Surprise, suprise!

@Lore2009 (7389)
United States
January 12, 2011 6:41pm CST
The other day there was a surprise engagement party. What do you think of that? Would you be happy if your friends threw you a surprise party? Have you ever had one thrown? I had a birthday party thrown for me once. I really didn't know how to react to that because all the guest who were there were classmates I've never talked to! It was awkward... and very surprising. I was just shocked the whole day and the girl who threw it didn't really manage it well so we just hung out like, what should we do next? Made me feel bad since it was for me too.. and eventually she even got in trouble by her mom because of it. Anyways, do you like surprises?
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8 responses
13 Jan 11
Dear Lore Yes, my eldest daughter organised a joint birthday party for myself and my twin, which was a great surprise in theory, but in reality was a hell of a shock. The main problem was that I thought a small group of us ( plus partners) were going out for a curry, so I hadn't eaten anything much , so I could do the curry (booked for the evening) justice. Also the zip on one of my long black boots had given out, just as I was going out of the front dooor and so (under my trousers), the given-out zip was held together with a large rubber-band - neither elegant, comfortable, nor easy to dance/walk in. Imagine my surprise when walking downtown to the curry-house, the small group I was with suddenly veered left (instead of right), into the conference room of a hotel and, heck, "Surprise" - about 60 of our friends (some from a long distance away)shouted out that welcome and shepherded myself and my sister into a large room, bedecked with balloons, banners, finger-food, flashing lights and a disco. "Sh - t, I said to myself...... and uttered "What a lovely surprise," to everyone else,(between gritted teeth). Yes, it was fabulous, touchingly thoughtful of our respective families to arrange it all and fun, but have you ever tried to dance with a flapping boot? It's not easy, I can tell you!!! I would rather have had a bit of a warning, so I could have worn different footwear.....and I was as hungry as a Christmas turkey.....but then, the party wouldn't have beeen a surprise, would it?
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
Aww, those are the difficulties of a surprise.. because if they did warn you about your shoe, you may have suspected something... maybe they could've taken extra sneakers for you. Haha...
16 Jan 11
Dear Lore What a great idea....I suppose I could have hijacked some shoes, or thrown my boots (both of them)into a corner, but my jeans were rather long - and smart - and I needed the height. Catch 22 methinks.....Namaste.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I've never had any surprise party in my life. Actually, I'm the one who plans parties I want to have. In your case, your friend should have considered the people you would most probably want to invite on your special day. Still, it's the thought that counts right? I would love to have a surprise birthday party someday. Hopefully, someone would think of it. haha
• United States
13 Jan 11
I do not want to duplicate so I am responding in your comment box. I too have never had a surprise party in my life, but seem to be the one always planning the surprise parties. It is quite fun with a great deal of organized planning.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
I think I'd rather do the planning than have it done for me.
@toniganzon (41138)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Two years ago, on my birthday, one student of mine invited me to go to a hotel for an early breakfast and coffee. I brought one student along with me and when i was there he suddenly disappeared and left me with the other student. I waited for like 5 minutes and was a bit worried that he got lost, but to my surprise he appeared with a cake on his hand with a candle on it, singing happy birthday as he was walking towards me. I was very happy at that time coz i saw the sincerity in his eyes.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
Aww, that's a sweet surprise!
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
That was awkward. I had a party thrown at me once. It was also a surprise. The party went fine. The ones who organized it was my friends and they know me very well that's why the party wasn't a waste.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
That's good your friends knew you well, unlike mine.
• United States
13 Jan 11
Lore- I've been thrown surprise parties several times in my life, all baby showers, and I absolutely adored them. The last one my husband threw for me for the birth of our daughter. He mailed out all the invites, catered the food, and picked out a precious cake. It was very sweet. I just felt bad because only two people that he invited showed up after all his hard work. It was the thought that I loved most. The fact he'd go through so much work for me. You can't replace that even if you are not expecting the party. I think all too often people find something to critique in these situations and they never stop to think that the person who did it for them did it because they love and care for them. Namaste-Anora
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
I think it would've been nice if I knew the girl better, just as much as you know your husband. I did appreciate the effort, but I won't lie that it was awkward.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
13 Jan 11
Not really....an engagement party would be something different though then a birthday party.....well to me it would be. I would like to know if someone was going to do that....but an engagement is something very special and its fun to know people are thinking of you...at my age birthdays are not much fun anymore! LOL
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
But wouldn't you want to plan your own engagement party especially with your fiance? It would be better if the fiance had thrown it, but it was thrown by the friends.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
13 Jan 11
I rather give surprise parties more than receive them. No matter how many times people have tried to surprise me I have found out before it happened. I just know something is going on and then I have to act surprised and I really hate that. If I know someone doesn't like surprise parties I won't do one for them because I wouldn't want it done to me.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Jan 11
If I had found out, I think I'd just tell them! Haha, but I think I'd rather throw one for someone too. The time I had mine thrown, I did think it was weird that we took her dog for a 2 hour walk(they were setting up)! But I never taken her dog for a walk before, so I thought that's how long he needed!
• United States
1 Feb 11
NOOOO!!! Haha I would never want a surprise engagement party!! I think that is so annoying for someone to throw you a party and now know exactly what you want! What if you don't like parties! I think most people throw surprises so they can feel like they did something good, not necessarily for that person. I know because I have been on both ends. I threw my bf a bday surprise party because I wanted to see him happy but he was like what the? I mean he was nice and said he appreciate it but most of the people were not that close to him to begin with and on top of that he's not a very social kind of guy, he likes to just have like a one on one dinner with his most closest friend or just relax. I learned after that not to throw any surprises. It's like when people buy you gifts because they think they're doing something good for you, but it's only to release their own stress and guilt of wanting to do something good or better than other friends especially if you are close to them. A surprise engagement party? That's just ridiculous. There's a bachelor/bachelorette party, then the wedding, how many parties do you need? Geez! I'm so with you on this one. I hate when people say "but I did it for you! Where's the appreciation?" But it's like if you were really caring for that person you would of known what kind of party to throw or not throw at all! Just like gifts. Seems like most people's friendships are based on materialistic needs and desires instead of just chillin or talking or being there for them when they need them, isn't that the best gift? Most people buy you stuff but there's never physically/emotionally etc all there for you when you want to see them as a friend. There's no excuse in my opinion for a bad party or bad surprises and gifts! Obviously I have a very stubborn opinion about this but hey, ever since I cut these fake people who are friends on the surface, my life has been PEACEFUL, and full of real friends and love.