Should Homosexuals Be Allowed To Adopt?

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@hotpress (205)
United States
November 18, 2006 8:38pm CST
Do you think the gay couple would influence the child's sexuality, or is this avoidable?
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• Philippines
19 Nov 06
gay couple should not be allowed
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Why? Sounds like you mean gay couples should not be allowed period.
@gifana (4836)
• Portugal
19 Nov 06
Oops....goofed....wrong comment box....Sooooooo solly.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
21 Nov 06
why should they not be allowed to adopt (previous comment). And it's ok to send to wrong post (following comment). The gay couple more than likely would not influence the child provided that everything intimate was done behind closed doors. Are all gay couples doing everything behind closed doors? I don't think so.
• India
19 Nov 06
Homosexuals should not be allowed to adopt...That will cause negative impact on the childs mental growth...Which is very dangerous..
@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Having a gay parent has no negative impact on on a child's growth..if anything most children I have met with gay parents grow up healthier and better educated!
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
bhchy1, thank you for commenting based on your experience rather than just making an assumption.
• Italy
29 Nov 06
I am agree with you Kastmandap
@amy0214 (1513)
• United States
19 Nov 06
As long as they are good people and are able to provide the child with a good life and take good care of the child, then I do not see any problem with it.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thanks for the honest answer. It is important that they be good people.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thanks for the honest answer. It is important that they be good people.
@IceCold63 (114)
• United States
29 Nov 06
yeah if they should be able to adopted. they want children and cant have them and the kids are stuck in foster homes that they dont want to be at. so why not. but heres another question for you. in most cases if someone wants to adoped a child, the child doesnt really have any say so on if he is going to be adopted or not. but if the child doesnt want to be adopted by homosexuals should they be able to say if they want to be adopted or not
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
2 Dec 06
A child can always run away before or after the adoption. The child can also get out of the adoption if they inform the adoption agency, or DFCS (Department of Family & Children Services) that they are constantly witnessing immoral acts from the gay parents. Nothing is set in stone in an adoption if the child's well-being is in danger. Yes, the child should have a say (children are very intuitive). Thanks.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I don't think a child's sexuality could be influenced. If it could, trust me I would have been straight! My parents are complete homophobes. I say that gay couples could make just as good of parents as straight couples. I personally hope to someday adopt a couple of older kids (around 6 to 10 years old) and have a nice little family. Not many people are even willing to adopt older kids or siblings that are paired together.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Great that you are considering the older kids. Do you know any gay people who have adopted? Maybe some parents do still have the ability to influence even though yours did not.
@misskatonic (3727)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Will a white couple raising an adopted asian chil influence the child's ethnicity? Will a tall couple raising a short child influence the child's health? Will average intelligence parents raising a genius child influence the child's intelligence? There's no proof that the orientatian of a parent at all influences a child. Orientatian is biological, not environmental. As long as a couple is financially stable, caring and able to give a child the love and attention they need, it doesn't matter who they are.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Good points made, but the truth is that there will always be discrimination regardless of influence. Once it is found out that the couple is gay, many adoption agencies would forget about influence and automatically say "no".
@MellieC (783)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Yes of course, if the couple has been together for a long time and are mature and responsible then yes I think they should.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Thanks for your honesty. Maturity is important.
@mihai80 (865)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
no
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Thanks, but what is your reason?
@akumei1269 (1750)
• India
29 Nov 06
I have not much knowledge about the psychology of the hosexuals . But if I have to go by the knowledge acquired from my unsystematic readings, I think they are equally fit to bring up children and hence should be allowed to adopt to .However being homosexual does not make one fit for adoption . Other qualifications should be met .
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Thanks. I guess you mean that one should look beyond the fact that the parents are gay, and look deeper to see that they qualify as good potential parents.
• Canada
29 Nov 06
I think that a gay couple should definitely be allowed to adopt. Discrimating based on sexuality is just as bad as discriminating based on race or gender. I truly doubt that the gay couple would try and make their child gay as well. And even if they did, you can't help what you are, and if their son is attracted to women there's really not much they could do to change it.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I think some people are concerned about their influence on the child due to the fact that many hetero parents try to influence their child to be similar to what they are or believe in. The same could be true for some homosexual parents too. Thanks.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Why not they have every right to a normal life as everyone else. Children have been known to grow up healthy and normal in homosexual homes as much as they do hetrosexual homes.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Thanks for responding. I can tell that you are very passionate about this.
