so insulting...

nasty thing to say - What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?
@Nadinest1 (2016)
Canada
January 11, 2011 4:19pm CST
What's the worst thing somebody has EVER said about your looks? Usually this happens when we are in the younger grades at school....but those mean words seem to stick with us forever....that is why I am asking this question....because I know you will still remember what the person said....and who the person was. :( I know it was awkward for me being tall all of my life....but the small boobs statements were hard to take.
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18 responses
@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Honestly, it was not what kids said, or even my sister. My mom, unintentionally compared me to my just younger cousin. It was Christmas, I had just lost 25 pounds and my cousin was 6'2". My mom said "Next to Nikki, you look short and dumpy." Thanks a lot mom. I was very self conscious and I did not think I looked good at all, so that sure did not help.
@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Mom did not mean it, and we talked about this, probably when I was in my forties. I am one from a family that is really likely to open their mouth and just blurt whatever seems funny at the time. She made a comment to my brother once that he carried as well.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 11
hi or what about when you are six or seven and your parents are always saying oh she is so bashful and frowning and making it sound like something horrible. this stuck with me all through grade school and high school. even into my twenties yet I met a wonderful man who told me he actually loved that I was what he called a little shy. parents do not seem to realize that words can and do hurt. I don't think now they meant that in a mean way.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
..and this thing is....your mother probably didn't even realize she was hurting your feelings.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I have been called stupid,ugly,fat,an idiot,dumb,a b*tch,naive,strange,immature,and other words I can not mention on Mylot! I am morbidly obese. No one lately has called me fat but when I was growing up I was like around 30 or so lbs overwieght. No big deal but everyone else made it a big deal! teachers,my sister,my older brother,classmates and my parents! So ever since then I have had trouble excepting myself! My self-confidence sucks! It real goes down hill when I have been called like ugly,stupid,dumb,native and an idiot! B*tch I don't like when I am not trying to be one! All these things I find insulting!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 11
hi blue65packer I don't think I have ever called you anything mean , sure hope not, but I too am quite overweight and am under a doctors care and yes I know its not good for me but why do people think they can call us anything nasty they want to. I have not had anyone of the residents here call me anything mean but like you I have had my share of insults before coming here. and yes it really hurts so'much when we are not trying to be one. Remember they are the ones who are wrong.And you are so right, it is insulting.
• United States
12 Jan 11
I didn't color my hair for a long time, and my niece said, "I am glad you did not color your hair because your face doesn't look red anymore". Okay, let me make on thing clear. My face is only red when I am flustered or when it is hot. Okay, I color my hair anytime and, just about every time, of the year. I wanted to say something, but since she was my niece, I let it go. Anyway, I will probably never see this niece of mine again for a long time because I am extremely angry at her mother, her aunts, and her uncle for what they have done to my niece's sister.
• United States
13 Jan 11
I hate to say this, but you cannot please everyone, especially in-laws. My boyfriend's mother is a great cook, and she boast that she does a lot of things that other women can't do, but if she were such a great woman, why did she get pregnant when she was 16, why did she cheat on her ex-husband, and why didn't she go to a four year college when she had the chance? Yeah, she's a real great woman (I'm being sarcastic). I won't say anything to my boyfriend or to her, but my boyfriend knows that I am thinking it when I give that look to him after everything she says. Don't try to impress anyone. I don't anymore. After I lost my brother, and after all of the crap that I have had to go through in the last couple of years, I just don't care anymore.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
This would be the type of thing that my mother-in-law would say to me. My hair was always short. About 10 years ago, I grew it shoulder length. While having company, they mentioned that my hair was usually short wasn't it.....my MIL commented that she liked my hair shorter like I used to have it. UGH!
