What factors hinders you to start a discussion?

@Harold_ks (1674)
January 12, 2011 12:10am CST
I notice that many people here tend to respond in someone's discussion than creating their own ones. I just want you to share if you have something that hinders you or make you uncomfortable to start a discussion. Me I admit I used to like starting than responding before, but due to my long time absence and rarely visit, recently I feel like I want to respond more than starting my own. I guess the main reason for me to feel starting own discussion hard is the lack of idea itself. Added to that is the thinking that people might take your discussion negative. Well, maybe the hesitation that i'm feeling now is really because of my long time absence and will become comfortable starting again when I started to be active here. Maybe some of you already experienced what I am feeling now, so maybe you can share it and tell more factors that hinders you in starting your own discussions. I'll be looking forward to see responses from you. Thank you for reading. :)
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16 responses
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Jan 11
Hi harold, I only respond to discussions not because I don't know how to start a discussion but because the discussions I started are not interesting to most citizens here. I noticed that the top things here are way beyond my technical and mechanical thinking. I really can't start discussions on technical matters, I have done that a couple of times and only one ever responded to each one of them. At first I was confused. then I realized that technical matters always fall on the back end of hot or top discussions today, or maybe I'm on the wrong subject or interest. Wrong wavelenght, so to speak. I should try to explore more on the subjects here, and there's always a topic for everything under the sun. However, when I use the search bar to search topics of my interest here, I find that they posted a long time ago and I feel reluctant to answer them wondering if the people behind those words are still around in mylot, of course. I should see to it in the future.
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@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Hi! Actually your conclusion is right. Topics that are too technical are not that interesting especially for those who cannot relate on the topic. The ones that usually get a good number of responses are those ones that everyone knows and everyone can relate to it, a general topic to be called. Good that you shared your experience coz that's really one factor that can hinder someone from starting discussion. But of course as we go along, we are knowing what should be done, to get better in posting discussions. Thank you for responding buddy.
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
No one hinders me to start a discussion. The only thing is that sometimes it is easier to respond to a started discussion than to create your own. When you are interested into a certain discussion, the mind works faster because of stock knowledge on the matter or issue or the idea perhaps is based on experience. To start a discussion requires more thinking because you have to think of a topic which you find may interests other readers. As for me, no one really hinders me. It is just a part of a writer's block sometimes.
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@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Yes, it is true that there are really times that it's hard to start your own because you can't think of a good topic that you will be able to elaborate and say a lot of things about it, not like in responding because the topic is already there and all you have to do is share what you can say about the topic started. In that case, I agree with you that responding is easier than starting. Thank you for responding.
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• Canada
12 Jan 11
I don't think anything really "hinders" me to start a discussion, other than the fact that I just joined this site and this will be my first attempt to make a little extra money online. I feel that I've got some really good ideas for discussions, but haven't really figured this site out yet. Do you earn money for creating discussion and commenting in discussions too? If so, it would make much more sense to start discussions and comment on others.
@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Hi! First of all, i want to say welcome to mylot! :) You will not regret joining this site because it's legit and truly pays, already been testified by many people. Since you said you have a lot of ideas on you mind, then those ideas will surely turn into money if you will share them here. Actually, whether you start or respond, you will get paid, because we earn here in every post we make. So it's up to the person if he/she will start more of respond more, depends on what he/she is more comfortable to do. So just enjoy posting and in no time, you will see your earnings getting bigger and better. Good luck and thank you for your response buddy!
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@topffer (29927)
• France
12 Jan 11
The only factor that hinders me is that I have more fun when I answer a discussion than when I start one : call this self-interest if you want. I am reading a lot of discussions and I learn a lot from then : I share my thoughts or my knowledge when I have something to share, and it is easier. I noticed here that members starting discussion upon discussion are often blind : some are never responding to the discussions of other members -- I have a 'friend' that is doing this, saying that he is better to start a discussion than to respond : the truth is that he does not want to take the time to read every response to a discussion started by another member before giving his own --, and we saw today one who started more than 10 discussions without giving a response. They miss the best of myLot : to open their minds towards new horizons, to get true myLot friends...
