Tell me who your friends are and I tell you who you are!

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
January 19, 2011 1:04am CST
Hi friends, Are you familiar with this phrase or quote? "Tell me who your friends are and I tell you who you are" Do you know what really mean this? Is this quote really true that when I tell you whose my circle of friends you can tell me who am I? Do somebody tell you about this? What is your first reaction? Share to us and see you around
12 responses
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Hello,Visavis. I'd interpret as the same as the old saying goes "Birds of the same feather flock together". We chose our friends by common things, like age, interests, associations, hobbies , to name a few. In short, we share our friendship with people who can best relate to us and what we do. However, there are some exceptions to the rules, as always. Have a great day.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Hello friends it seems the same in some cases, but I beleive in my topic more on character and action that influence to you or us... see you around
• India
19 Jan 11
Dear visavis, I am having a list of friends. But my best friend is Ankit will you like to tell me how you will analysis this.......And ya my name is arvind mangal. Will you have a comparison of our features or what will you... Ok just tell me our results.. Waiting
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Hello my friend it is not the one your thinking that I will know if you and your friend is compatible being friends. The point here is if your circle of friends are all goods and very polite for example for sure your character also is like that polite and good, on that case i know who you are. Additionally if your friends are bad and always bad influence for sure your the same, you got me.... see you around
• India
19 Jan 11
Ok ok sorry Now i understand. .And ya that is right.. Our thinking is somewhere depends on the circle we have.
@nishant5n (1067)
• India
19 Jan 11
Hi, Extremely right! It's a universal truth, friendship has a great effect on our life. Our nature, our character, our habits-good or bad, our philosophy, our ideology, etc. everything is influenced by our circle of friends. I have heard it as "Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell your future." --same meaning, as what we are doing today will make our future, and what we are doing today depends on our friends. Peer pressure has huge power. It works as a hidden power. Most people start smoking due to peer pressure. If I am around people who spend most of the money they earn, there are good chances that I will save nothing. If we want to achieve our goals in life, we have to critically examine our circle of friends. Friends make our habits. They are responsible for our character and personality. If my son is around friends who does not study well and keep doing other unwanted things, for sure my son is not going to pass his exams and will be counted in one of the bad boys in the school. (Though, I don't have son) If we want to do whatever we have planned for our life; we must carefully examine our society and its effects on us, because our future depends on our present, and our present is influenced by our friends. Have a great Life!
@ourfff (64)
• China
19 Jan 11
dear friend i don't quite agree with your opinion.As you say friend has a great effect on our life,it can change us a lot.But you say they are responsible for our character and personality,i don't agree with it. We are not child we can distinguish habits what is wrong or what is good for us.But each person always has its advantage and disadvantage.So there is no need to choice your friend.The only things is to find their merit whatever he is poor and rich
@franne32 (695)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
It means that your friends and you share similar type of characteristics that's why you get along; therefore, when someone sees that you're in a good circle of friends, you are automatically seen as a good person as well.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Yes unless you are the blackship among your friends, meaning depends on yourself sometimes but commonly like what your friends are same as you are because of their influence.. see you around
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
3 Feb 11
I heard about this..."You are the combined average of your 5 closest friends." What you allow in your life will influence you to some degree or another. By being careful of who we choose to interact with, we can change the direction which our life is taking. That is what I heard, I believe it to some extent, more then Hatley, less the some other responses. Because, when you hang around people that do nothing but drink and play video games when they are not at work, that is what you tend to do, but if you are more likely to hang around people that read books, and do constructive activities that is what you are more likely to do. Of course, you know what interests you, and you meet your friends while you are doing those things, so maybe that is what it is all about. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
hi, yes, i do, i am familiar with that phrases, and its true, your friends will be your reflections. so if your friends are bad or good, it will reflect on your attitude and movements.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jan 11
i visavis thats total malarkey as I have a lot of friends here fromn' all over the world and in real life too. I am not like most of them at all as they are outgoing extraverts and I am shy and an introvert so no that is a lovely lie and thats all it is.some may have friends who are like them but if so they chose them to be like themselves. this is another old saw that has not much truth to it at all.Somebody can tell me all sorts of things but I seldom believe all of it till I research for myself.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
20 Jan 11
There is another saying that's much like this. "Birds of a feather flock together." Much of this is based on socioeconomic factors. Rarely will you find the wealthy mingling with the poor. Age, gender, the location you live, how you earn a living, what you do for entertainment, whether you are married or not, and many other factors play into what kind of friendships you have.
@lizmik143 (138)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
What I heard from other people quoting this is that they think that if you have a certain circle of friends with a certain habit, and attitudes you also have the same. But I don't think this is the case. I have a circle of friends. But we have different views in life that sometimes we clash and we respect each other's way of thinking and doing things. What draws us together is the fact the we can enjoy each other's company.
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
It can be but not always true. When we join a group or befriend someone, we tend to choose those whom we think can agree on most things or with similar field of interest as in sports, hobbies, crafts, vices, character etc. You can be easily identified by the friends you join as the group is united with a common interest or goal. Thus, when the group is reputable, people tend to conclude you are as good as the others.
@shrijsr (577)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jan 11
Hi visavis, I'm pretty familiar with this quote, and i'm a lot experienced too about this! I usually see people come to an judgement about you keeping in mind the friends that you have. I don't personally think its right to think that way! We don't choose friends after researching completely about them . Its just that we happen to become friends and then after sometime, we see ourselves happy with their presence. We have nothing to do with what they are and how they are! Its a very wrong perception that lies in most of the people. As friends, we accept people as they are and we hardly expect them to change, so i think this should change because neither do i change for my friends nor do i ask them to change themselves for me! Everyone are different and being with someone doesn't make them any different or change them in any way! Cheers! Happy Mylotting! :)
• India
19 Jan 11
thanks for the info...I really appreciate it..