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
11 Jan 11
Well I have a big ugly nose so anything anyone said anything about that it really bothered me. I was so self concious of it in school. The boob statements sucked as well. The only thing I liked about myself in high school was my hair. Every where I went people would tell me how gorgeous it was and that I had the most beautiful hair they ever saw. Strangers always stopped to ask me if it was natural. I've never dyed my hair and its naturally curly. Over the years my hair has gotten much straighter and doesnt look as pretty anymore. So since my hair was the only thing I liked about myself when my firend and I stopped being friends she knew it would hurt me so she told me that my hair looked like a rats nest. That hurt really bad!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 11
if that is you in your avatar I sure do not see a big ugly nose, ' you look very attractive.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jan 11
I've been big for the majority of my life and that said, when I was in elementary school there were some kids that would call me Mack Truck. That wasn't something that I liked at all and it really hurt my feelings. Now I'm an adult and I will admit that I am still a big girl. My children, however aren't big at all. My daughter has body image issues and I constantly have to reassure her that she is not fat and I've even had to tell some of the neighborhood kids to watch what they say about people because they tend to pick a lot.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
14 Jan 11
Kids learn sooo early about body image today. It is really sad. 80% of girls in grade 3-6 have body issues, I read somewhere. I think we need to pursue 'healthy eating' and if everyone ate healthy, there wouldn't be the weight problems that everyone is having problems with.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
11 Jan 11
In grade school i was a very thin child. i also wore eyeglasses. this just opened up the door for bullies to throw their insults my way. I think I have been called every skinny remark and four eyes conjecture there is. When you are a child, these can be very hurtful words that you don't forget. They can still stick in my head even to this day.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
11 Jan 11
Exactly. That is why I thought it would be easy for my friends to reply...because we all still remember these insults.
@kingatul (849)
• India
12 Jan 11
I was called fat when I actually was a just slightly overweight. But that's not something that hurt me that bad. I used to really like this girl at school and wanted to be close to her and be her friend, but one day a friend told me that she said some really bad things about my skin color. I felt very very bad. I mean I know that I'm not fair, but it coming from a person I really liked was hurting.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I was very and still am short. I used to get comments like they would call me half pint or other names like that. I was 4'11 1/2 inche until my senior year..and I wore a girls size 14...never got into the teen sizes until I was out of school. So my clothes didn't exactly go with what others were wearing. I can't think of a specific thing they said about my clothes.....I know I felt very awkward!
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
12 Jan 11
my brother used to say "your noes move when you speak" and from that day am conscious about my noes. I was thin and height so everybody used to call me camel.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
See, only kids would come up with things this lame to make fun of.
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jan 11
Oh some witch at a Dairy Queen once called me fat...
@malpoa (1216)
• India
12 Jan 11
It was always the other way around for me, I always looks much older than my age..so you can guess it ws all about physical growth..i hated all those stares and comments..but the worst i can remember was about my complexion...that I was dark and fair girls were more appealing
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
I doesn't matter....bullies will make fun of the most ordinary, mundane things. These statements can stick with us for life.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
Ouch, this topic hurts :-( Even to this day I'm called ugly, one-eyed monster, and shaggy. Not to mention fat jokes. :-( Sorry for the short response, but if I continue on I'll go on a bloody rant and never shut up. *sigh* I ain't my freaking fault i'm ugly.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
When we were in a fight, at the heat of the moment- we were kind f insulting each other (this friend and me).. He told me I was ugly, and that I looked pale and sickly, and had yellow skin.. It was s annoying and insulting.. But I am over it.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I already heard many insulting things from my classmates when I was a student. They say that I am a fool. Well, I think that is a bit ironic because I was the top of the class. I was very skinny and my I had a unaligned teeth. But I did not hear any tease about those things.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 11
hi Nadinest My looks, okay I overheard this but my name was involved and I do not think I am ugly, check my picture on Facebook. this person was just visiting a resident friend . I was sitting close to them when my friend said to the outsider, "Mrs.Hatley has the most beautiful hair" and the visitor said just clearly enough I could still hear, " Well really no I don't think so but looks cannot be helped, I am sure she is a good person anyhow." My friend snapped at her" She is attractive outside and inside." Now I had not a clue as to what to do but I was angry and just pushed past them both. the odd thing is the visitor was just about as ugly as'anyone i have ever seen. I laughed to myself on my way up to my'room. I knew this, I might not be pretty but my mom taught me if you cannot say something nice to everyone then just shutup.I am overweight but I am also helpful to others and kind to all. I dislike snide remarks like that.
• United States
11 Jan 11
They called me skin and bones. It is not that it hurts but it is what inspired me to eat a lot of food. Now I am fat and I don't like it.
11 Jan 11
The worst that I have been called unfortunately has too much profanity to be posted on here, but it involved things about my skin colour. At the time it hurt very very badly, and even now when I think about it I am angered. It's those unintentional insults that hurt most, because you dont expect them at all
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
The meanest insult that anyone has ever said to me was that I am a "Kabayo" or a horse in english because of my overbite and I was called like that a lot of times in elementary school. But now, I have learned that even though kids can be really mean and hurtful in what they say, when you grow up, it wouldn't really matter anymore. I have gotten over the horse comments because I got braces which fixed my overbite. Lol. And because I learned that kids say those things to lessen what they feel about their own insecurities.