I can't go online on facebook. I'm hiding from someone.

Philippines
January 11, 2011 8:01am CST
Good DAY! I'm having a hard time. I can't go online on facebook. I don't want to chat with this guy who really likes me. He's kind that's why I don't want to put him down so I'm just pretending that I'm busy but its hard. I can't chat with my friends every time he's online? I can't. I can't also remove him as my friend on facebook because. grrrrr, I can't explain. Its a long story. I just don't like him. How about you? Are you hiding from someone on facebook? :)
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31 responses
• United States
11 Jan 11
Being upfront with someone would be better i believe for you, there for hes not wasting his time and in the long run he doesnt get hurt as bad as well. You might want to think it over and write him a message on facebook letting him know how you feel about all of it. Its life and in life we have to put up with these things, ive done this just as well as you have and just had to come out and let them know about it. Its better this way believe me, you will possibly have a really good friend after all of this is done.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Thanks for response. I'll do what you said. :)
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
31 Jan 11
I agree, it is better just to tell us boys straight up, it might hurt us. But that pain is good, it helps us to know we are wasting our time, it helps you because we are less likely to bother you. It lets us both move on. Please, never spare our feelings, boys, if you haven't noticed are kind of slow, we need to be told things, straight, because we just don't really understand the hints, at least not until we learn, and we learn when a girl has the courage to turn us down directly, it happens a few times, we notice the pattern, and then you save many girls in the future the same frustration you had. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
• Australia
12 Jan 11
Too bad...i think you feel so innocent,but you have to do that.I don't like to hide for some reason or someone.because i have my private space, i have right to choose friend and chat with them, nobody can hamper me to do so.i know you maybe baffled by this situation,but you must do a choice for you and your friends.Don't make yourself entangled into this condition.
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Yes, I'll do my best. :) I'm just having a hard time removing him from my lists because he's really kind.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
This may sound rude but you don't have to limit your world because of someone you wanted to avoid. And, please, no matter how good that person to you is, he has the right to know that you can never reciprocate the affection he has for you the way he wants you to.It might hurt him, but at least that would put him in his proper place, that even if he keeps on bugging you, he can not complain if you keep on ignoring him because you told him the truth. Don't mislead or give him false hope by being nice and not telling him the real score. As for your question, no , I haven't done that. I'm not bothered seeing by someone I do not like in my FB page. I just keep on ignoring him. His chat messages, wall shares and even text messages. Eventually, he stops.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
He's flooding me, "bianca bianca bianca" and saying something that would make me feel pity that's why I don't want to chat with him anymore. I'm not nice to him. He's still hoping that's why I want to him to stop because he would just hurt himself. :
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I also do that. I dont wanna be seen online by my friends cause they always send a message and i find it a little hassle to reply back to their messages. NOt just in facebook that I appear to be offline but also in yahoo messenger and sometimes skype.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Oh yes. My other reason that's why I don't want to go online its because I wasn't able to reply all of my friends then they'll tell that you're ignoring them which is I don't like. So sometimes I prefer to go offline.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Oh well maybe you should tell him that you think of him as a friend or every time you talk to him you can use friend words to give him hints that you two are just friends that way he won't be hurt and everything will be good. That's what I did like I would always tell this guy oh hey buddy and whats up friend it actually did work so why not give it a shot and hopefully that will work so that you won't have to worry about it anymore. SO yeah I have hidden from people on facebook, but I don't do that because I really like to go on there to chat with my friends. SO what ever works for you I know that it is hard to put down a guy that's nice because theirs hardly any out there, that are actually nice. Or maybe you can consider giving him a chance and who knows you might actually like him because like I said it is really hard to find a nice guy out there. Wish you the best of luck on facebook, but don't feel like you have to be obliged to talk to him.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I like your idea! Thanks for sharing. I'll do it to make him stop but if he still keeps insisting that she wants me, I'll tell him frankly. :) Thanks fore responding. :)
@emma90 (530)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 11
I always appear offline in FB cause I feel so very distrubbed by the group that I joint there. That's the reason. I just need some information from that group. Happy lotting and have a good day
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
OH YEAH. those groups also disturb me but I just ignore them. Happy mylotting too! :)
• United States
12 Jan 11
No I am not hiding from anyone on facebook. However, you can block him and he wouldn't know it as far as I can tell. You can also show that you are off line even when you are on line on facebook. I have too many people who want to chat so I show that I am off line most of the time!
