What is normal if a wife had an affair?

Indonesia
January 13, 2011 7:02pm CST
just want to know, how your opinion Affair, because her husband unsatisfying, etc. Now you think, is fair if a wife had an affair? If reasonable, why? If it is not fair, and how to overcome so as not cheating?
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
If Si He treats you badly, in fact you might want to distance themselves from him. However, sometimes not easy to do, especially if you already have a child. If you feel stuck in a bad relationshipif you want to run into the embraces someone who can treat you better .
• Indonesia
15 Jan 11
Hurt like hell when we betrayed by people we care about and believe, and honestly it's hard to forget, it takes time. If you want to maintain the integrity of RT for the sake of children, then be willing to forgive, because it can calm your heart to forgive and they will hurt will slowly disappear. If you do not want to forgive, the hurt it will be more and make you worse and consequently will make the physical and inner pain was getting worse, and families will be increasingly destroyed. ga is easy to do, but I am sure you can get through all this. Always pray and join with the Lord, He will give way and heal your hurt.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Hello. Whatever the problem between couples, an affair is not the best solution nor it is the right thing to do. If something is lacking in the relationship, the wife or the husband must talk in order to compromise. Somehow,they can still give each other a chance and the relationship to work out. A mistake can not be right by compounding it with another mistake.
@rushian09 (139)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
well, if my wife is cheating on me. I may be the saddest husband in the whole world. Take care of her so she won't hesitate to find someone to take care of her.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
I don't think affair outside the marriage is positive. If you're not satisfied with your partner, talk to him about the problem. If you can't talk it out then make some ways to make up for his shortcomings. A good woman, a wife, is a gift from heaven and having an affair is a devil's work to make impurities on wife's obligations.
@abj163 (1038)
• India
14 Jan 11
actually i am very young for commenting on all these things but i dont think its fair to have an affair with someone else if your husband is not satisfying you...and i dont think it will be good by keeping husband unknown of all this....at least he is not having affair with some one else...because he trusts his wife and he dont want to loose her at any cost.....i think solution on this problem is talking with each other .....husband and wife should give some special time to each other for this stuff and they should talk on this so that solution of this problem can be invented..... happy mylotting
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 11
fair & not fair ... fair with you a problematic situation and hurt by your husband, a tempting shortcut is cheating .... by the way, affair was betrayal of trust on your self is not good ....... right? unnatural solving marital problems is not just the easy way,"affair", still many wayout ....., from heart to heart talk with a couple of good communication .... .... .... marriage counselor, with children's feelings if it comes to infidelity. Do not try to do any lawful way ...... think because the couple had made the hurt you .......fine if you're cheating ......
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
14 Jan 11
No, it's not okay or reasonable to have an affair. To do it because someone doesn't "satisfy" her is selfish and self centered. It putting their own desires above kindness and love to their spouse. As far as not doing it, just don't do it. Just remember there are more important things, like fidelity and being a trustworthy person.
• United States
14 Jan 11
No, there is no way to accept that. If the husband is not satisfying her she should communicate this with him. If needed they can go to a doctor. If the husband shows no interest in that and does not even take her problem seriously she can file a divorce. That is the only way she can avoid cheating on him. My cousin recently went through this problem. Her wife of two years suddenly found him too boring and so she started cheating on him. I am not sure from which planet she came, but at one point she became completely public about her boyfriends. In other words, she was trying to have an open marriage. My cousin told her that it would be nice if she just divorced him and she said "okay". So when nothing works out divorce becomes the main solution.
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Hello kendedes, Having an affair to anyone other than your partner whom you took vows under marriage rite is not fair at all. Marriage is usually wrap around love but what ever the reason is for their marriage but still the failure of one in satisfying any aspects of their marriage is a failure to both. And in such topic of yours, there are many method to satisfy sexually its just a matter of openness and acceptance between husband and wife. As the years went by physical needs differ from the first contact and it needs new approach and drama to make it alive. Good luck!!
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 11
Anyone, however, cheating is an act that is not justified. If no satisfaction, can be discussed properly. In order to improve each other.
@SIMPLYD (82899)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
To be honest, even if i am a woman, i don't think it is right for a woman to have an affair just because her husband doesn't satisfy her. Perhaps it would be proper if she talk it out first with her husband and be honest that he does not satisfy her. Having known this, the husband would of course ask her how and what will satisfy her. From there, the husband should try to meet such inadequacy. If still the husband doesn't satisfy her, they should probably have a compromise. Whatever it is, at least they have the permission of each other. But, in whatever angle it is wrong for a woman to have an affair outside of her marriage.