@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Yeah i guess it's really just a matter of self-interest, or sticking to the one you are comfortable doing. I guess doing a 60/40 percentage of the two tasks, or even 70/30 is fine. But if 90% of what you are doing is just starting or responding, then you are really becoming one-sided. Especially those ones you mentioned that starting discussions but never respond to others nor to his/her started discussions itself. But I'm not against them or on what they're doing, I am just assuming that they have personal reasons for it. It can be language-related, maybe they find difficult to respond to other's discussion because they can't express what they wanted to say due to limited vocabulary. Actually I already encountered that before, wanted to respond but can't finish the response because I can't find the right words to express my ideas. So I understand those people coz me myself also experienced the same thing. But of course, doing a balance of starting and responding is always the best way. Thank you for your response.
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@topffer (29927)
• France
12 Jan 11
I am one-sided . I have nothing against those who are responding only to their own discussions. I made once a harsh response to the friend who is doing this, the day he started a discussion "Must I delete from my friends list those who are not responding to my discussions ?" Anyways, I answer to his discussions when I have something to say. I am not a native English speaker, I have a very limited English vocabulary -- it is frustrating, but myLot helps me to enhance it --, I am ashamed of my grammar -- I like to use a perfect grammar in my own language --, and despite these handicaps, I enjoy this site. Being one-sided, I have to say : thank you for this discussion .
@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Lol, you admitted it. :) Well, there's really nothing wrong in being like that, as long you are happy on what you are doing. For your friend's topic, well maybe he want a harmonious communication with his friends, I understand that, but extending to that point where he is like demanding his friends to respond to his topic is a little bit wrong, he should respect other people and should understand them because each of us has different life and there's a reason why some of them are not responding to his messages. We should just extend more our understanding and patient especially since people here are from different places and different walks of life. Anyway, I know people is a good site full of great people and discussions so what we should do is enjoy and have fun. Have a nice day! :)
@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I think that whether one begins a discussion or simply responds to other's discussions is a matter of personal choice. In my case, when i visit mylot, i usually don't have a lot of time and so i may just respond to a discussion or two. I have only started a few discussions in the past six months, not because i don''t want to but because I really don't have much time. Whatever the reasons people have, its up to each individual.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Yes, I also find that responding to other's discussions take lesser time than to start your own. But maybe there are just some who really likes and prefer to start their own, because like what you said, it's a matter of personal choice. Whether starting and responding, the good thing is we are having fun and we are able to post something. Thank you for your response.
@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
13 Jan 11
Yes I agree, thank you. what is important is that each enjoy doing what one wants.
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I've never been much of a discussion starter. It wasn't because I was hindered or anything like though. It's just that most of the time I don't really have any ideas or things I want to discuss. I don't like making discussions just for the sake of having started a discussion. I also don't like making generic type discussions that are pointless so I try to always be specific with my discussions. I think I just like responding to other people more.
@Harold_ks (1674)
14 Jan 11
Yes, we should not start a discussion just for the sake of having started discussions. The quality of a discussion is important and it requires thinking and analyzing. You are not focusing on quantity but on quality and that's good. Responding to other's discussion is really way easier to do. Thanks for responding.
