When is enough, enough?

Philippines
January 13, 2011 9:02pm CST
Humans are wired to tolerate as much pain as we can. We were programmed to endure as much as we can. Not just in relationships, but in all aspects. Family, friends, work, etc. We do this to make something work, or to make something last. Like in a relationship. We do this so as not to let our loved ones get hurt. We do this to keep our job, because it's either we really love our job, or it's hard to find a new one. But when do we say enough is enough?
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jan 11
hi kaycharmedMd sometimes we get too stoic and also hope that the impossible situation will change if we just hang on but we do owe ourselves something too so if a womwn is trying to salvage a marriage say when the mate is a batterer or a verbal abuser there has to come a time shen she realizes she must not,can not and need not take it any nore,.Also in my own case I am so sick'of incompetent specialists who when your go to them will not give' you a diagnosis but instead pass you off to another so called expert and now I have not got the referral yet and have waited two months so have to make another appointment yet with my own primary care doctor to get the darned referral. so how much is enough? I have had this severe dermatitis is all the dermatologist who is supposed to be able to diagnose and treeat various dermatitises can say. He did not give it a name and did not really try to treat it either oh he sloughed off some cortisone cream I had already tried and it did no good. I have had this since July and now it January. I am a diabetic an anything on my leg really scares me and all these people are dragging their feet on this. ggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.I will see this one more specialist and he or she had better diagnose it and treat it. I am about to have the screaming meemies over this. lol lol lol.
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
14 Jan 11
I don't really understand your point here. Do you mean that when you got enough from your family or from your work. You should leave them, or go on your way? Or you don't like them any more, then you should make some extreme decision of it?
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
My point is the pain you endure either for or from your family, friends, work relationship, etc.
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jan 11
and how about incompetent doctors who do not want to admit they do not know what you have and just pass you on to another one and another one and then your hmo hangs up getting the darned referral you need now I am to go to a wound specialist at the dermatologist just passed me on. severe dermatitis well gee I already knew that an itis is an inflamation of the dermis so what. what is this inflammation and why c annot the man treat it himself? so now to a wound specialist and I am supposed to feel he or she will cure it? well I will go as I am a diabetic and anything to do with amy leg scares me. this has go on since last June. I am really pissed off.
@SIMPLYD (73084)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
When i have reached that point where i am not happy anymore and it's beginning to weigh me down, i can say that is the time to say Enough is enough. I love myself, i don't wanna be put down by anything or anybody. I will try all i can to stop anybody or anything from putting me down or ruining my life. I guess you feel that way too.
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Yeah, we have the same thought. My friend asked me this question. And it got me thinking. She has a different answer though. For her there's never enough pain to give up on something, or someone. I don't understand her.
@pnkreal (68)
• India
22 Mar 11
Endurance does not have a limit.If you are destined to take it,you have to.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
When being with that particular person or situation is not becoming healthy for you anymore, then, that is the time to say you have enough already. Though, of course, we will try to hold on to what we have, endure anything and everything for the sake of those we love, but we shouldn't forget to be kind to our own self.In sacrificing, loving, enduring everything, we shouldn't lost ourself respect, dignity and esteem. Because when we do, we will surely not be able to overcome anything. We can only do so much for our jobs so as to maintain it,for our loved ones so as to make them happy but we can not do everything. We need to learn to think of our own good,too.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Enough is enough when you get tired of it. Enough of it when you can't stand it any more. Enough when you can't bear it any longer. Enough when you had reached the point of turning away. Point of ending it fast and all.When you all time had been consumed and decide it's time to get out, move on, without thinking of regrets!
@picjim (3003)
• India
14 Jan 11
You are very correct when you say humans can tolerate pain only to an extent.Whether its with loved ones or with others we can tolerate a lot of pain.But its better we draw the line somewhere as otherwise people will walk over us.We have to see that others don't belittle our dignity and pride as without them we are bereft of all values.
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
"Enough is enough" for me when i reached to the point when i get annoyed easly by the things I used to do or I used to hear and encounter.