking, which I can see because he looks like he weighs more than 300lbs! He complains that she can't drive, can't find work, wants the best in life, he admits to having had cheated on her, which is normal for him. I am happy that the questions have been answered finally after 18 years.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
Did you have a closure with your break up? What was the cause of the break up? Did you enter into a new relationship just to forget him? I think, the reason for missing someone is in connection with the manner of the break up. Although, it is normal not to forget the people we love before, an ex lover in particular. As for me, I had broke up with my ex last December, and yes I can say I still miss him because there is no closure. Hence, I only assumed that we are over. Moving on is quite hard because of that reason. It is still hurting and not only missing that I feel. Despite all those, I try to move forward and forget everything for myself. To have a new lover is easy, but is it fair? That is just my opinion because I had been in some relationships and I could already compare the mistakes. Love on the rebound will never be right. If it is only the MISSING that you feel then it is normal and fine my friend. But if you realize that you still LOVE your ex despite having a new, then that is what I am saying that is not proper. Hence, you should assess what you feel if it is just missing or something else.
• United States
9 Jan 11
Noooo not me, as my ex-husband was the most horrid you can imagine and thankfully was over as I would not be with whom I am with now. I suppose if an ex was wonderful then maybe but I can only speak for my past and no, never and glad I finally woke up. As it was the worst time of my life and would never want to revisit it.