Here I go thinking again....

@celticeagle (118276)
Boise, Idaho
January 9, 2011 9:57pm CST
I was thinking about something that was just said on tv. Time goes by so quickly in this life and none of us are ready when the time comes. So many things left unsaid. I know there were things about my dad's life I would have liked to have asked him about. And my grandmother's. So what can we or need we say to our love ones? What things do you want to ask them? Do you tell them each day that you love them? Have you come to grips with issues that have come to be in your family? Have you made repairs?
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@aparajita (860)
• India
10 Jan 11
I don't think saying things do much than acts done with love. I wanted to ask my father whom I loved and who is not there now, how did he come to meet an actor, what inspired him to take photography. Now when he is not there, and comes in my dreams when I miss him, I forget to ask him whatever I had thought.He just gives me the feeling he is beside me. It is important to say that we love them though, may be once or twice, just to give them the feeling of belonging however, in moments when we see them suffering secretly. It is said that feelings is the language of the soul and if you can speak in this language to your loved ones in whatever way you choose you need not worry,words will pour out automatically.The fact that the questions left unasked and has come now is just a reminder that how much ever busy we are we should never lose the closeness the bond that we share with our loved ones. It is the current times, race,money which has shifted our attention from our loved ones to ourselves. We need to maintain that personal touch all the time.
@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 11
But sometimes life gets so busy we don't get to say or do what we need or want to and the days go by and it just doesn't happen.
• India
13 Jan 11
There I go with my take on feelings again. If you are sincere in the way you deal with yourself in respect to others, relationships etc, communication of love will never cease to exist. the flow will continue even if you are unaware of it.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Jan 11
ya have to tell them each day ya love them. I sort of wish I asked hubby what he thought about when he was outside just looking around and down he street. SHould have also listened to stories grandparents talked about I listened to most but sometimes I ended up going to sleep for it was always at night and I just was lulled to sleep whe nthey were talking!
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 11
Ya, I wish I had asked things too when in the moment. And asked more from my grandparents. So many questions about their lives. Curious now, wasn't so much then.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Kids just dont think they need to know things at the moment but later we do. I have tried to tel my kids all they need to know and some maybe they didnt need to know!
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jan 11
Lots of questions have come up about my mom's family now that she's not around to ask any more. She was the oldest, and the younger ones don't remember quite as much as she did...
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Jan 11
That's too bad. I have all kinds of questions pertaining to my mom and dad and grandparents on both sides. I am just a real curious person and I think about things all the time I wonder about.
@bunnybon7 (36529)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jan 11
yes in the past 5 yrs. ive done nothing but talk with my kids about my time coming and they really dont want to hear it but they know how i feel and ive been sick so much. so they know all they need to about what i want and how much i love them, etc.
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jan 11
I don't think this subject is one people like all that much BUT it does need to addressed, especially in a situation like yours. It sounds like you have does just that. I sure hope things go well for you.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
10 Jan 11
Though I have not seen the tv program, I used to think the same topic at several times. Because the things are changing so fast around. Till now we have a very close relationship and I am so deep in love with my children. I know it won't stay long may be once they grow up. So it is my technique that I used express the feel of love by expressing it and making them understand also. But the interactions with others make them handicapped. ll the children around are not fully equipped or experienced in such a way and the morale of our children are easily get corrupted when they get indulged with a group of other social people. But I do my best to keep the relations in a pure and best way so far. thanks
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 11
Do our best is about all we can do.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
The family I grew up in, we were not fond of saying 'I love you' all the time. But now that I have a family of my own, I've grown to realize how important it is to say it every chance I get. I'm sure that there are things that I've done that I'm not proud of. And maybe my kids will find out about it as they grow up. But as long as I let them know that I love them, then I could at least have a certain peace of mind all the time.
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 11
Peace of mind is where its at isn't it?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I have a lot of unanswered questions too. I think that there will always be those for us that are left behind. I don't have the family relationship that I dreamed of as a child, but I am ok with that. It took me a long time to realize that my efforts alone could not forge a relationship with people that didn't want the same at the time. The ones I was close to are gone now. I do try to make sure that the people that are close to me know how much I care for them. I try to make examples that they will carry with them after I am gone and I also give them the "real" me. Not perfect, but trying hard at being good.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I do understand the "nutty" side of the family thing. I have confused a great portion of my life but I have come to terms with things and now that I am older..I try to understand things a bit more. Can I relate? No..but I can try to understand situations and such. Is it easier? Well..no..but it could be a lot harder. My mother wasn't a "peach" either but thank goodness she did not raise me. There was a time when I was not so thankful of that but I did come to appriciate that fact.
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@celticeagle (118276)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jan 11
Coming to terms. I think that is it in a nut shell.
@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
I learned from my husband that action speaks louder than word. My husband is not fond of saying i love you face to face. Even when we were bf - gf , he just said it once when he proposed his love to me. At all times, a simple kiss on the lips or a hug would tell me he loves me so much. At the house, when he asks me if i am tired so he could continue what i am doing in the chores, would simply means he loves me. At night, a tight hug and a kiss on the lips to say goodnight to each other would affirm our love for each other. Me, i would say so to my husband but he won't say it back but merely hug me tight.