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I would just remove him from my friends list. That's what I'm going to do and I'll tell him frankly that I don't like him so that he'll stop. :) Thanks for responding. :)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
hi there. well as for me if i don't like a person at all, i won't waste my time having him on my facebook at the first place. most people that i really dislike are blocked so they won't find me at all. at your side however, i don't get why you couldn't just dump him, or delete him or perhaps, block him? you said you hated the guy yet you can't get rid of him in some way. :) that's odd. it confuses me. :) maybe you can get a spare account then re-add your friends from your first account EXCEPT that guy you've mentioned. and BLOCK him? so you could continue enjoying facebook without someone messing with you everytime you go online. eventually you can chat and stay updated with your friends. anyway, that "guy" wouldn't know about your spare account UNLESS somebody brags about it. :) haha. anyway, i'm only suggesting. on my part, i really don't like person hindering me from doing what i enjoy most. it's all up to you, think about it. :) enjoy mylotting and see you around friend.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I have a lot of friends there in facebook and I know all of them. I'll be having a hard time adding them again. I'll just block him after sending him a message that I don't like him. Oh i'm so bad.
@CRIVAS (1820)
• Canada
11 Jan 11
I would never hide from anyone. If you don't want to hurt this guy, the best thing that you can do is let him know that you are not interested in him in that way. By ignoring the problem, you are giving him hope (no matter how unfounded) that there is still a chance for you two. By not being honest with him, you are just going to hurt him more in the long run. Hope you do the right thing.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Yes. I'll just let him know no matter how kind he is. I just want him to be my friend? not a lover but he can't so I'll fix this up. :)
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
You can just simply ignore him without compromising your time with your social sites. You can also tell him frankly that you do not like him.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I'm ignoring him. I just can't tell him I don't like him because he's so kind but I'll try my best to let him know. :)
@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
12 Aug 11
I have hidden from people on yahoo messenger. I have a facebook account but I got caught up in the drama of the cooking games. I loved them but then you had to keep adding friends just to play the games. So I finally deleted everything and closed off all but a few close family and friends. What I like about yahoo messenger is I can go invisible to all friends unless there is one I specifically want to chat with. Hope you got your problem solved!
@cawoodhm (21)
• Northern Mariana Islands
31 Jan 11
I tried that once, but I found that it hurt both parties less if I was just honest. I just told him I needed some space, and he was making it hard for me to be myself. I explained how important if was to me that I didn't hurt him or lose his friendship, but at this point I needed some breathing room. I also explained to him that if he continued the way he was it will put a strain on our relationship. Then I asked him to please give me the space I needed and let me contact him when I was ready to "fix" things. Today we are great friends and we get along better now then we did at the time. Good luck!
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I am hiding from someone on facebook and yes sometimes i go offline because she is online. But i realized that i don't have to hide from one person. I have more friends who wants to talk or chat with me than a person who hates me. So i rather be online even if she's on and just ignore her whenever she chat's with me than hide from my real friends..
@czylove (33)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
you can just edit your name listing in your chat box so that your family and your closed firends will only see you online, but the people you don,t want to see or talk in your chat box list they see you offline.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Actually before I always put my status online. yet as time goes I realize that sometimes messengers take my time and eventually wasting my plan.I's hard but I tried it successfully.. thanks to my broken pc. lol!
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
18 Jan 11
Hi Bianca_mergillano, Well this happens to many of my friends, but better way is..let them try to reach you. But you dont respond as thats the best way to show them that you are least bothered about them. Enjoy mylotting Cheers!
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
hi, sometimes i do that and set my status offline, so no one either my hate person will dont know that im online at facebook, but most of the time when i am online i just ignore them.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
15 Jan 11
Haha!I still dont experience something like that. I just make my facebook chat offline whenever I feel lazy to chat with someone. But hiding from someone on facebook still does not became part of my experiences because I have always wanted to deal with my friends.
@syoti20 (5295)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
I don't hide to know. I always try to settle all my fears. I can't win on the first battle. I try to conquer it on my second attempt. If that is your suitor. Tell him you don't like him.
• United States
13 Jan 11
I have had that problem before. You think of the person as a great friend, they were fun to talk to, then things just got really weird all of a sudden. You don’t want to hurt their feelings by blocking them or unfriending them, yet you are afraid to visist the online places that you were so fond of because they are always there, waiting, and trying to push you into situations you do not yourself desire. How do you get your space back without hurting them and possibly losing a friend? My best solution was to talk of other people that made me happy, my relationships, and how fond I was of the current arrangement of us being friends. Unfortunately, it did not get through to this person. I eventually avoided them and broke plans they made and never even asked me about so often that they did not want to remain friends anymore. I did find out that they were really not the friend I imagined, and once it goes to that place with some people, it is unsalvageable. At first, I really did miss the friendship, but now my life is really bust and I cannot imagine where they would fit in anymore. Be careful! I have heard the truth works well with some, but for others, it just makes them angry. I wish you the best.