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
19 Nov 06
I'm not sure, would the gay couple influence the child's sexuality or not but still I guess, they shouldn't adopt. It could cause problems for the child in the school. The children are coming from very different homes, and not all of them are tolerant, and they could begin to tease the adopted child, who has two mothers or two fathers. The children can be very cruel to each other, even without understanding, what they are actually doing.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Thanks. You made some very interesting and different points. Yes, children can be crule, and I hope that children who do have 2 of the same parents are not going through so much trauma.
• India
19 Nov 06
I think it all depands on how the child feel about things and who his parents treat him whetar they gay or not it dose't maters.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
The child may be too young to tell anyone how they feel. What then?
@Poison_Girl (4163)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Sure. Why shouldn't they be allowed to adopt? I don't think they're sexuality would really influence the kid. --- --- --- "I certainly think Britney Spears is the devil. The way she projects herself and the fact that she is so obviously vacuous. I think it's such a shame that she became so influential to very small children." -- MORRISSEY --- --- ---
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
1 Dec 06
How did Britney Spears get in this discussion? Anyway, thanks for responding. The parents influence on the child depends on what is in the hearts of the parents, not just what we think may or may not happen.
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
19 Nov 06
as I said in another question of this nature..."I'LL BET YOU HAVE NEVER HAD A GAY FRIEND..IF YOU WERE THE LEAST BIT ENLIGHTENED YOU WOULD KNOW THAT THEY ARE JUST AS CAPABLE AND LOVING AS STRAIGHT PARENTS ARE TO RAISE A CHILD! GAY PARENTS ARE NOT JUST OUT TO TEACH THE CHILD TO BE A HOMOSEXUAL..AS SOMEONE SAID BEFORE YOU CAN'T TEACH SOMEONE TO BE THAT WAY...THEY ARE BORN THAT WAY! GAY PEOPLE WANT ALL THE SAME THINGS FOR KIDS AS STRAIGHT PEOPLE DO AND THEY ARE MORE WILLING TO GO THAT EXTRA MILE TO SEE TO IT THAT THE KIDS HAVE THOSE THINGS! I THINK IN SOME CASES HOMOSEXUALS ARE A BETTER CHOICE FOR ADOPTIVE PARENTS THAN STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE...YOU NEVER HEAR OF HOMOSEXUAL PARENTS ABUSING THEIR KIDS AND I CAN'T SAY THE SAME FOR STRAIGHT PARENTS!!"....sorry bout the caps not meaning to yell at anyone.
@pendragon (3352)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Can straight couples not affect their child's sexuality?Straight people raise gay children all rhe bloody time, why would gay people not raise heteros, who..actually... cares what people turn out to be sexually, as long as their good people? I need an aspirin.
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@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Very good point. Try not to let it get to you to the point of needing an asprin, just giving people something to think about.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
19 Nov 06
As long as someone is good , caring parent, why not? I have seen many bad hererosexual parents. I preffer good people....
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Good people are best.
• Italy
29 Nov 06
a gangster could be a caring parent too, but this don't mean it would be a good parent he wouldn't set a example
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Then that gangster wouldn't be a good parent, would they? If they aren't setting a good example by being a good person, that's not a good parent. Homosexuals can be good people. Just like heterosexuals can be good people.
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@rawpoet (2047)
• United States
30 Nov 06
While I believe in homosexual marriages, I do not feel they should be allowed to adopt. A child needs a male and female role model in the household.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Who says that only parents can be role models?
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I agree...not to mention what about single parent homes? I was a single parent adn my kids are just fine..they had male role models admittedly though they had far more female role models in all honesty which just makes my point strong considering I have a son...bottomline IMO is this..it doesnt matter WHO the caregivers/parents are that matters, its the quality of the home which to me means that the children are loved unconditionally, they are provided for and supported mentally, finacially and emotionally etc...thats what makes for a happy, well balanced child
• Philippines
19 Nov 06
let's not judge people by its sexuality...lets give everyone a chance..adopting or having a child is a matter of responsibility
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
We should all not be so jugmental, but the reality is that everyone has not reached that point. What will gay couples do who run into a block each time they want to adopt?
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Personally I think adoption is wonderful, and I would rather anyone adopt a child and give that child a life, than its life be snuffed out by abortion. I don't necessarily think it would influence a child's sexuality any more than living with a single parent might. Love is love.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, love is love, but sometimes it might influence. There is always an exception.