How do you justify is okay to gossip about other people?

United States
January 19, 2011 7:45pm CST
I just don't understand this concept of my co - workers. They seems don't like people gossip about them, or talk about them behind their backs. They will getting so irritated, and they would make a huge deal about that particular person is nosy, and he/she should be condemned for eternity something like that. While it is okay for them to gossip other people behind their backs. They will feel that is justifiable, and people shouldn't against that. What kind of concept is that? That is downright selfish. Have you seen some people like that?
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11 responses
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
hi, actually its not my type, do gossips outside with my friends, its a wasting of my time, and i am irritated with that. those are people who nothing and waste their time.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
People often don't see what their doing wrong, but react strongly when others do the same. Sad to say many people find it interesting to talk about others and I must say sometimes when people talk about others I listen, too. I try very hard not to ask further questions or comment.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
that is so true... well there is a saying: a thief hates a fellow thief. moral: a gossiper hates a fellow gossiper, especially if the fellow gossiper's topic is him/her...
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
20 Jan 11
i really dislike people who gossip about other people... i just think that it is not the right thing to do... especially if the gossip is not true... if you want to say something about a person, then please do it in front of the person and not behind him/her... it is just not fair to the person... that's what i always tell my friends... if they have something to say about me, please do it in front of me and not behind me... take care and have a nice day...
@kinjalk (192)
• United States
20 Jan 11
I've realized that no matter how good of a person you are, there is always someone who will be talking trash behind your back. Everyone is different, some like to talk behind people's back, other like to THINK that they are good ones and dont talk behind peoples back but do it w/o knowing it. People will talk thats the gift god has given them and they are definitely using it. That be for good or bad its going to happen. I guess it would be upto YOU how you want to deal with it. There is no justification about talking trash about anyone. Period.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Jan 11
I don't see any justification in gossiping about other people. If you want to talk about yourself, that is different. that is your choice. Talking about someone else is not your business and it can lead to so much misunderstanding.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
For me because of the bad thing in you all whole word is known that's the gossip is bad anyway.
• India
20 Jan 11
Its quite obvious that gossiping is a fishy thing to do.People say "Great minds discuss ideas, Cheap minds discuss people". But i say, great or cheap doest't matter,only the MIND matters. People with mental backwardness tend to gossip ill about others,they can be tolerant if others do the same to them if they have mental stability. But the sad case is that mental backwardness and instability can not ever stand together,which makes them grow mad if they are back-bitten.I say its a psychological illness. Some can be treated by providing a soft awareness provoking friendly talk. Unfortunately, many i saw are immature to identify that they are into this nasty thing.Its advisable to stay like a droplet on lotus leaf while moving with those kind of people.Look out for an opportunity to correct their mentality if you had a chance, but be careful, as you can then be back-bitten as an "Economic Psychiatrist".
@LaDeBoheme (1988)
• United States
20 Jan 11
It's human nature. There is no justifying it, it just is and always has been and always will be. Perhaps, it's our own insecurities that make us blast other people behind their backs. When I am confronted with a gossiping situation and I don't want to hear it or even care, I simply walk away.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
20 Jan 11
Well, there are lots of people like gossipping about others. Maybe they are too empty, maybe they can find pleasure in finding others' secrets or shortcomings or misfortune. And there are lots of people who like very much to know your family affairs, on the surface, they seem to care about you. But actually, it is not the truth. They will be glad when they find the aspects in which you lag behind them. I don't like this kind of people. But since there are so many kinds of people, some are good, some are bad, some are evils, and some are angles. So it is natural that all kinds of people exist in this world.
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Its inevitable, talking behind others back, especially if the company/organization is so big. Its becoming a hobby for some. Thus, if you let them affects you, then you're just making them more happy. If its not true, then just simply ignore them or whatever they say. Otherwise, it could just affect your performance at work.