My Mum died
January 15, 2011 12:38pm CST
I wanted to get this off my chest... Just before christmas my mum died. I'm only 26, and she was almost exactly double my age. It was a huge shock for me - well every one else as well. I'd only spoken to her the day before, she was fine. Well we hadnt been getting on for a few years. We'd chat for a few days, then someone would step out of line, and we'd be back to not speaking again. Back in October, my parents came to my house on my birthday to drop a little present through my door. They thought we'd be out, but we were in and my other half invited them in. So they came inside and we had a little chat, then we all went out in their car and they took us for a late evening meal, and it was just generally nice. So when they dropped us back home, my mum asked if we'd want to go out again, and she told us to go to see them because they'd like to. Well we finally had chance to go round to see them, and that was on 2nd of December. I had a really long chat to my Mum in the kitchen, and managed to tell her all the things that I'd wanted to. I dont actually remember the last time she was so chatty with me and I felt like her little girl again. In the middle of December I needed an operation. Nothing massive, but I knew my Mum would worry so I rang her on the Tuesday to tell her I was going in On the Thursday. She came to our house to see me with my Dad that evening and they bought be some slipper boots for when I went to hospital. When I was in hospital my fiancee called her all the time to let her know how I was doing. I think she appreciated that. I came home late on the Friday, and on the Saturday I decided that I'd call my Mum to tell her that I was OK. My fiancee said that I didn't need to because he'd already told her, but I had something in the back of my mind and felt that I really should. I called her and had a good 30 min chat to her and made sure she knew I was OK. I told her I loved her when I said goodbye. The next day, Sunday, she sent me a text message. Along the lines of 'thanks for the lovely chat yesterday' etc. I got a phone call early the next morning from my Dad to say that she had chest pains in the afternoon on Sunday and was rushed to hospital. She had 3 blocked arteries though and there was nothing they could have done. I'm so happy I had those few little chats with her before she died. I feel like there was nothing that was left unsaid and that she left this world knowing I was safe and happy. I never thought I could miss her so much but I really do. I feel that she knew something bad was going to happen and made her peace before it did. Do you have a story about a relative who has passed? How do you feel now? Any regrets?
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16 Jan 11
You are lucky to have spent 26 of your life with your mother. In my case i only had 13 wonderful years with my parents. The last time I saw them was on my birthday February 18th. We all had a sumptuous lunch since I was in elementary school then. When they went home to our hometown, I wanted to go with them and told them that I don't want to stay in the City to study. I never failed to tell them I love you. 3 days after we received news that they were kidnapped and murdered. That's the very reason why i don't like celebrating my birthday coz it reminds me of what happened to them and the last time I saw them.
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4 Feb 11
Oh my. I am so so sorry that you have suffered this loss, and so soon in your life. I am glad to hear that you and she shared some long talks and recent visits. It's something that you will be able to hold onto your entire life. To know that the last times you were together, were very good times. Thank you for the reminder for us to clear up any unresolved situations with our loved ones.
16 Jan 11
I was touched by your story. I have not experienced something like that. Nonetheless, I know it is hard to be in such situation. Just the mere thought of it, my heart aches because of pain. I admit that there are times that I get annoyed with my mother beacause she is a nagger sometimes. She gets easily irritated with minute things that sometimes I want to shout back at her. However, i never did this because i love her despite the negative side she has. The story you shared made me reflect and realize that I should maximize my time with my mother.
16 Jan 11
Firstly, I am sorry about your Mom. My condolences to you and your family. Secondly, I am glad that you and your Mom had a great time together, those are really great moments to be cherished always. As for me, I don't chat much with my parents while they are alive as I didn't want to worry them about my problems but getting to see them everyday at home is all that matters to me. I miss them alot and I never want to forget them or the time that we had together. They are and will always be in my thoughts.
16 Jan 11
hi la_chique, There are alot of things going thru your mind. Someone so close to us and have left us without a word, often leave us wondering what is going on with them (mom/dad/others) in other life and either if they went to heaven or other places.If there is last words, if there is something they wanted to do...I guess it's very hard right now for you. You will often be in tears. Thinking of you have done enough for them. I did too. Over the time, you will feel better. Your mom is at better place. :)
16 Jan 11
I am sorry to hear that, I guess there is something inside you and you just need to vent it out. I can understand. I hope you would be able to manage well, it might seem like a simple thing, however when someone you are close to pass on it is not as easy as letting go. Some of the memories would rush back, it is not easy to handle. The only good thing is that you have a closure with your mom before this unfortunate event. I wish you well, if you need someone someone to talk to, you can also write to me. My grandmother just pass on last year, while she has live a long and wonderful life. However she did not live long enough to pass my sister's wedding and the holidays. That is why this holidays seem like something is missing. I know she is watching us from heaven.