@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
we almost have the same reason. i go online everyday and can visit mylot but i only have limited time to stay. i usually do mylotting after work and very tired to stay longer than 2hours. my brain is to tired to think of what to talk about. i usually just check the top discussions and respond to topics i can relate right away.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Yes, you are right, when we are already tired and stressed out from work, it would be very hard to start a discussion because it will require a lot of thinking. Responding to other's discussion is way much easier. Thank you for responding.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
12 Jan 11
The inability to properly phrase what I want to say. I know what I want to talk about. The words seem more then fine in my head. However, when I write them out, not so much. It does seem unclear a lot of the times what I might be trying to say ,so a few topics have gotten junked. Not to mention there are just no fresh ideas or nothing that has given me inspiration. Or I don't have as much time, so it is much easier to respond to the topics of others, instead of keep track of a topic and comment on the responses.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Yes, those things you mentioned are really factors that can really hinders us to successfully start a discussion. Me myself also experienced the same, where I have topics in mind but when I'm already constructing the contents, I'm finding hard to express what I wanted to say which resulted to set aside it and think of another one. And in more cases, if I cannot start one, I also move to responding to other's discussions. Thank you for your response.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I have only started a few discussions. I have been active for over a year. I respond more than start discussions for a few reasons. One reason is, I just don't have any good topics to start them about. Another reason is, after I respond to my friends discussions and things on my intrest list I am too tired to start one of my own. If I did start one I would feel that I would have to respond to every response and that can be a lot of time sitting at the computer.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Yes, whatever we feel easier to do, that is what we should stick on. Starting a discussion really takes time and more thinking especially in constructing it. You will take the steps of getting an idea, generating a title, and constructing the contents of it. And yes, when you start a discussion, you should also try to comment on those responses you received as much as you can. Thank you for your response.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Actually, I'm more of a respondent rather than a starter. It's not that something hinders me to start a discussion. Everytime I logged in in mylot, of course I have ideas, but after reading the hot topics or the list of topics, there are usually identical of what I have in mind, it only usually differ in titles. Or maybe, I have an idea but hesitant to come up with an appropriate title. Actually, I observes that most topic's title here is a one liner of their emotion like making a sigh followed by thier actual emotion at the time of writing their piece. Sometimes I think of doing the same, but I don't know why I could not find even those simple words. Maybe it is my nature to always keep in mind to make a catchy title of every writings. Wheww, I wish I could have changed that for me to be able to share more of my thoughts.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Yes, in browsing list of topics, you will find some that is similar to those ideas you have on your mind that you don't need to start and construct a new discussion. It saves time and it's easier to share your thoughts on the topic. That is why most people here tend and prefer to respond than to start a new one. Maybe when you didn't find an interesting one or didn't meet the one on your mind, that will be the time that you will start your own. Yes, title of the topic also bring a big role in a discussion, the better the title is, the more people will be appreciated to read its contents. You are doing well, just don't hesitate and just post what's on your mind. Thank you for your response.
@annierose (17411)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
hi harold_ks, I have same experience just like you. In addition to lack of ideas to start with, I also sometimes lack in time. I do really love mylot but because I have a very busy schedule with my work and with my studies, I find it hard to be active here just like before. Before, I get my ideas by means of reading so many articles. Then, once I get ideas, I start posting a discussion here. Now, I also do so many readings but the problem is that it is all about mobile phones and nothing more. That is why I cannot get some ideas on other areas.
@Harold_ks (1674)
13 Jan 11
Hi annierose! Yes, lack of time is really one factor that can hinder us to start a discussion. But the good thing is myLot is always here waiting for us, our ideas are always welcome. So despite of how long we will get busy, there will also comes a time that we will be able to get chance to visit myLot again. You are right, reading articles can really give us a lot of ideas and topics that we can start with here. I hope you'll find time again to post new discussions in the near future. Thank you for your response.
@derek_a (10903)
12 Jan 11
What hinders me in starting a disccusions is that I am using the time responding to other discussions. If I am honest, I think I can say that I enjoy responding to discussions more than starging them though. _Derek
@Harold_ks (1674)
12 Jan 11
Lol, that's a cool answer. :) Well, you are right, it's hard to do starting and responding at the same time. Lol. Yes, it depends on one's preference, and as long as you are enjoying on what you are doing, then myLotting would be fun. Thank you for responding.
@KrauseHome (33249)
• United States
16 Jan 11
Personally I think most of us would rather take the time to respond back to others discussions in here than create some of them ourselves. Personally this is a lot easier as you do not have to think about something to think about and would others be interested enough to want to talk about it, and also I think a lot of it depends on the time you have to be active in here each day as well. I know that I have to have some extra time to start discussions in here and have something I really want to share.
@aparajita (861)
• India
13 Jan 11
I get the topics to start my discussion with on the basis of my observations, thoughts, etc. Being what I am and remaining aware constantly is what helps me come out with the topics that I post here. Call it a gift or my tenacity to keep up my writing spirit, it is love and love for writing all the way that helped me so far. I never think that I have to start a new discussion. When I am without one, I know that it's time to browse through what others have posted.
@juvani (4)
13 Jan 11
the only thing that hinders me to start a discussion is that I'm afraid to be criticized by others, whether have I correctly constructed the sentences i made and to be criticized about my grammars.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I do lack ideas sometimes so in those times, I usually just answer. Sometimes, I'm afraid if my discussions will not be understood correctly or now I worry if my discussion might get deleted.